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Time to Fold That Security Blanket!

Thursday, May 13th, 2010

Do you have a security blanket?

What's YOUR Security Blanket...

My daughters both had them as babies. Their “B’s” we called them—shiny, pink, and silky on one side, the other, soft, and velvety. Every day, they dragged them around the house. Every night, they snuggled them in.

One time, on our way to San Diego, we discovered we’d left my oldest daughter’s “B” at home—she hadn’t noticed yet, but it was only a matter of time. I distracted her with games of peekaboo until we reached the nearest Target, which had one left in stock. The “clean B” as it was dubbed, served as a logical substitute. We realized at that point that it didn’t matter if it was THE “B” as long as it looked familiar. That was enough.

Therefore, when DD#2 was born, she was given her own “B”—this one with raised velvety dots, and the silky side. DD#2 had “Bumpy B” and nothing works for her better than her own. We bought three.

Even still, when they get sick, or a bad owie, nothing can soothe away the tears so much as the “B.”

But they don’t need them anymore. Not really.

I’ve been home with them for months, writing, parenting, and cleaning out closets, drawers, trunks, and so on. While doing so, I stumbled across my trunk of forgotten yellow notepads, type written pages, and early story starts. This was my proving ground. Where I pounded out every cliché in the book, worked out predictable plots, and hokey characters. I practiced story, dialog, setting, narrative, each one drowning in backstory, and breaking pretty near every rule in the book.

They’re my security blanket.

There might be smidgens of salvageable story in there somewhere. But, probably not. Will I ever get rid of them? No. Probably not.

My husband doesn’t understand, but that doesn’t really matter. They don’t take up much room, all neatly stacked, in the trunk under my printer where my now MUCH more polished manuscripts jet out on a fairly regular basis.

They’re proof of my path. And, my safety net if the stories dry up.

Do you have a security blanket?

A manuscript that you lovingly rework?

Even more, are you willing to step away from that tired, cliché, reworked to death story, and break new ground?

~Ashley

Going Social

Friday, April 23rd, 2010

My daughters are playdate junkies.

And, I’ve discovered, I’m a playdate junkie as well.

Phew.

I actually feel better for just having said that. With the ridiculous amount of rain Southern California has had lately, we’ve spent a GREAT deal of time inside. We’ve completed any number of crafts, made paper, strung beads, created paper collages, and baked decadent desserts. And that was the first month of the new year. On the blissfully beautiful day, we’ve made the playhouse into a wild forest with cuttings from the palm trees and birds of paradise.

Now, I’m an active member in our chapter of the Mom’s Club–and this means the girls’ social calendar has gone through the roof. We’re never short somewhere to play, someone to play with. Yes, there’s a standing date every other week, but in between times we have friends lined up to share afternoons with–and it’s both exciting and EXHAUSTING.

It makes me pause, thinking of how much time I spend online, chatting on Twitter, discussing things in Blog communities or on FaceBook vs. in the real world.

Before I published my first novel, FaceBook was something other people did. Twitter seemed a ridiculous waste of time. And blogs? Who had time to read them?

Now, I am in the mode of carefully blending my Friend and Family base with my Fans. FANS. FaceBook actually JUST changed this to people who LIKE you or what you do–less self aggrandizing, which I suppose is a good thing.

Twenty *gulp* years ago, when I first took a stab at completing a novel (my genre-hopping-time-travel-romance-adventure-historical-fiction masterpiece that sits in my desk drawer–And will STAY there) I used to laugh, saying I chose to be an author because I didn’t want to be famous.

Now, I’m reading articles that authors need to treat themselves like celebrities. We see it, with our rock star friends Roxanne St. Claire, Tessa Dare, and MANY others. They’re out there, making things happen. Chatting, and disseminating their wisdom with newbie authors.

Perhaps the playdates we go on are our proving grounds. Chatting with people we know and love about our stories, getting our feet wet before stepping into the great unknown of Social Networking for Authors. MamaWriters is also instrumental for helping us not forget the real reasons we’re doing this.

For our kids.

I even saw DD#1 point to my shelf of books upstairs in the office, telling her friends (over on playdate) that those are her college fund. Out of the mouths of babes…

With that in mind, what’s the best piece of advice YOU’VE been given about Going Social to market yourself, your brand, or your books?

Categories : Ashley Ludwig, Marketing
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The Light at the End of the Tunnel – Welcome Silver James

Friday, April 9th, 2010

A special treat to MamaWriters today – Silver James – who many of us know and love. Please, read and comment, as Silver is offering a lucky winner with a free book! Thanks, and take it away, Silver!

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There is one, you know, for all of you with little ones clamoring around the house. There comes a time when there are no more grubby little hands mauling just-printed pages meant for submissions. There is life after nap times and play dates. Writing time is more plentiful once sporting events, driving lessons, and shopping for prom dresses are no more. I know this because my “little one” isn’t any more. She’s a young woman, pursuing her dreams of an advanced degree in Museum Studies. She’s also planning her wedding for next year. Will it be romantic? Of course! But not because I’m planning it. I’m just the checkbook. <wink> Just because I write romances and guarantee my characters their Happy Ever After doesn’t mean she believes I’m a wedding planner. Trust me, I’m not!

Even though The Only…yes, that’s what we call her, and it’s usually meant to be a compliment. “D’huh?” you ask. Depending on the events of the day, there are two schools of explanation on why we only had one child. On a good day, I’ve been known to tell people with pride, “When you get perfection the first time out, you quit while you’re ahead.” Then there are the days the answer was far different. “Yes, we only have one…Why?…Have you ever talked to a family with a passel of kids and they invariably say of the last one, had this one been born first, s/he would be an only child? Well, she’s an only child!” FYI, I’m a firm believer in giving The Only something to talk about when she goes into therapy. It’s in the parental contract. As a mom, my duty is to drive my daughter nuts. Just sayin’! (Don’t even get me started on the things her father pulled when she was young. Can you say gullible?) Despite my best efforts, she’s grown into a lovely young woman, full of confidence, abilities, and compassion. Though we gave her a hard time, she still covered for me. I remember an incident from grade school when she had friends over to play. My characters weren’t cooperating at all and I was berating them rather soundly. Out loud.

“Uhm…who’s your mom talking to?” one friend asked.

The Only rolled her eyes. “The people who live in her head.” I stopped writing, listening to the nervous titters echoing in the next room.  “It’s okay, though. She’s not crazy. Those are the characters in her book. Dad and I don’t panic unless they talk back.”

For some strange reason, those girls never came back to our house to play….hrmmmm…

Now that I’m published and my debut novel, FAERIE FATE, is out, The Only is one of my biggest supporters and PR people. She’s handed out postcards all over her college campus, lining up friends and professors who want to read (and buy!) my book. I remember a time when she ignored the “icky” parts of my manuscripts. Then I introduced her to Sherrilyn Kenyon’s Darkhunters. All the sudden, my TBR shelf was empty. Barren. Bereft. Every book I wanted to read had suddenly disappeared into the Black Hole (aka her room). I’m STILL finding some of those paperbacks in there all these years later. Why is it she’ll read the sexy bits written by someone else but not me? She just blushes, ahems, and changes the subject. I guess it all goes back to that whole “My parents don’t do that!” syndrome. I had that particular blinder on where my parents were concerned, too. Isn’t it funny that in our role as parent or child, we never want to contemplate the sexuality of the other? As The Only would say, “Ewwwwww!”

Oh dear! I veered a bit off topic there. Sorry ’bout that. Suffice it to say the little ones eventually grow up, you will have “that” conversation with them, despite the “ewww’s” on both sides, and then life returns to normal. And so does writing. Time becomes your own once again. The house no longer echoes with joyous or angry shouts—see there is an advantage to only one child: no sibling rivalry (unless you count the dogs ;) ). The light at the end of the tunnel comes when you let your child go, knowing s/he’s ready to take on the world. Enjoy them while they’re small, but look forward to them when they make it to adulthood. I’ve discovered The Only is pretty darn cool. And a heckava PR agent. :D

If you could go back, do it over again, would you take a chance to find true love? What if you had no choice?

On her fiftieth birthday, the faerie catapult Rebecca Miller a thousand years into the past to find her happily ever after with Ciaran MacDermot, Chief of Clann MacDermot and the last Fenian warrior in his line. In the twenty-first century, Becca is old enough to be Ciaran’s mother. In the tenth, she’s young enough to be his bride.

The fae forgot to mention one slight stipulation. The lovers must be bound before the Festival of Light, or Becca will forever disappear into Tir Nan Óg, the faerie Land of the Ever Young. Will they discover the binding words before time runs out and they’re torn apart forever? Or will their eternal love defeat their Faerie Fate?

Without the words, history is doomed to repeat itself.

Excerpt from FAERIE FATE:

The little clock she’d received as a present on her twenty-fifth birthday whirred and chimed the time. One small, tinkling chime. Two. Finally, twelve in all. Midnight between March twentieth and March twenty-first. The vernal equinox. The day when light and dark, good and evil, love and hate all balanced on the finely tuned axis of mother earth.

Voices, strange with lilting accents, whispered somewhere in the darkness of Becca’s dream.
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“She sleeps,” said a soft voice, feminine, one Becca didn’t recognize.
“Aye.” The second voice was deep, male, arrogant.
“Will she remember?”
“Nay, she’ll not.”
“How then will she know what to do?”
“She’ll know.” He sounded confident.
“What of him?”
“Aye, he’ll definitely know now. He should have known the last time, but she was too afraid, and he was too full of himself.”
“What is so different this time?” She was skeptical.
“She was young then, not matched well to him. Now, she’s no young soul. She’s had all those lives without him, the lonely nights, and the ache in her heart for all time. This time, she has courage born in the fires of suffering. She’ll know not to run from him, but to him.”
“You’re sure with the knowing of it this time?”
“Aye.”
“And, if it doesn’t work?”
“Ciaran dies. Again.”
A sharp intake of breath came from the woman. “That cannot happen. Too much went wrong the first time.”

FAERIE FATE, available in print and ebook from THE WILD ROSE PRESS, Amazon, and Barnes and Noble.

I want to thank Ashley and all the Mama Writers for having me here today. Inquiring minds (mine!) want to know if your kids have ever explained your writing to a friend, and what they said. Or if you have a question, just ask! One random commenter will receive their choice of the print or ebook edition of FAERIE FATE.

BIO: My imagination has always run rampant. As a published author, I get to share the stories created there in the vast cosmic void of my brain. Over the course of my lifetime, I’ve been a mother, military officer’s wife, state appellate court marshal, airport rescue firefighter and forensic fire photographer, crime analyst, and technical crime scene investigator. Retired from the “real world” now, I live in Oklahoma and spend my days at the computer with my two Newfoundland dogs, the “lolcat” who rules us all, and myriad characters all clamoring for attention. Eventually, I’ll tell each of their stories.

For more information visit me at www.silverjames.com

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Constructive Criticism –How to Reap Results from Group Critique

Friday, March 26th, 2010

This morning I’m late–it was a matter of either get the Kindergartner dressed for “Miss Match” day, or make my post.

Sorry Mamas. But, I know you understand!

Anyway, I got her dressed and ready. Polkadot mismatched knee-socks, striped shorts, checked top, funky hair bows, and mismatched, sequin shoes. She smiles a mile wide and says, “PERFECT! I don’t match AT ALL!” Here she is:

Miss Matchy!

Miss Matchy!

How amazing, that striving for imperfection made her day. Made me also think about criticism. Our inner critics as we race out the door in “mom-wear” – hat pulled down, sunglasses, and sweats – to get our kids to school or play-dates on time! And how much time we take ironing out our manuscripts before we get them ready for print.

So, take a moment and read through this post by my fellow critique partner, friend, and new Mama Author, Beverly Nault – as she dishes on Constructive Criticism, and how to handle a solid critique:

Reaping Results from the Group Critique – by Beverly Nault

Think of your critique group as a greenhouse. Whether infant or mature, each PLANT requires pruning and fertilizing, just like a story, article or scene. Follow these guidelines for an abundant HARVEST worthy of today’s market.

When you submit for critique:

Have Patience – only unwanted mushrooms grow overnight. Be ready to learn, it takes a discerning eye to identify weeds in the money crop. Even mature writers can learn a thing or two.

Listen – Babbling about your hours in the field wastes valuable time. Save chit-chat and seed swapping for later.

Accept advice and input. You waste everyone’s time if you don’t intend to glean wisdom.

Never argue, explain, or apologize. Let me explain. Briefly introduce the context, but if you defend or argue, you could have stayed home and read the ‘script to the chickens. Apologizing means you didn’t spend enough time checking for typos, errors, or other problems.

Take it all in. Some input you should take with a grain of salt, some you might take to heart. Consider all feedback, maybe your co-author has a point. Friends and family members, sometimes even busy editors, may not offer the honest perspective fellow authors will.

Now, grab your hoe, um, pen, and take a turn in someone else’s garden to prepare for the HARVEST. Here’s how to cultivate:

HELP by beginning with a positive comment about at least one, preferably several things, in the submission. Your remarks may inspire the author to develop a special technique or style. Also, you wouldn’t dump a truck load of fertilizer on a seedling, so try to measure out advice appropriate for each member’s readiness.

Agree and move on. If you concur with another’s remarks, say so, but keep it simple. For example; “I agree with Farmer Joe that dandelion patch needs work. Now about these boll weevils.”

Resist rewriting. Your style is different from everyone else’s, don’t try to clone. You should, however, suggest alternatives to clumsy or clichéd smaller sections. Also, resist asking questions; receivers should listen, not expound.

Value concept and content. It’s not just a good idea, it’s the law–freedom of speech, right? If the work is for a specific market, you can identify something that’s possibly offensive or that might alienate, but what others grow, er, write, is not your concern.

Explain only (and briefly) if you’re an expert or professional. Maybe you know more about the rare blooming titan arum than the average Jane and the piece mentions a second annual bloom. Gasp! Authors rely on valuable resources, and we should check each other’s facts and information whenever possible. That being said…

Stay focused. Following rabbit trails consumes precious time.

Thank other authors for presenting their precious cuttings and encourage them to return with another scene or revision for the next session. Nurture, nurture, nurture.

By sharing our own and reviewing each other’s creations, we gain knowledge, skill and the courage to plant seeds for a fruitful harvest. That rare titan arum? It only blooms once a year. When it does, it smells like rotting fish. Eww. No stinkers here please.

Categories : Ashley Ludwig
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Back to the Books!

Tuesday, March 9th, 2010

Last November, some of you may be aware, I stopped working outside the home and became a full time MamaWriter. At that time, both invigorated and terrified, I decided my kids  would become my “job.” In a way and with a vigor not held since my littlest was in diapers, I became super mom. Involved in everything. In control of, um, well, nothing.

Seems my kids missed their daycare. They missed their friends. They missed free play and running around like wild banshees. My reins were too tight. My supervision too strict. Suddenly, I was in a Mama Quandary. What do I do, now? Where did I go wrong?

Sometimes writing feels this way. You develop a plot, plan your characters, give them problems, help them sort them out. If you have trouble, you reach for books like “The Flip Dictionary,” “Hooked!,” “Plot & Structure,” or “Revision & Self Editing.”  You track your characters and scenes with your WIP Notebook until you know their world better than your own. Ultimately, you work with your characters until we all reach our happily ever after! or you shelve them. They become a stack of pages or files on a computer, rarely to be touched again.

And then, there’s real life.

Each Happily  Ever After bedtime ends with a new beginning the next day. Motherhood is a 24/7 job with no pay and little reward, I decided.  I became sullen, gloomy, opted for house beautiful even if the kids would rather play together than with me. THIS one was a fun decision. One room would be sparkling, then the kids would be drawn to the shining floor, the organized toys, as if I’d provided manna from Heaven. Soon, the order would become chaos, and it would all begin again.

I couldn’t win.

So, what do I do with writing when things go sideways? I research. I hit the books. One bright sunshiny day, when my youngest was darting from me, making mama lose her top in public, as was her newest 4yo game, I turned to a friend who is also a child psychologist. What do you recommend for a mama who’s at her wits end?

Turns out, she had a book. Parenting with Love and Logic.

Here are the basic principles:

  • Show empathy and love when your kids make bad decisions that affect THEIR Life.
  • Redirect anger, never level punishment in the heat of the moment
  • Offer choices that ultimately help your child make better life decisions
  • When the choices they make are “not great,” let them experience the consequences so they can learn from their own mistakes

And can I tell you how it’s changed my life? Okay, it’s changed me, which in turn is evolving our relationship… my 4yo, DD#2, responds better to choices that love and logic parenting offers. She now asks if she can run and play instead of running pell-mell away from me. She also tests the new limits I’m giving her, daily.

While I don’t want to be the mama that looks like she’s about to tear out all of her hair, I would LOVE it if my children were perfect in all circumstances. But I’m not raising automatons, nor am I expecting things to be smooth sailing every day of my life.  So, each day I hit the books, remind myself to remind myself to breath, and think about how much I love them while they are pitching fits and making irrational demands. Love, followed by logic, as we all make our way through our happily ever after! Wish me luck and I’d LOVE to hear your best parenting and/or writing tools!

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