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Our Last Special Guest- Loucinda McGary!

Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

MamaWriters are thrilled to have Loucinda McGary here as our last (for now) special guest!

Her second book, The Wild Irish Sea, releases next week from Sourcebooks, and look – there’s an Irish hero!  :-)

Please help us welcome Loucinda McGary.

My Mom Writes “Those” Kind of Books

My son was still a toddler when I made my first attempt at writing a novel. Lucky for me, he was always very good about sleeping through the night, so my earliest attempts at fiction writing happened after I put him down for the night. I’d rush into my bedroom and write until my husband (who worked swing shift at the time) arrived home shortly after midnight.

Alas, that early tome was destined to sleep forever with the dust bunnies under the bed, but I continued to write in fits and starts all though my son’s early years. He never really knew anything else and accepted that his mom ‘wrote stories’ as a simple fact of life. Then, when he was in high school I made my first attempt at writing a romance novel (it too lives with the dust bunnies and for good reason). By now, I was a divorced single mom with a less than stellar dating life, so my son thought it inexplicably weird that I would want to write about romance. But he shrugged it off, and like most teens, totally ignored me and my interests in anything.

When I finally sold my first novel, he was happy. But I think that was mainly because he’d seen all the frustrations and anger and tears I’d gone through with all the rejections that preceded the sale. My son has never read much fiction (he doesn’t really like chocolate either – GO FIGURE!), so he never asked to read any of my work, and that was fine with me. I did name a very minor character after him in my first published novel, The Wild Sight, and he did read the couple of pages on which that character appeared. He was actually pleased with his namesake character and pronounced the whole thing “cool.” But that’s as much of any of my books as he has ever read, which is probably just as well.

There are some things you just do not want to know or even think about when it comes to your parent, and sex is definitely at the top of this list! Of course my son knows there are sex scenes in my books, and he is not above giving me a bit of razzing over the bare chested men on my covers. But he does not want to read a sex scene knowing that his mother wrote it, and quite honestly, I don’t want him too. Can you say, “Awkward?” Or as he used to tell me when he was a teen, TMI (too much information)!

Recently my son decided to go back to college (my fingers are XXed this will help him find a J-O-B!), and is working toward a certificate in a field dominated by women. Most of his classmates are women as are his teachers, and yes, I know he considered this when he chose this course of study.

A couple of weeks ago, I joined three of my romance author friends in a book signing event at a local winery. The winery was actually about an hour’s drive from my house, so I asked my son if he would go with me, help me set up, and drive me home. And yes, I’m sure he considered the free wine tasting when he agreed. However, I was surprised on the drive over when he told me he had told one of his teachers and several of his classmates about the event. As I listened, he related how he told his teacher, “I’m helping my mom with a book signing this weekend.” He continued, “She asked, ‘Your mom wrote a book?’ and I told her you’d written several. Then she asked me what kind of books you write and I told her romantic suspense.” As I sat in stunned silence, he said, “I told her I’d bring her one of your book marks. Is that okay?”

It was all I could do not to shout and hug him! Instead, I controlled my exuberance and said, “Sure, and tell her I’ll gladly autograph a book for her.” Then, I very timidly asked, “She does realize I write ‘those’ kind of romance novels, doesn’t she?” He grinned and said, “Oh, I told her, and she can’t wait to read one.” He sounded as proud of me as I felt about him!

I shared my story for all you mom’s of young children who are trying to write and have a publishing career. Don’t worry that what you write might have a negative affect on your little ones. Some day, they will grow up, and the fact that they saw you working hard to achieve goals that were important to you will only be positive. It may take awhile, but trust me, someday they will be proud of you!

I’m giving away an autographed copy of my newest release, The Wild Irish Sea to one lucky commenter. Feel free to ask me questions about it!

Special Guest – Historical Romance Author Carrie Lofty

Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010

MamaWriters are excited to have special guest Carrie Lofty with us today.  Her debut book WHAT A SCOUNDREL WANTS came out late 2008, her second SCOUNDREL’S KISS released January ’10, and her latest, SONG OF SEDUCTION, just released this month from Carina Press.

Please help us welcome Carrie Lofty!

A Mama Writer’s Summer

As a child I remember eagerly counting down the days until summer vacation. Now, however, as a stay-at-home mom and professional author, I approach the long summer months with little eagerness. The adjustments I must make to my writing schedule are tremendous.

Please don’t get me wrong. I love my elementary-aged daughters desperately. If there was a way for them to be at home with me during the summer while I maintained my school-year writing pace, I’d be a happy camper.

Oh…speaking of camp!

For the fist time my daughters’ school is offering all-day summer camp. They’re excited because it means they’ll be doing themed courses on cooking, nature, running a lemonade stand, science, music, and drama. They’ll also get to spend more time with friends, because I’m generally pretty lousy at remembering to schedule non-school-related playdates.

Me? I’m excited for obvious reasons. I’m knee-deep in writing my next release from Carina Press, PORTRAIT OF SEDUCTION. In July I’ll be starting two new books: SHAMELESS, the Australian-set sequel to my upcoming Victorian romance, FLAWLESS, and MIDNIGHT, the second in the hot-n-dirty “Dark Age Dawning” trilogy of sexy apocalyptic shifter romances I’m co-writing with Ann Aguirre under the name Ellen Connor.

Less obvious reasons include keeping all of us from becoming complacent slobs. Camp will give us a reason to get up and out of the house each morning. Plus, I really love the hour after they first return home from school. They get to blather on about their days while I get to be a mommy–a mommy content in having accomplished (most of) what I’d wanted to do during their absence. Then we can hit the beach or walk to the playground.

Everyone wins!

I’ve learned that it’s all about balance, as is the case with most mommy-related issues. A bit of one-on-one time, a little structured learning and play, a few lazy hours of TV or Wii–the makings of an ideal summer. Now, rather than dreading the daily struggle between my professional obligations and spending quality time with my girls, I get to do both. That’s a summer vacation I can look forward to!

What are you doing this summer? Do you experience the same push-pull between your kids and your writing ambitions? How do you cope?

Special Guest – NY Times & USA Today Bestselling Author Alyssa Day

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

MamaWriters as thrilled to have Alyssa Day with us today!  Her Warriors of Poseidon books have been hitting the lists left and right, and her  latest release, ATLANTIS REDEEMED, another sexy suspenseful paranormal released just last week.  Alyssa does it all with two kids, a Navy warrior husband, and a great number of Pugs.

Please help us welcome Alyssa Day!

Number Two Pencils

alesiahollidayToday I spent the morning at my daughter’s school proctoring one of those state-mandated standardized tests for a fifth-grade class.  At each desk, next to the dreaded text booklet, sat two freshly sharpened number two pencils.

It brought back a lot of memories.

I was one of those dorky, nerdy, (though we didn’t call it that then) brainy kids who loved the annual trip to the school supply school. Pencils and notebooks represented all of the stories as yet unwritten; the ideas as yet undreamed.  Still today, I am like a kid in a candy shop in the office supply store.  I probably own more post-it notes and markers and pens and pencils and notepads, in more different colors (ooh! Shiny!) than the law allows.  Ask most writers, from what my friends tell me, and you’ll find the same.  We’re all entranced with new journals, and pens, and shiny little objects to fill up our bookshelves and desk drawers.

They’re tools, of course, weapons in the writer’s arsenal, but they’re more than that.  They’re the freshly sharpened means to a magical end—the wonderful worlds and fully developed characters and emotionally resonant stories we create in the fascinating nooks and crannies of our writers’ brains.  But since (unfortunately, how cool would that be??) we can’t dump our brain against a computer screen and have the stories appear, we sharpen our pencils, fire up the laptop, pull out a notebook, and get to work.

Creating the impossible. Dreaming the dream.  Writing the stories that shape our novels.  The act of creation should be the joy, too, not simply the satisfaction of writing THE END.  The journey, to go a little Zen writer on you, should be the thing.  Just you and the blank page and that freshly sharpened pencil.

So there I was.  Surrounded by all of those wonderful young minds, focusing so intently, writing frantically and chewing on the eraser tips when book_redeemed_150they paused.  What was a writer to do?  I picked up my own pencil and began a new story.  I didn’t use these exact words, but mine meant the very same thing:

Once upon a time . . .

May all your endings be happy, and all your number two pencils be freshly sharpened.

Hugs,

Alyssa

Alyssa Day is the RITA-award winning and New York Times and USA Today bestselling author of the Warriors of Poseidon series about a race of warriors from the lost continent of Atlantis who fall into a world-bending kind of love with human women with very special talents.  Her newest release, ATLANTIS REDEEMED, is in stores now:   When 2,000 years of lost emotion hit you all at once—do you fall in love or die?

Please visit Alyssa online at http://www.alyssaday.com for excerpts, a free short story, video interviews, and more.  Thank you!!
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Special Guests – Debut Author Amanda Forester on “Don’t Lick the Cat” and other Mommyisms”

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

MamaWriters are excited to welcome debut author (and my agent-mate) Amanda Forester to the blog!  She’s sweet, funny, and writes medievals, so really, what’s not to like?

Amanda is chatting with us about the crazy things we say to our kids. I was laughing the whole time I read it, and nodding my head.  And shouting over my shoulder, “Now for the last time, kids: We take turns shoving teddy bears out the window!”

And she’s giving away books!  Free books!  Leave a comment and be entered to win a copy of her debut novel, The Highlander’s Sword.

Please help us welcome Amanda Forester.

“Don’t Lick the Cat,” and Other Mommyisms

amanda_foresterMy debut novel, THE HIGHLANDER’S SWORD is being released this week! Sorry, but that’s pretty much the first thing I’m saying to everyone this week… even if it’s only my husband asking me to pass the salt.

As you probably guessed from the ‘Highlander’ in the title, the book is a Scottish historical (adventure romance). One of the challenges I had in writing the book was trying to write the dialog. If my rugged Highlander speaks like a modern day stock broker, it takes the reader out of the historical setting and leaves the character flat. Too much Scottish brogue and the reader is confused trying to figure out what the character just said.

As I tried to find the right balance of Scottish flavor without jarring dialectical confusion, I found a lot of articles about walking that fine line between too much and not enough. Clearly this is a frequent struggle for writers to find just the right balance, and it got me thinking about my own dialect.

As a mother of two, I found that I speak my own sort of mommy dialect or “mommyisms” – those odd things you say to your kids. Have you ever said things to your kids you can’t believe just came out of your mouth? I have – way too often. Yet if an author was going to write my character, the challenge would be to get the flavor of this strange mommy tongue without writing dialog that sounds just too crazy to be real.

I remember watching the movie “Raising Arizona” and they had one line, “Take that diaper off your head, and put it back on your sister!” Pre-kids I thought it was a humorous exaggeration… until years later I found myself saying something similar to my own kids. If you wrote down some of the things I’ve actually said to my children, no one would believe it.

Take the time my daughter came to me, tears streaming down her face, saying that her brother had more candy than she did. Candy? I’m nervous now, wondering if my kids have found my secret stash. But no, there’s no real candy, the kids are arguing over PRETEND candy. Pretend candy? I gesture in the air and tell my daughter I’m giving her more candy. Now my highlanders-sword-cover-2010son starts to wail, saying she has more than he does. I swing my arms wildly in the air shouting, “Candy for everyone! Everyone gets lots of candy. Eat as much candy as you want!” I really hope my neighbors didn’t hear that one.

Many of my mommyisms are more correctional. For example, I must have said, “Don’t sit on your sister,” more times than I can count. This was followed by, “Don’t STAND on your sister,” when my son decided my baby girl made a perfect step stool. Poor baby girl crawled early, I think in part to avoid being a mistaken for a piece of furniture by her toddler brother.

Then there are things I never would have thought of having to reprimand. Commands like, “Don’t use the toilet… when your sister is already sitting on it!” And of course my personal favorite, “Don’t lick the cat.” I mean, really? Okay, maybe once, but wouldn’t one time be a correctional experience? Not my boy! Sad to say, but I found myself saying this more than once… [Sigh]

So how about you?

What crazy things have you found yourself saying to your kids? Please tell me I’m not alone in this!

Mommy’s Combat Boots Are Heavy – Writer and Soldier Jessica Scott

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

Today MamaWriters are incredibly pleased and proud to welcome romance writer, soldier, and mom Jessica Scott to the blog!

She’s recently back from serving in Iraq (where she actually worked on and submitted a manuscript–hel-LO).  She’s returning to her children, her husband (who also served–concurrent with her deployment) and all the trials of being a mom and a wife and a writer and a worker, with the added strain of restitching a family together again.

Let’s give a huge welcome to Jessica Scott!

Mommy’s Combat Boots are Heavy

jessie-scottFirst, I want to thank Kris Kennedy, not only for asking me to guest blog here today but also for having the courage to reach out and ask if I was okay. See her hubby works with military folks and she made it a point of reaching out and offering a shoulder if I needed one. So, Kris, a heartfelt thank you.

See Kris was right. Coming home from Iraq after not seeing my daughters for a year and finally wrapping my arms around them was just the beginning, not the end I thought it was.  It took me exactly three days for the food battles with my oldest to begin again. She refused to eat. Anything, other than peanut butter and jelly, scrambled eggs and cheese sticks. (There were a few other things but not many.) It took a week for the major tantrums to start.

And it took three weeks for me to reach the end of my rope. I can’t tell you how it feels to sit in a dark room and cry, wondering why I’d ever gone to Iraq, how I was going to be anything even close to resembling a good mom again or how I was even going to get through the next morning without one or both of the girls melting down. And I can’t describe the absolute guilt that I felt for even considering the thought that life was easier in Iraq.

But I buckled down and I asked for help and gradually, things have been getting better. My oldest is trying food, graduating from at least putting it in her mouth to swallowing 1 bite of everything. We’re making progress.

I’m making progress. I’ve found a new source of patience. I’ve stayed calmer and if I’m late for work, then I’m late for work.

The most difficult thing about being a soldier and a mommy is the constant war inside me. There shouldn’t be one. My kids should be and are my priority in life but I can’t help but feel like my duties are not being fulfilled as best they could if I was something other than who I am. But I’m not. I do the very best I can at my job as my company executive officer and my commander is amazing and understanding.

The hardest part about coming home from Iraq and resuming my mommy duties is the guilt that I have about needing time for myself. I don’t get it unless I’m up at 5 am, working out in my garage before the kids get up. Because once they’re up, I’m not off duty again until after 7 pm. There is no me time and I feel selfish and guilty that I even want it. I had a whole year of me time in Iraq (more or less). I shouldn’t need more and I damn sure shouldn’t want more. But I do. And I wrestle with that need.

But things are getting better. I find that keeping things simple makes all the difference in the world. So no matter how tired I am, I make lunch the night before. I have pancake mix in the fridge, ready to go for whatever the kids decide they want for breakfast.

And I sneak in writing whenever I can, which is usually on my lunch break sitting in my car on my laptop. We’re getting through and we’re finding what our new normal is. I’m learning what my normal is and I’m learning myself as mommy, XO, wife and writer all over again. I’m turning into someone else. I am not the same as I was before Iraq or during. I am changing and hopefully, learning and growing from my experiences, into a better mom, person and soldier.

If I can, a little shameless self promotion. I’m going to be part of the PBS POV blog Regarding War: Women on War. The link is http://www.pbs.org/pov/regardingwar/ and the Women on War segment should launch later this week. If you’re interested in some more of my thoughts on war and women, please feel free to stop by. The blog runs between now and April.

Thanks for having me here today! Tell me, what’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done? Or the toughest lesson you ever had to learn?

(P.S. From Kris: Jess’s website is: http://jessicascott.net/Welcome.html

She also runs Romance Roll Call, a military romance blog: http://romancerollcall.com/

And you can find her on Twitter at: http://twitter.com/JessicaScott09

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