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Mamas Focusing: Closing Up Shop

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

As most of you know, at the end of June 2010, MamaWriters logged their last blog, at least for now.

The blog had fabulous potential to support and touch many women, readers and writers alike, but its inherent specialness was also part of its fatality switch: all of us have jobs, kids, and a writing career we’re building.  None of us had the time to give the blog so it could fulfill its potential.

So, at least for now, we’re taking a respite.  Doing what we women/wives/moms/writers/readers tell each other to do all the time:

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Take care of yourself.

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Maybe you can do it all. But maybe not all at the same time.   And who knows, maybe you don’t even want to.

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Slow down.  The rush is in your mind.

Be flexible.

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Be willing to change.   The way it was isn’t the way it has to always be.

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Be willing to try.  If it’s not the right thing at the right time, you’ll know.

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Get offline.  Go write.  Go for a walk.  Go play.

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Write more.  Your Muse might be lonely.

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Hug your kids and grandkids and husbands and partners–and dogs–more.

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Focus on the things you chose, rather than the things thrust upon you.

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Aim for Exceptional.  Don’t settle for mediocrity.

Be willing to do a couple things fabulously well, rather than a hundred things passably well.

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Rest more.  Stop being willing to be exhausted by anything but your family and your calling.

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Your hair looks fine.  Find the fire in your belly.

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Have more fun.

Smell more roses.

Read more.

Write more.

Love more.

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So, that’s what we’ll be doing.

In the meantime . . . the community features, accessible via the sidebar, and the MamaWriters Yahoo group, are all still active, if you want to check them out.  Click through the blogs, and use the tags, and find great ideas and maybe some rejuvenation, knowing their moms and writers are out there, doing what you’re doing or what you’ve done before.

Click through to any of the blog entries for more information on that particular MamaWriter, and information on how to contact her via her website.  I speak for all of us when I say, we’d love to have you drop us an email, or say ‘hi’ on Twitter or Facebook!

And keep your ears open: one day we might be back, in some different form, because who knows what the future holds?

But mostly, a big thank-you to all of you, the mama-writer-readers who put love at the center of your lives.

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Kris Kennedy writes sexy, adventure-filled medieval romances.  Come by the website and sign-up for the newsletter or just drop a line saying Hi!  Her most recent release, THE IRISH WARRIOR, won RWA’s® prestigious Golden Heart® Award for Best Historical Romance in 2008.  It released June, 2010.  Read a sexy excerpt here! Her next book, DEFIANT, releases from Pocket Books May 2011.

What If The Muse Is REALLY Gone This Time? (Or, The Best Creativity Video Ever)

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Nothing can stop him . . .         June, 2010

Nothing can stop him . . . June, 2010

I’m currently in the pits of hell.

I mean, I’m stuck in my manuscript.  And have been.  For months.

Fortunately, I don’t have the luxury to loll about in my stuckness, as I have a deadline.  But I am still stuck, even if I’m determined.

I feel as though I’ve tried two dozen different strategies.  I’ve re-read my favorite books.  I’ve re-read craft books.  I’ve Googled “writers block” and ‘inspiration” and “fiction, raising the stakes.”  I’ve written cold, hard, un-pretty words, using Dr. Wicked Writer or Die.  I’ve plotted until my brain hurts, then gone to the other end of the continuum and written nonsense words without forethought.  I’ve upped my hero’s stakes, widened my heroine’s arc, intersected secondary characters’ goals, and made the clock tick down faster.  And I’m still stuck.

I’m sure some of it is working, but like a medication: the effects may take some time to show.  And if you stop too soon, well, you’ll never notice them at all.  But which do I keep doing, I wonder.

And of course, the worst wondering of it is: Have I lost it?  Is She (i.e. the Muse) gone forever?  Am I dried up, washed out, done in, dried up?  Have I tapped the well, smoked the pipe, struck out, gone the last mile, or otherwise lost lost what matters to my writing?

Have you ever felt like this?  It’s a really scary place.

Experience helps in grappling with this beast, though, as I know I’ve felt this way before.   There’s been times I was certain ‘it’ was gone.  I knew I’d never have another good idea, and that the best I could do was say “Boy Meets Girl, Girl Runs Screaming” and call it good.

But, no matter how badly I write, no matter how sad my ideas are, I know the cure: I keep writing.   As long as I keep showing up, I always get in again.

Skeptical?  Check this out:  (It’s 20 minutes, but so worth it.  Still, though, wait until you have 20 to spare.)

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What kinds of things do you do when you’re stuck with your writing?  And how do you keep the faith?

Kris Kennedy writes sexy, adventure-filled medieval romances for Kensington and Pocket Books.  Her debut book,THE CONQUEROR, came out May ‘09.  Her second, THE IRISH WARRIOR, winner of the 2008 Golden Heart Award for Best Historical Romance, releases June ‘10.  She loves hearing from readers–stop by her website , sign up for her newsletter , and say Hi!

Special Guest Historical Romance Author Beverly Kendall

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

MamaWriters are excited to have debut author Beverly Kendall here today!  Her debut romance, Sinful Surrender, released in January, and she also runs the new and highly-frequented blog and linked forum community The Season, sites designed for readers of historical romance.  Oh, and she’s also a mom.  :-)

Please help us welcome Beverly Kendall!

sinful surrender coverMy World As I Knew It

I could never have imagined that my life would change so utterly now that my son comes home at 2:30pm.


For years I had my days completely planned. My son went off to school in the morning and I picked him up from after school care at 5:30pm, right after work. It was a lovely routine. So lovely in fact, I took very little notice of how lucky I was. I worked from home, so I was able to get a lot of things done that I couldn’t if I had to hike to the office everyday (I worked 40+ miles away).


Then with the down economy, I was laid off. It made no sense to keep my son in after school care any longer, so out he went. The thing is I was busier than ever. I might no longer have a paying full-time job, but now in its place I added job hunting, writing, and web site mistress to the pool. And now this was consuming more than any full-time job ever had. I needed at least 6 additional hours in the day to get everything done. This all would have been manageable had my son started coming home 3 hours earlier than I was accustomed to.


Boy, who knew (though, seriously, I should have) what a difference those 3 hours would make to my day. What has suffered? Well housekeeping for sure. But it took a hit when I started writing, which was back in November 2006. The serious crime here is my writing started to suffer. I wasn’t get near the daily word count I would have liked and needed to get done.


I can’t write with the television on—especially if it’s a kids’ show. I can’t write if my son is tugging at any of my body parts. I can’t write if there are children (my son and nephew) chasing each other around the house. And I can’t write if my son is upstairs…and the place is terribly quiet—too quiet—because that means there’s trouble afoot.


What I’ve discovered is I have to write through, in, and around the madness, the noise, and the too quiet. I now force myself into that seat each day and tell myself, ‘You can’t get out of this chair until there are xxx number of words on the screen.’ I had to forcibly remove myself from Twitter, Facebook, and all the other—what can be—time-consuming sites and blogs. I had to focus like never before. This was the net result of my son coming home at 2:30.


What about you? What are some of the things that distract you from writing and how do you cope?

How Do You Motivate Yourself?

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

Today, I’m going to set aside the Mama part of myself and just talk writing… because, truly I need a good kick in the rear and I can’t think of a better place to get it than the MamaWriters!  We all know how to move, motivate and sometimes force our kids into action, into doing what needs to be done..into finishing their homework, cleaning their room, or heck just even saying thank you at times.  But what about moving, motivating and forcing ourselves?

And I’m not talking about housework, or cooking (because, really nothing would motivate me to do that other than a starving child. lol).  I’m talking about motivating yourself and forcing yourself to write when it’s not going as you hoped, when you aren’t certain about what you’re writing, or when your muse seemed to have left on vacation without telling you (Oh Fred! Where are you?)?   Because Mamas, that’s where I am.

I’m pretty sure Fred, my muse, has left for Tahiti.  My characters are suspiciously quiet and not giving me much to work with.   And though I have gotten some pages done in the last weeks, it hasn’t been many and I’m not really sure about what I DID get.

I know WHY I’m so verklempt (I love that word) right now. It’s not a matter of figuring out the reasons.  It’s a matter of forcing myself to write past them… to write bad pages, I guess.  Just to write something.

It’s not a problem to tell my three year old that he has to help Mama clean up his room before he can watch an episode of Handy Manny, but it is apparently a problem to kick my own you-know-what and write past the bad stuff.  Or peraps just give myself permission to write the bad stuff.  As the grand dame of romance Nora Roberts says, “You can’t fix a blank page.”

So let’s have it…give me your best Mama impressions… If I were your child, what would you say to me? :)

Special Guest Gina Badalaty: Five Minute Editing

Friday, October 16th, 2009

Mamas, give a warm welcome to our guest blogger today, fellow mama and writer Gina Badalaty:

GINA:

After years of procrastination, last fall I decided to jump in to write a novel.  A few years back, I wrote a manuscript while participating in NANOWRIMO.  For the past 10 or 12 months, I’ve been world-building, revising and developing sub-plots. I’m surprised by how long it actually takes to produce a workable manuscript.

I had hoped to be finished by now, but I’m not done with my current revision and the last few weeks have been insane.  My oldest daughter just entered first grade and “homework” is now added to my list of chores.  Her schedule includes an early bus, daily readings, and assignments due twice a week.  She is learning-disabled which means that homework is a pretty time consuming task, but one I feel is important.

On top of this, life already was busy.  My four year old has been throwing tantrums and refuses to dress for preschool.  Over the summer, I took on extra contract work to help with bills.  Since I work from home, I’m usually the one who makes dinner, does the laundry and keeps track of all the little things.

That leaves little time for both writing and sleep, but I’m lucky to have an accountability partner for writing.  She sent me goals as soon as school started.  Yikes, I thought, how on earth am I going to keep up?  By mid-September, I had not looked at my manuscripts in weeks, but when could I find time for writing goals?

So, I did something off the wall: I committed to 5 minutes of editing per day.

Let me clarify: that is five minutes of revising after I’ve opened the document, found my notes, and looked up what I need to keep moving on.  In keeping this commitment I’ve discovered some benefits:

1. My editing time almost always goes past 5 minutes.  If I choose to work at an open-ended point in time, like the beginning of my lunch hour or before bed, it easily leads to 10 or 20 minutes of good writing.  The pages start to fly by.

    2. There’s no excuse for not finding time.  Five minutes is too short a time period to avoid without guilt and I can pretty much write whenever I think of it.

      3. Five minutes a day keeps me engaged with the story daily.  Setting a longer time goal or, worse yet, page goals (i.e., edit 3 pages a day) encourages procrastination.  By keeping up every day, I never lose the thread of my plot.

        4. If I’ve only got 5 minutes, I have to make merciless decisions.  There’s no time for long internal debates about keeping it in or cutting it out.  If I’m unsure, it goes.

          At some point, I will have to find a long block of time to sit with my novel and digest it as a whole.  Five minute editing is only a temporary fix until some of my projects end and the holidays arrive, but in the mean time, I don’t have to feel guilty.  I’m working on my novel every day, and every day that work is moving forward.  Good for me!

          Gina Badalaty

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