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Our Last Special Guest- Loucinda McGary!

Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

MamaWriters are thrilled to have Loucinda McGary here as our last (for now) special guest!

Her second book, The Wild Irish Sea, releases next week from Sourcebooks, and look – there’s an Irish hero!  :-)

Please help us welcome Loucinda McGary.

My Mom Writes “Those” Kind of Books

My son was still a toddler when I made my first attempt at writing a novel. Lucky for me, he was always very good about sleeping through the night, so my earliest attempts at fiction writing happened after I put him down for the night. I’d rush into my bedroom and write until my husband (who worked swing shift at the time) arrived home shortly after midnight.

Alas, that early tome was destined to sleep forever with the dust bunnies under the bed, but I continued to write in fits and starts all though my son’s early years. He never really knew anything else and accepted that his mom ‘wrote stories’ as a simple fact of life. Then, when he was in high school I made my first attempt at writing a romance novel (it too lives with the dust bunnies and for good reason). By now, I was a divorced single mom with a less than stellar dating life, so my son thought it inexplicably weird that I would want to write about romance. But he shrugged it off, and like most teens, totally ignored me and my interests in anything.

When I finally sold my first novel, he was happy. But I think that was mainly because he’d seen all the frustrations and anger and tears I’d gone through with all the rejections that preceded the sale. My son has never read much fiction (he doesn’t really like chocolate either – GO FIGURE!), so he never asked to read any of my work, and that was fine with me. I did name a very minor character after him in my first published novel, The Wild Sight, and he did read the couple of pages on which that character appeared. He was actually pleased with his namesake character and pronounced the whole thing “cool.” But that’s as much of any of my books as he has ever read, which is probably just as well.

There are some things you just do not want to know or even think about when it comes to your parent, and sex is definitely at the top of this list! Of course my son knows there are sex scenes in my books, and he is not above giving me a bit of razzing over the bare chested men on my covers. But he does not want to read a sex scene knowing that his mother wrote it, and quite honestly, I don’t want him too. Can you say, “Awkward?” Or as he used to tell me when he was a teen, TMI (too much information)!

Recently my son decided to go back to college (my fingers are XXed this will help him find a J-O-B!), and is working toward a certificate in a field dominated by women. Most of his classmates are women as are his teachers, and yes, I know he considered this when he chose this course of study.

A couple of weeks ago, I joined three of my romance author friends in a book signing event at a local winery. The winery was actually about an hour’s drive from my house, so I asked my son if he would go with me, help me set up, and drive me home. And yes, I’m sure he considered the free wine tasting when he agreed. However, I was surprised on the drive over when he told me he had told one of his teachers and several of his classmates about the event. As I listened, he related how he told his teacher, “I’m helping my mom with a book signing this weekend.” He continued, “She asked, ‘Your mom wrote a book?’ and I told her you’d written several. Then she asked me what kind of books you write and I told her romantic suspense.” As I sat in stunned silence, he said, “I told her I’d bring her one of your book marks. Is that okay?”

It was all I could do not to shout and hug him! Instead, I controlled my exuberance and said, “Sure, and tell her I’ll gladly autograph a book for her.” Then, I very timidly asked, “She does realize I write ‘those’ kind of romance novels, doesn’t she?” He grinned and said, “Oh, I told her, and she can’t wait to read one.” He sounded as proud of me as I felt about him!

I shared my story for all you mom’s of young children who are trying to write and have a publishing career. Don’t worry that what you write might have a negative affect on your little ones. Some day, they will grow up, and the fact that they saw you working hard to achieve goals that were important to you will only be positive. It may take awhile, but trust me, someday they will be proud of you!

I’m giving away an autographed copy of my newest release, The Wild Irish Sea to one lucky commenter. Feel free to ask me questions about it!

Special Guest- USA Today Bestseller Sally MacKenzie, ‘Naked’ series author

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010

MamaWriters are completely thrilled to have Sally MacKenzie with us today. With a series of fabulously popular, fun Regencies, starting with The Naked Duke, Sally MacKenzie knows what it’s like to be a mom and a bestselling author. But not at the same time.

With some surprising lessons and wonderful insights, Sally talks with us about something we writers and mos don’t usually discuss: Maybe we can’t do it all, not at the same time.  And maybe that’s okay.

Please help us welcome Sally MacKenzie!

Hello to all the mama writers out there!  I have to like the blog’s motto: “Raising kids.  Writing romance.”   When Kris asked me to stop by, though, I wasn’t sure if she really wanted me. I told her I felt a bit of an imposter, but she said that was ok.

How am I an imposter? I am a wife and mother and I write romance, but I quit writing fiction for a number of years while I was raising my four sons.

Yep, I quit. Not right away.  At first I wrote while the baby of the year was napping or played nearby.  I bought a thick pad to muffle the sound of the typewriter.  (I shudder to admit that was pre-personal computer days.)

I finally did get a PC–an IBM XT for what now would be an outrageous price–when son #2 arrived, and then I switched to writing picture book texts.  The shorter length seemed more manageable and, truthfully, picture books were my main reading material at the time. I sent many of those out to publishers and got some positive rejections.  I even went through revisions with one house, but ultimately they decided my story was too much like another book already published and passed on it.

And then the youngest reached his final year of pre-school.  I decided to put writing aside to enjoy my last baby until he went off to full day kindergarten

Eight years and many carpool miles later….

I got back to writing when my oldest son was heading off to college.  I decided it was time to either follow my dream or give it up. I’d always loved Georgette Heyer’s books, and I’d read many–probably hundreds–of regencies while I was doing the baby thing, so I thought I’d try my hand at writing one.  The stars aligned, and The Naked Duke debuted in February 2005.  I’ve been writing Naked every since.

Do I regret my decision to stop for a while?  Yes…and no.

If I’d kept writing, maybe my career would now rival Norah Roberts’.

Wait.  Let me take a moment to savor that thought.

Or maybe not. Maybe I’d have burned out. Maybe I’d never have published. Maybe I’d be divorced. Maybe my kids would be in jail.

Or maybe not.

I don’t know what would have happened if I’d made a different decision.  When I look back, I have to remind myself how busy I was with kid duties.   My husband worked virtually 24-7.  His salary allowed me to stay home, but his hours meant I was mostly a single mom.  I wanted my sons to be in scouts and sports, to take piano lessons, to have lots of opportunities and experiences–and some of those activities needed me to step in to keep them going.

Would I recommend quitting?  No, unless you can walk away with no regrets.  If you can truly give writing up–or at least writing for publication–I’d say do it.  Publishing is a crazy business with no guarantees and absolutely no job security.  But if you’re cursed to be a writer (and I have to say some days it does feel like a curse), you probably don’t have a choice. The need to write will nag at you and eat at you until you finally give in.

The Naked Duke-Spanish Edition

If for some reason you can’t put aside a little time regularly to write fiction, you can do other things to hone your skills and prepare for the time when you can carve out fiction-writing time.  I always looked for volunteer jobs that involved writing.  I edited school and community newsletters: I wrote swim league guidance and high school fundraising programs and even a couple kid plays.  And my other volunteer positions–Cubmaster, swim team organizer, PTA president–helped me develop skills I find useful in the non-writing side of my writing business.

There’s definitely a risk in stopping.  On more than one occasion I found myself thinking about Langston Hughes’ poem, “A Dream Deferred.” And the longer I went without writing, the more impossible the dream seemed.  (Though I have to confess I feel overwhelmed every single time I face a blank computer screen whether at the start of a new novel or even the start of a new day’s writing session.)

I’m in awe of all my friends who are meeting deadlines and raising kids.  But we are each different with different demands on our time and energy and mental space.  Balancing everything is an ongoing challenge that I still haven’t mastered. But then life is a journey, not a race, right?

Okay, here’s the promo part–you didn’t think I just stopped by for the heck of it, did you?  If you’re looking for an escape from all the balancing, my next Naked book, The Naked Viscount, is out June 1–and earlier in some places.

The heroine is Jane Parker-Roth whom I met when I wrote The Naked Gentleman.  She pretty much grabbed me by the ears and demanded her own story.  The hero, Lord Motton, is beset by aunties. The story was inspired by one of Thomas Rowlandson’s pornographic prints that I saw in Vic Gatrell’s City of Laughter and features Pan statues with prodigious penises.

Did I happen to mention my youngest son’s college application essay was all about how embarrassing it is to have a mother who writes these books?  I did feel for him.  The Naked Duke came out when he was a sophomore at an all male Jesuit high school and I’d just finished a term as Parents Club co-chair.  But hey, don’t we parents exist to embarrass our children?

Special Guest – ‘SmartBitch’ Sarah Wendell on Reading, Writing, and Worrying: A Smart Bitch Mommy’s Ruminations

Wednesday, October 21st, 2009

Please help us welcome our special guest Sarah Wendell, co-blogger extraordinaire (Smart Bitchy, Trashy Books blog) and co-author of the book, BEYOND HEAVING BOSOMS, an irreverent, sarcastic but always affectionate look at romance novels.

Sarah is one helluva smart, funny, gracious, lady, so please help us welcome her!

SmartBitches iconReading, Writing, and Worrying: A Smart Bitch Mommy’s Ruminations

I’ve been thinking in circles about what to write here, because I make a constant and careful effort to keep my two children separate from my blog, my writing online, and anything having to do with my site.

For one thing, my children are very young. I have two little boys, one who is nearly 4 and one who is 2. I mention them from time to time by code names: Freebird and Baba O’Riley. A few people in the romance community have asked me regularly “How’s Freebird?” As much as I wish I could claim I’d named my kids after classic rock anthems that are so long in duration the dj can not only take a potty break but also smoke two cigarettes, alas, I do not have that level of cool.

I’ve joked that someday, one of my sons will bring me to Career Day and proclaim, ‘My mommy’s a BITCH!’ and then we’ll all get called to the principal’s office. Imagine the reaction when they fully understand what it means that “Mommy wrote a book” (Beyond Heaving Bosoms: the Smart Bitches Guide to Romance Novels). That could be big fun:  “Have you seen my mom’s Bosoms?” Or, better yet, “My mom can’t come to the phone right now – she’s signing Bosoms.”

But as I keep my online reviewing and writing separate from my children as much as possible, I sometimes worry if I’m keeping my dudes unneccessarily separate from the reason I write and review online: because I absolutely love to read.

Author Julia Spencer-Fleming once said to me in passing that having your children see you read for pleasure is as important as your reading to them. Knowing that reading is something you do for pleasure is part of building a curiosity about and a desire to read.

I had to think about my reading habits and wonder, since I read on an electronic digital reading device, whether they know I’m reading. It doesn’t look (or smell!) like a book….

And then I realized: I worry too much about dumb stuff. Does every mother do this? I mean, you bring two children into the world and suddenly you’re vexing yourself sideways about whether or not the pencils are thick enough for learning to write and your kids know you like to read and can there really be enough perfect proteins in their diet?

There’s no doubt that my children know that I love reading. There are books Ev.Er.Y.Where. From review copies that arrive in the mail (“Mommy! Wow! You get so many books! Can I have one?”) to the books I order from bookstores (“Mommy! What does ‘v-i-r-g-i-n’ spell?”) to the books I receive as gifts from readers who dare me to read this incredibly bizarre romance novel (“Mommy! What does ‘s-h-e-i-k-h’ spell?”), books are as much a part ofbeyondheavingbosoms my home as my children, my cats, and my husband.

Now that I think about it (and laugh at myself yet again for worrying about something that’s so absolutely doofy) the biggest mess they make in their rooms is when their books are off the shelves and on the floor. Toys are a distant second in the mess-o-meter. Baba O’Riley loves lift-the-flap books and Freebird adores books about animals, though his newest joy are the books he can read on his own. Reading before bed is one of their favorite times of the day. And more than once, Freebird has grabbed a pencil and a notebook so he can “write a book to read.”

Whenever I get too wrapped up in really silly, or not so silly worries, I read. Whenever I want to relax and be entertained and happy, I read. And when my sons want to have some quiet time with me or Hubby, they grab books and grab us and head for a chair.

So whether or not they are part of my online life or even aware of my site, they are definitely on the road to being readers like me. So I’ll have to find other things to worry about.

Do your children love the same things you do? Do they love books? And really, let’s be real here: do you worry about some absolutely doofy crap like I do? ADMIT IT. I’m not alone, right? RIGHT?!!

A Mama Writer Conversation from Special Guest Janet Mullany

Wednesday, September 9th, 2009

smjHi, thanks for having me here! I’m Janet Mullany and I write funny historical romance for Little Black Dress (UK). My latest, A Most Lamentable Comedy, doesn’t have US distribution but you can buy it from bookdepository.com which offers free shipping worldwide, and find out more about me at my website www.janetmullany.com.

 

When I was first invited to mamawriters.com, my first reaction was that I’m not really a writing mother, since my daughter is grown up and I started writing when she was a teenager. I have the greatest admiration for writers who have small children—I certainly couldn’t have done it. In fact I credit menopause with the urge to write (another way of reproducing, perish the thought?). But I thought I’d ask my daughter Alison about what it was like as the daughter of a writer, so we got on a chat together and here’s the result.

 

Janet: I think I started writing when you were about 15 or 16. How did that change things at home? Burned dinners? Benign neglect?

 

Alison: Oh, benign neglect, to be sure. More than usual. I don’t really remember much about it. You started off in short stories, I know, and you were so excited when you got stories accepted. I think I brought in one of the journals that had a story in it in to school to show off to my friends. And you started going to writers groups in the Border’s cafe. That was good times, really–it gave me an excuse to go chill out and read books for free. I don’t remember any great upsets in household life, though.

 

Janet: I remember quite a few burnt dinners.

 

Alison: None stick out in my memory, at least not in the beginning. Obviously they weren’t much more burnt that usual–no, the really spectacularly charred ones started when you started writing actual books. I did get quite cross, though, when you started writing romance–I used to have to go rescue meals  alison1

 

Janet: So short stories = fewer culinary disasters. Make a note of that, kids. Better living through short fiction.

 

Alison: Quite! Something they don’t tell you in critique groups, I think.

 

Janet: But you learned how to cook. Or at least how to not burn.

 

Alison: I got very good at catching things RIGHT before they caught on fire.

 

Janet: If it’s brown it’s cooking, if it’s black it’s done.

 

Alison: YOU KEEP SAYING THAT BUT IT IS NOT AT ALL TRUE. Although the one time the stove caught fire, that was all me. I don’t think it was something you forgot about. Although you could have been the one who forgot to clean out the broiler.

 

Janet: It’s such an easy thing to forget. Let’s talk about books. Which of mine have you read?

 

Alison: I’ve only read the one: The Rules of Gentility, which was excellent good times.

 

Janet: But you’ve pimped them all to others for which I’m very grateful, even if the S. E. X. business in them scares you off.

 

Alison: It really does.

 

Janet: What’s your friends’ reaction when you tell them your mother writes romance?

 

Alison: It’s not much of an issue, really. Mostly, their responses are in the lines of “oh, cool, okay,” and then I explain what kinds you write. I try to hedge around the “and she also writes porn!” parts. Sorry, “finely crafted erotica,” not porn.

 

Janet : As in, yo mama writes porn.

 

Alison: Yes. Yes she does. And she keeps bringing it up.

 

comedy1Janet: Excuse me, YOU brought it up this time.

 

Alison: You started it.

 

Janet: Let’s move on. You’ve always read a lot (we lived without TV for a time and fortunately lived near a library) and we’ve read books together and now we exchange books which I think is really cool. What do you read now? What are the two last great books you read?

 

Alison: Ooooooooh, difficult. I’m reading Great Expectations right now–I somehow managed to get through all my years of schooling without having read any Dickens, so my roommate shamed me into rectifying that situation; it’s AMAZING, oh man. And I just finished re-reading The Adventures of Kavalier and Clay by Michael Chabon.

 

Janet: I couldn’t get into Chabon but I love Great Expectations too.

 

Alison: No Chabon? Weirdo.

 

Janet: It’s a generational thing, I think. Any fave romance writers?

 

Alison: Oh, yes. I love Jennifer Crusie–Bet Me is one of my all-time favourite books. I like your friend Pam Rosenthal’s books; The Edge of Impropriety is amazing, I keep meaning to re-read it. I’m also a fan of Dierdre Martin’s hockey-player romance series.  I picked up a copy of Fair Play at a Walmart as kind of a joke, but really enjoyed it.

 

Janet: I like Deirdre Martin too (in fact you were the one who recommended her books to me), and I’m really indifferent to sports. Odd.

 

Alison: Me too. But the characters were good, and it was a nice change from the usual type of hero.

 

Janet: Any advice for the writing moms out there from the offsprings’ point of view?

 

Alison: Advice? None off the top of my head. I mostly tried to stay out of your way when you were writing.

  

Janet: Maybe I should ask you for advice for the children of writing moms.

 

Alison: Make sure the smoke detector has batteries in it? But seriously, I don’t know–to be honest, I’ve never given much thought to “how to manage” with your career. Because it is a career. And sometimes I was a bit annoyed at how it ate up “home” time. But that’s life and it makes you happy (most of the time). Besides, when you’re locked in your office, it means I can bring in the booze and hookers

 

Janet: And that’s why you had to leave home.

 

Alison: Yeah, once the pimps found out where we lived, it got a little hot….

 

Janet: Were those male or female hookers?

 

Alison: ………. (Why does it have to be an either/or?) But we digress. Anyway. Maybe it’s because you’ve always worked–both in AND out of the house–and so it didn’t seem so weird that you were suddenly working on novels.

 

Janet: I agree. And it all comes back to my parenting philosophy of benign neglect. Or benign neglect and much reading material to hand.

 

Thanks for having us visit, mamawriters!

 

Bio: Janet Mullany was raised in England by half of an amateur string quartet and now lives near Washington, DC. Persecuted from an early age for reading too long in the bathroom, she still loves books and is an avid and eclectic reader. She has worked as an archaeologist, classical music radio announcer, arts administrator, and for a small press. Visit her website at http://www.janetmullany.com.

Daddy Lust by Special Guest Christina Katz!

Tuesday, September 1st, 2009

writermamacoverToday MW welcomes a very special guest. Christina Katz, author of Writer Mama.

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Christina Katz is the author of Get Known Before the Book Deal, Use Your Personal Strengths to Grow an Author Platform (Writer’s Digest Books). She started her platform “for fun” seven years ago and ended up on “Good Morning America.” Christina teaches e-courses on platform development and writing nonfiction for publication. Her students are published in national magazines and land agents and book deals. Christina has been encouraging reluctant platform builders via her e-zines for five years, has written hundreds of articles for national, regional, and online publications, and is a monthly columnist for the Willamette Writer. A popular speaker at writing conferences, writing programs, libraries, and bookstores, she hosts the Northwest Author Series in Wilsonville, Oregon. She is also the author of Writer Mama, How to Raise a Writing Career Alongside Your Kids (Writer’s Digest Books).

Daddy Lust: I Just Love It When You…Read Bedtime Books So I Can Write!
By Christina Katz

Since Mamawriters is a community for moms who write romance, I feel emboldened to share how much I lust after my husband. Not only when he does the dishes, empties the litter box, or (sigh) vacuums. I especially (heart) him when he reads my daughter bedtime books.

Not only do daddies who read bedtime stories do something wonderful for their children, they give moms a much-needed pre-bedtime break to hop online and connect with other moms, read that blog feed, or write!

Okay, so none of those things are particularly sexy—unless you are reading or writing romance, of course—but a little mommy-alone time is the kind of thing that fills a writer mama’s heart with glee.

But back to the guy who relieves me every night. My husband, Jason, has been reading to our daughter, Samantha, for over seven years, since she was just squiggly thing in my belly.

I thought this gesture was so touching. Until guess whose voice she recognized first just after being born?

Mommy’s?         

Nope. (Although she gazed at me in a distinctly unwavering manner, like, “Yeah, that’s my mom. Mmm-hmm. Yup, I’d recognize her anywhere.”)

It was Daddy’s.

Of course, right? We do all the heavy sweating and who gets the glory?

Daddy.         get-known-before-the-book-d1

At her Kindergarten teacher’s conference, Samantha’s teacher mentioned what a good reader she was and that she could “sight read” almost all the kindergarten-level words.

And who gets all credit?

Mommy?

Uh-uh. Still Daddy.

But please don’t think I am complaining. Far from it! In fact, I am in my home office, typing away like a maniac on this guest post right now, as my husband reads our daughter Stuart Little by E.B. White in the other room.

I love chapter books!

But not as much as I love Daddy.

I once asked my husband for his top reading recommendations for younger kids. See what you think:

Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown
The Runaway Bunny by Margaret Wise Brown
The Big Red Barn by Margaret Wise Brown
Goodnight Gorilla by Peggy Rathmann
Dr. Suess’s ABC by Dr. Seuss
The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle
Green Eggs and Ham by Dr. Seuss
Olivia by Ian Falconer
Once Upon a Potty by Alona Frankel
Madeline by Ludwig Bemelmans
The Little House by Virginia Lee Burton
Abuela by Arthur Dorros
Franny B. Kranny, There’s a Bird in Your Hair by Harriet Lerner and Susan Goldhor

Now that our daughter is older, she and her dad favor variety in the form of stacks of books from the library rather than the tried and true favorites read over and over.

What are your child’s favorite books to hear aloud?

After you share a few with us, see if you can talk your significant other into picking up the nighttime book-reading duty. Tell him there is lust involved…and you’ll be back in just a little while to tell him all about it.

Christina

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