MamaWriters are excited to have debut author Beverly Kendall here today! Her debut romance, Sinful Surrender, released in January, and she also runs the new and highly-frequented blog and linked forum community The Season, sites designed for readers of historical romance. Oh, and she’s also a mom.
Please help us welcome Beverly Kendall!
I could never have imagined that my life would change so utterly now that my son comes home at 2:30pm.
For years I had my days completely planned. My son went off to school in the morning and I picked him up from after school care at 5:30pm, right after work. It was a lovely routine. So lovely in fact, I took very little notice of how lucky I was. I worked from home, so I was able to get a lot of things done that I couldn’t if I had to hike to the office everyday (I worked 40+ miles away).
Then with the down economy, I was laid off. It made no sense to keep my son in after school care any longer, so out he went. The thing is I was busier than ever. I might no longer have a paying full-time job, but now in its place I added job hunting, writing, and web site mistress to the pool. And now this was consuming more than any full-time job ever had. I needed at least 6 additional hours in the day to get everything done. This all would have been manageable had my son started coming home 3 hours earlier than I was accustomed to.
Boy, who knew (though, seriously, I should have) what a difference those 3 hours would make to my day. What has suffered? Well housekeeping for sure. But it took a hit when I started writing, which was back in November 2006. The serious crime here is my writing started to suffer. I wasn’t get near the daily word count I would have liked and needed to get done.
I can’t write with the television on—especially if it’s a kids’ show. I can’t write if my son is tugging at any of my body parts. I can’t write if there are children (my son and nephew) chasing each other around the house. And I can’t write if my son is upstairs…and the place is terribly quiet—too quiet—because that means there’s trouble afoot.
What I’ve discovered is I have to write through, in, and around the madness, the noise, and the too quiet. I now force myself into that seat each day and tell myself, ‘You can’t get out of this chair until there are xxx number of words on the screen.’ I had to forcibly remove myself from Twitter, Facebook, and all the other—what can be—time-consuming sites and blogs. I had to focus like never before. This was the net result of my son coming home at 2:30.
What about you? What are some of the things that distract you from writing and how do you cope?





That sounds so much like me, it’s not even funny. I have 2 little girls that are constantly wherever I am, I can’t get a thing down. But they don’t get home until 3:30. I get one more hour than you.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Beverly~
It’s SO true! What’s that saying, “If you want to get soemthing accomplished, give it to a busy person to do.”
I mean, yes, I got a lot more writing done before I had a child, *but* I was lazier in it. I’m definitely a more efficient writer now than I ever was. I don’t wait around for the time to be convenient, and I seize moments when I have them.
My biggest distractions are ‘requirements,’ that morph into time-asters when I’m not in the zone. Marketing work that becomes blog surfing, or Twitter to stay abreast and engaged, becomes chattering. Research becomes dinking around. But for certain, 99% of it is the internet.
Great topic, Bev!
@lovemyhistoricals Eeek, and I only have one. You have 2. But you have girls. I’ve always heard they are more manageable than boys when they’re young. Is that true?
Kris, I so feel you. I am much more efficient with my time. But I got to say that the internet is a MASSIVE time suck. I need to stay off it more. LOL.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Bev,
I have a computer that doesn’t have internet connection, but my problem is I get *up*, and walk over to the computer that DOES have internet. LOL
Someone told me this tip they heard in a workshop, I believe. I can’t credit the original person whose idea it was-sorry whoever you are!
The tip was this: whenever you feel like stopping writing, for any reason, pause and put your hand over your heart and take a few slow breaths. I think the idea is 1) to slow down the ‘bailing’ impulse.
But I think it’s also to help you notice your body, and the urge to quit, and any thoughts you may be having.
I find that definitely happens for me–I get a lot of insight from that little strategy, and I usually move back into writing without indulging my urge to bail.
The internet is like most things, I suppose: it’s what we do with it that makes it a curse or a blessing.
And look at me now, online, instead of writing the new plot twist I just planned out. Ack!
LOL. Kris I will definitely have to try that one. It’s so sad that so much of my work right now ‘requires’ the internet. It’s that darn The Season site.
I need to be writing too!
I can’t work around noise either, and I literally feel my blood pressure rise once the “elephants” are afoot upstairs, screaming as they chase one another. And the housework? Forget about it. I have a framed picture by the mudroom door that reads: The House Was Clean Yesterday…Sorry You Missed It. *sigh*
I am not a writer, but it is very difficult to get much done when you have little ones around. When my girls were young, it wasn’t too bad, however, our son was another matter. He was (is) the type of child you don’t want to ever have out of site ore at least earshot. He didn’t believe in sleeping and could be out a window or over a fence faster than you could believe. At his preschool, they always had someone specifically watching him and he would still end up on top of the play house or half way over the fence before anyone realized what was happening.
The children are grown, but now I usually have my Grandson here. He is older, but I’m usually helping him with his homeschool studies.
I got a lot done when my girls were little. I was active, involved, and organized. The key to it all was the ORGANIZED part. I’ve let that slip lately and if I’m to get anything accomplished I’d better find it. Since I lost my job, I have spent way too much time on the internet following some wonderful blogs.
Beverly, I enjoy your site. It is the second I check every night. It is lovely, easy to navigate, and the blogs are always interesting.
I have SINFUL SURRENDER and enjoyed it. A first book to be proud of. As you have said, the complications of falling in love with one of your brother’s best friends lends itself to a good story.
I hope that next story is in the works. There is still the brother and other friend to find a HEA for. Good Luck.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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LibraryPat~
So glad you stopped by MamaWriters! Your son sounds like he really kept you on your toes – when it’s happening, those relationships can be the most challenging, but they also often build the strongest bonds, don’t they? All that intense connecting, usually over mom’s worry. LOL
Isn’t Bev’s The Season fabulous? I love it. Rarely leave comments on the blog or the forums, but I visit often.
MC I’m so with you. LOL. You’ll have to show me that sign next time I’m over.
@librarypat Your son sounds like my son. Sigh. So darn active you want to scream sometimes. LOL. And thank you for the kind words about SS. Yes, Thomas’s book is coming out Jan 2011. It’s been done for well over a year. I had SS and that one in at almost the same time. Alex’s book is not yet contracted so I’m praying it will be.
Kris,
Thanks so much for having me by. It was fun. I’ll see you on my blog June 2nd.
HI Beverly!
Thanks for being at MW today!!
Your post made me smile. I stay home with my two kids (both under four) and can’t seem to get anything done! The minute I let my guy out of sight terrible things happen. Milk dumped on carpet, my make-up bag dumped outside and contents used to paint sliding glass door, and any number of other weird occurances. LOL
I’ve had to really streamline my time. I don’t seem to get done nearly as much as I’d like. The good news is my daughter starts Kindergarten this fall and my son will be in a pre-k class two days a week for two hours. Right now two whole hours to myself sounds like heaven!
Best wishes!! I really love your cover. How gorgeous!