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Mamas Focusing: Closing Up Shop

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

As most of you know, at the end of June 2010, MamaWriters logged their last blog, at least for now.

The blog had fabulous potential to support and touch many women, readers and writers alike, but its inherent specialness was also part of its fatality switch: all of us have jobs, kids, and a writing career we’re building.  None of us had the time to give the blog so it could fulfill its potential.

So, at least for now, we’re taking a respite.  Doing what we women/wives/moms/writers/readers tell each other to do all the time:

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Take care of yourself.

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Maybe you can do it all. But maybe not all at the same time.   And who knows, maybe you don’t even want to.

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Slow down.  The rush is in your mind.

Be flexible.

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Be willing to change.   The way it was isn’t the way it has to always be.

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Be willing to try.  If it’s not the right thing at the right time, you’ll know.

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Get offline.  Go write.  Go for a walk.  Go play.

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Write more.  Your Muse might be lonely.

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Hug your kids and grandkids and husbands and partners–and dogs–more.

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Focus on the things you chose, rather than the things thrust upon you.

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Aim for Exceptional.  Don’t settle for mediocrity.

Be willing to do a couple things fabulously well, rather than a hundred things passably well.

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Rest more.  Stop being willing to be exhausted by anything but your family and your calling.

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Your hair looks fine.  Find the fire in your belly.

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Have more fun.

Smell more roses.

Read more.

Write more.

Love more.

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So, that’s what we’ll be doing.

In the meantime . . . the community features, accessible via the sidebar, and the MamaWriters Yahoo group, are all still active, if you want to check them out.  Click through the blogs, and use the tags, and find great ideas and maybe some rejuvenation, knowing their moms and writers are out there, doing what you’re doing or what you’ve done before.

Click through to any of the blog entries for more information on that particular MamaWriter, and information on how to contact her via her website.  I speak for all of us when I say, we’d love to have you drop us an email, or say ‘hi’ on Twitter or Facebook!

And keep your ears open: one day we might be back, in some different form, because who knows what the future holds?

But mostly, a big thank-you to all of you, the mama-writer-readers who put love at the center of your lives.

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Kris Kennedy writes sexy, adventure-filled medieval romances.  Come by the website and sign-up for the newsletter or just drop a line saying Hi!  Her most recent release, THE IRISH WARRIOR, won RWA’s® prestigious Golden Heart® Award for Best Historical Romance in 2008.  It released June, 2010.  Read a sexy excerpt here! Her next book, DEFIANT, releases from Pocket Books May 2011.

Special Guest – Historical Romance Author Carrie Lofty

Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010

MamaWriters are excited to have special guest Carrie Lofty with us today.  Her debut book WHAT A SCOUNDREL WANTS came out late 2008, her second SCOUNDREL’S KISS released January ’10, and her latest, SONG OF SEDUCTION, just released this month from Carina Press.

Please help us welcome Carrie Lofty!

A Mama Writer’s Summer

As a child I remember eagerly counting down the days until summer vacation. Now, however, as a stay-at-home mom and professional author, I approach the long summer months with little eagerness. The adjustments I must make to my writing schedule are tremendous.

Please don’t get me wrong. I love my elementary-aged daughters desperately. If there was a way for them to be at home with me during the summer while I maintained my school-year writing pace, I’d be a happy camper.

Oh…speaking of camp!

For the fist time my daughters’ school is offering all-day summer camp. They’re excited because it means they’ll be doing themed courses on cooking, nature, running a lemonade stand, science, music, and drama. They’ll also get to spend more time with friends, because I’m generally pretty lousy at remembering to schedule non-school-related playdates.

Me? I’m excited for obvious reasons. I’m knee-deep in writing my next release from Carina Press, PORTRAIT OF SEDUCTION. In July I’ll be starting two new books: SHAMELESS, the Australian-set sequel to my upcoming Victorian romance, FLAWLESS, and MIDNIGHT, the second in the hot-n-dirty “Dark Age Dawning” trilogy of sexy apocalyptic shifter romances I’m co-writing with Ann Aguirre under the name Ellen Connor.

Less obvious reasons include keeping all of us from becoming complacent slobs. Camp will give us a reason to get up and out of the house each morning. Plus, I really love the hour after they first return home from school. They get to blather on about their days while I get to be a mommy–a mommy content in having accomplished (most of) what I’d wanted to do during their absence. Then we can hit the beach or walk to the playground.

Everyone wins!

I’ve learned that it’s all about balance, as is the case with most mommy-related issues. A bit of one-on-one time, a little structured learning and play, a few lazy hours of TV or Wii–the makings of an ideal summer. Now, rather than dreading the daily struggle between my professional obligations and spending quality time with my girls, I get to do both. That’s a summer vacation I can look forward to!

What are you doing this summer? Do you experience the same push-pull between your kids and your writing ambitions? How do you cope?

Just Another Lesson.

Friday, June 18th, 2010

As I sit down to think about writing my last blog for MamaWriters, my mind is a jumble of deadlines and things I need to do.  I mean, there’s always so much to do and so little of it stays done the way we want it to.    Some days it all seems a little overwhelming, doesn’t it?

There’s housework.  You clean the house and it’s all to be done over again the next day.  You wash the clothes just so your family can dirty them up again.  You shop for groceries and within a week, everything is gone [unless you have teenage boys.  Then you're looking at three days, tops]. 

There’s what goes into your writing career.  You find the perfect mix of personalities in a critique group and then life deals that group a hand of events that changes everything — from divorce to death to out of state  moves. 

 Finally, there’s your writing itself.  You struggle for months to write a book and then you have to revise what you’ve written.  And once you’ve done that, once you and your editor agree it’s exactly right, well, you have to start the process all over from the beginning and write another book!

That rare moment of  ‘done’ is gone and it’s time to move on.

The wonderful part is… moving on is a good thing!  It means you’ve accomplished something and now you get to accomplish something else.  And each of those accomplishments bring us new rewards and joys.

From the neverending housework I’ve learned that there are more important things than a clean house.  Yes, my fishtank CAN survive with only two good cleaning a year [directly after I meet my deadlines!].  Yes, grocery shopping can be a fun experience when it’s the only time this week [during the last month of deadline] I’ve been out of the house showered and dressed appropriately to be seen in public  [my apologies to any neighbors who've caught random glances of me in the unshowered/major slobbed-out state]. 

From the dissolution of my critique group I’ve learned that, once you find that special mix of personalities, no matter what happens, no matter how far away,  they’ll always be your friends and you are blessed for having them in your life.

From revising my books, I’ve learned to try to see things the way others see them instead of only looking out my own little window.  I’ve learned to look at my creative babies a little more objectively.  And I know the books have been made stronger as a result.

From starting the next book, I’ve learned that there’s always a whole, bright new world out there, just waiting for me to grab a piece of it for myself.  There is no limit on imagination or on dreams.

And from my time blogging with MamaWriters?

From this I learned there is a whole world of wonderfully talented and creative women [and men!] who share the same goals and dreams and challenges.  I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to get to know so many of you through this blog — so many I now think of as my friends.  It’s for this reason I’m pleased that the MamaWriters community will continue, even though the blog will stop for a while.

To all the MamaWriters whose paths I’ve crossed – may your children grown healthy and strong, may your writing flow [and sell!], and may all your dreams come true.  I’m truly honored to know you all!

~ Melissa

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MELISSA MAYHUE writes award-winning paranormal romance for Pocket Books, all set in an imaginary world of Faeries and Time Travel to the Highlands of  medieval Scotland. Her sixth book, A HIGHLANDER’S HOMECOMING, hit stores on January 26, 2010, with her seventh, HEALING THE HIGHLANDER slated for release March, 2011.

You can visit her on the web at: www.MelissaMayhue.com or come Twitter with her at www.Twitter.com/MelissaMayhue

 

 

 

 

 

 

Special Guest Author:  Judi Fennell – Hanging By My Fingertips

Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

Today I’d like us all to welcome special guest author, Judi Fennell to Mama Writers!   Judi writes fabulous mer-man/mermaid romance and has a new genie series coming out!

Hanging By My Fingertips

       Ah, the life of a romance author. Always something new! Who’s going to steal state secrets? Who’s going to announce their secret baby? Who’s going to end up in bed with whom—

And who’s going to forget the end of the year picnic that they were supposed to bake ninety-six cupcakes for and only remember when their child says, “See you at the party this afternoon, Mom!” on their way out the door?

A romance author who’s also a mom, that’s who.

No, I haven’t forgotten the cupcakes (mainly because said child is old enough to bake and decorate them, thank goodness), but my house looks like a mess, clothes are only washed at the last possible moment, the dogs desperately need to go to the groomers, the cat who just turned one is still eating kitten chow because I have no time to get to the supermarket, the end of the school year is here so the kids need to be picked up at various times because, for some reason, the school district decided that they DON’T have to provide transportation for early dismissals during exams, dinner is a big question mark, and I just had to explain to hubs how to drop a pre-paid priority mail envelope in the mailbox in front of the post office. (“Is it local?” he asked. “It doesn’t matter—it’s pre-paid, pre-addressed, and all ready to go. Just drop it in the big blue box!”)

THAT is the life of a romance author who’s a mom.

Honestly, I don’t know how I do it. People ask me that all the time and I honestly don’t know. Sometimes I just don’t do it (see note about the laundry getting done at the last possible minute. I HIGHLY advise investing in another few packs of underwear for each person.) Sometimes I’m amazed that anything gets done at all.

Take now, for instance. I’m on deadline at the end of the month. The story has been kicking my butt because, for whatever reason, it wanted to be written episodically. I wrote the scenes as they came to me; now I have to tie them all together with transitions, making sure they A) go together, B) show the character arcs, C) are believable, and D) contain what readers expect from my writing, namely the world-building, snarky secondary characters, humor, and romance. And I have to get it to my critique partner by the weekend so she can work her magic over the next week so I can have four or five days to finesse it all into shape to give to my editor.

Normally, this is, well, not exactly a piece of (cup)cake, but a well-oiled machine, let’s say. Unfortunately, there have been a few bumps along the road in the past few months and my well-oiled machine needs a tune-up.

So I took it to the “garage.” For this, read “my local bookstore.” We just converted my dining room into my office (it gets much more use this way), with French doors and wonderful new furniture. It’s great. I have big windows, bird feeders just outside, the animals like to hang out with me… great.

Except everyone keeps walking in. Hello? Mom is at work??? What doesn’t make sense to them? The doors are closed, the earphones are in… what are you doing here?

So, off I go to the bookstore where no one bothers me and I’m surrounded by proof that this time crunch management can be done with successful results, and away my fingers fly on the keyboard.

That’s one of my coping mechanisms when things get hairy. Others are figured out on the fly.

So it was quite easy for me when I tossed Logan Hardington, the hero of my latest release, Catch of a Lifetime, a six-year-old son he never knew he had and watched him try to stay afloat. It was sink or swim time for the new father and if mermaid princess, Angel Tritone, hadn’t show up, I don’t know that he would have been as successful as he ultimately was. Though of course, there were some definite bumps along their road as well: namely a hammerhead named A.C. Hammer, a sea monstress with mothering issues, and the fact that all Logan wanted in his life was Normal and a mermaid princess was as far from Normal as he could get. Trust me, I ask myself a LOT what Normal is these days.

If anyone has the answer, I’d greatly appreciate hearing it!

About The Author:

Judi Fennell has had her nose in a book and her head in some celestial realm all her life, including those early years when her mom would exhort her to “get outside!” instead of watching Bewitched or I Dream of Jeannie on television. So she did–right into Dad’s hammock with her Nancy Drew books.

These days she’s more likely to have her nose in her laptop and her head (and the rest of her body) at her favorite bookstore, but she’s still reading, whether it be her latest manuscript or friends’ books.

A three-time finalist in online contests, Judi has enjoyed the reader feedback she’s received and would love to hear what you think about her Mer series. Check out her website at www.JudiFennell.com for excerpts, reviews and fun pictures from reader and writer conferences, the chance to “dive in” to her stories, and a sneak preview for her upcoming Genie series.

 Fennell’s got detailed worldbuilding, creative secondary characters and an impressive use of mythology in this great read. While this title is part of a series, it works well as a stand-alone. Angel and Logan are both incredibly textured characters. -RT BookReview Magazine 4 Stars

“Judi Fennell has extraordinary imagination and has certainly used it in creating this exciting and colorful story. Her characters are wonderful.”  Fresh Fiction

“The best blend of both worlds. I… love each and every character in Catch of A Lifetime (and) found (it) well worth diving into.” Long And Short Reviews 4.5 Books 

To Query an Agent or an Editor… That is the Question

Friday, June 11th, 2010

This is my last blog, and I’m going to say for now.  I still have hopes that some time in the future, we can bring Mama Writers back to current.  But until then, the community will still be open and all past posts by both Mama Writers and our guests will be available for your viewing pleasure. 

I’ve really enjoyed my time with Mama Writers, and getting to “talk” with all the readers of our site—readers/writers/authors alike.  It’s always fun to meet new people, and this place that we’ve created has been especially wonderful, because we all have so much in common.

For my last post, I wanted to talk about something that I myself had struggled with for a long time.  The age old writer’s question:  Who do you submit to first: an agent or an editor?

I’d asked myself this same question for YEARS.  Now if you’re asking yourself this question, I think you also need to ask yourself where you see your career going.  (Ugh, did you notice I wrote some form of “you” six times in that last sentence? Lol—internal editor)

Do you want to be an e-pubbed author or a small press author?  Do you want to write and be published with a larger house?  Mass-market or trade paperback?  Hardcover?

Once you’ve established that answer, then I think you can work on the original question.  If you plan to work exclusively for an e-pub or small pub, I don’t think it is all that important to have an agent, and honestly, it would be hard to find one.  Why?  Agents don’t get paid until you do, and typically smaller houses will not give an advance, which means your agent would have to get paid a year or so down the road after you’ve signed a publishing contract and your book has been published and royalties start coming in—and even then it wouldn’t be that much, because you’re only getting quarterly (sometimes monthly) royalties.  Now, I’m not saying authors of small prints don’t make decent money, because they do.  But unless you’re established, it will be hard to find an agent who is willing to take you on for only small press publishing.  (Kudos to you and your agent if you found each other!)

Most authors published in traditional print houses have an agent, and their advice to you will be: get an agent.

I’d been hearing that particular piece of advice for years, and believe me I tried!  I wrote a book, and subbed it to over 20 agents who all politely (and some not so politely) rejected the book.  In the meantime, I kept writing, kept querying.  And I have to tell you, querying is my least favorite part of the whole writing process.  I’m a story teller.  I write, I create worlds, I don’t know how to sell myself.  Well, you learn real quick how to do that!  But just because you learn doesn’t mean you want to do it.

So, I queried to agents, kept getting rejected and started querying to editors at NY pubs.  While I received a lot of requests for fulls from the editors, and even an “almost contract” that fell through, I was still getting rejections.  I won’t say that I gave up, but I was close.  I remember sending an email to a few of my mama writers (eggplants), saying I was just going to throw my manuscript in the trash.  But that’s what friends are for, and they encouraged me to keep on trucking, and I’m glad I did.

Recently I found an agent (or the other way around really…) who is a perfect fit for me and she offered me a contract.  Imagine my relief when I sent her my finished book and SHE sent it out to editors!  It was the best feeling in the world, now I can concentrate on doing what I do best: writing. 

As for still having to sell myself, sure if my books are picked up I’ll have to do promo, but promoting your finished work is so much different than querying to an agent/editor.  When you’re promoting your work, you already know that people like it—you’ve gotten a contract right?  There will be critics who don’t like your work, but for as many that don’t there will be two or more who do!

So in this entire jumbled mess of a post… my advice?  If you want to be published with a big pub—or NY pub, as they call it—get an agent.  Make a tiered list of about 10 agents on each:  A List, B List, C List, D List.  Send out queries to the A list, wait until you’ve received answers from everyone on that list before moving to the next, and so on. Do your research—the one thing agents will tell you they despise the most, is when they receive a generic query from someone who obviously didn’t bother to find out more about their company.  They won’t pick you up if they don’t “feel” you.

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 Eliza Knight is the multi-published author of sizzling historical romance and erotic romance. While not reading, writing or researching for her latest book, she chases after her three children. In her spare time (if there is such a thing…) she likes daydreaming, wine-tasting, traveling, hiking, staring at the stars, watching movies, shopping and visiting with family and friends. She lives atop a small mountain, and enjoys cold winter nights when she can curl up in front of a roaring fire with her own knight in shining armor.

Take if Off, Warrior, available now from Ellora’s Cave! 

 *Warning: this is an erotic romance, and not intended for those under the age of 18.*

Sixteenth-century Highland laird Camden MacLeod wakes up in the modern world. Confused with his surroundings, he haphazardly throws on his kilt and goes in search of whoever has played such a foul trick on him. What he finds instead is beyond tempting…

Valerie is thoroughly exploring the medieval Scottish castle she’s rented for her best friend’s bachelorette party. Not only does an oddly shaped stone in tower catch her fancy—it somehow brings her dream man to life.

Review Diana of Naughty Editions: “A thoroughly delightful time-travel romance filled with deliciously sexy romps and quirky humor. Ms. Knight’s hunky Scottish warrior, Camden, tickles the funny bone with amusing observations of modern day garments and amenities…The bond between Camden and Valerie was magical and nicely portrayed in their tender yet deeply erotic love scenes. This is a story worth a read and than a re-read.”

Read an excerpt here:  http://www.jasminejade.com/pm-8417-642-take-it-off-warrior.aspx

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