Comments on: Taking the High Road?? http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/ Fri, 03 Feb 2012 23:05:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Brenda B. Hill http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4731 Brenda B. Hill Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:05:32 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4731 I don't know if it is the lower IQ for under 40 has or the short fuse on their temper but rudness happens every day. I usually just let them pass, ignore them and go on my way but may insert a word I should not use. I would blow my horn but I keep forgetting where it is. LOL.. Now with the above two classes come the cell phone and texting class. Even children know you don't read, text or put on make up in car while driving. And we need these laws enforced every day. If you must use your cell to chat while driving in heavy traffic, changing lanes, turning in front of other cars, etc then have it attached to your car, hands free. This does not mean the person is paying close attention to what is going on around them as they are talking..I had a 29 yo guy come flying down road on left side chatting on cell as I am waiting to make left turn when he drifts over further to left and hits me. He was not wearing seatbelt because the nuts in GA say if you are in truck you don't have to use them. That is crazy but that is law here from someone who knows. Sorry, didn't mean to get on my soap box. I have gotten where I hate to leave the house because of the nuts on the road. Thats my feelings.,LOL I don’t know if it is the lower IQ for under 40 has or the short fuse on their temper but rudness happens every day. I usually just let them pass, ignore them and go on my way but may insert a word I should not use. I would blow my horn but I keep forgetting where it is. LOL.. Now with the above two classes come the cell phone and texting class. Even children know you don’t read, text or put on make up in car while driving. And we need these laws enforced every day. If you must use your cell to chat while driving in heavy traffic, changing lanes, turning in front of other cars, etc then have it attached to your car, hands free. This does not mean the person is paying close attention to what is going on around them as they are talking..I had a 29 yo guy come flying down road on left side chatting on cell as I am waiting to make left turn when he drifts over further to left and hits me. He was not wearing seatbelt because the nuts in GA say if you are in truck you don’t have to use them. That is crazy but that is law here from someone who knows.
Sorry, didn’t mean to get on my soap box. I have gotten where I hate to leave the house because of the nuts on the road. Thats my feelings.,LOL

]]> By: Kris Kennedy http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4730 Kris Kennedy Wed, 03 Feb 2010 17:41:13 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4730 Viola~ Oh, it's really hard when that kind-of thing start piling up, isn't it? One thing i do is what Laurie said: imagine a reason some rude behavior MIGHT be understandable--racing to a doctor, spacing out, etc. But I have to say, in a weird way, this conversation has actually helped me. I get so disheartened how rude and downright mean and brutal people can be online, and attribute much of that to the anonymity and 'mask' we all get to wear when using the internet. I get scared that we're deteriorating. But this reminds me, no, really, there's people who have always been like this, even face-to-face. LOL Viola~
Oh, it’s really hard when that kind-of thing start piling up, isn’t it?

One thing i do is what Laurie said: imagine a reason some rude behavior MIGHT be understandable–racing to a doctor, spacing out, etc.

But I have to say, in a weird way, this conversation has actually helped me. I get so disheartened how rude and downright mean and brutal people can be online, and attribute much of that to the anonymity and ‘mask’ we all get to wear when using the internet. I get scared that we’re deteriorating. But this reminds me, no, really, there’s people who have always been like this, even face-to-face. LOL

]]> By: rebecca J. Clark http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4729 rebecca J. Clark Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:05:47 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4729 I usually take the high road (but secretly I steam about it the rest of the day). I try to remind myself that I feel sorry for that person; their personal problems must be so great that their only outlet is to be a #$@% towards me. I usually take the high road (but secretly I steam about it the rest of the day). I try to remind myself that I feel sorry for that person; their personal problems must be so great that their only outlet is to be a #$@% towards me.

]]> By: Laurie Edwards http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4728 Laurie Edwards Tue, 02 Feb 2010 20:43:32 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4728 Deep down I believe everyone is kind and loving, but sometimes life circumstances get in the way. So when people are snappish or mean, I figure they're dealing with pain of some kind. You never know what blows life has just given them, so I try to be extra gentle not to give them an extra knock. You never know if that tailgater just got a call that his wife is dying and he's rushing to the hospital, or if she's late for work and has been warned she'll lose her job if she's late again. Of course, he could just be a Type-A personality and always in rush. But in that case, I don't want to be responsible for him having a heart attack. If at all possible, I find a spot, pull over for a sec & let him/her pass. Then we both win. They get to zip along, & I can meander at my own speed. And we both have a better, happier day. As for neighbors not responding to a smile, perhaps they don't have their glasses on, or they just found out their spouse is cheating on them. You never know. As a writer, I can imagine so many scenarios for why people might be responding negatively that my usual response is to assume they'd be kind if they could. If they aren't, then they probably need extra loving. I used that philosophy to raise my kids too. On days when they were driving me up a wall, their "punishment" was extra hugs and kisses. Worked like a charm. Especially when they got older. They'd back away and say, "No, Mom, I don't need a hug. I promise I'll behave if you just leave me alone." LOL Deep down I believe everyone is kind and loving, but sometimes life circumstances get in the way. So when people are snappish or mean, I figure they’re dealing with pain of some kind. You never know what blows life has just given them, so I try to be extra gentle not to give them an extra knock.

You never know if that tailgater just got a call that his wife is dying and he’s rushing to the hospital, or if she’s late for work and has been warned she’ll lose her job if she’s late again. Of course, he could just be a Type-A personality and always in rush. But in that case, I don’t want to be responsible for him having a heart attack. If at all possible, I find a spot, pull over for a sec & let him/her pass. Then we both win. They get to zip along, & I can meander at my own speed. And we both have a better, happier day.

As for neighbors not responding to a smile, perhaps they don’t have their glasses on, or they just found out their spouse is cheating on them. You never know. As a writer, I can imagine so many scenarios for why people might be responding negatively that my usual response is to assume they’d be kind if they could. If they aren’t, then they probably need extra loving.

I used that philosophy to raise my kids too. On days when they were driving me up a wall, their “punishment” was extra hugs and kisses. Worked like a charm. Especially when they got older. They’d back away and say, “No, Mom, I don’t need a hug. I promise I’ll behave if you just leave me alone.” LOL

]]> By: Viola Estrella http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4727 Viola Estrella Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:58:48 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4727 Hugs back atcha, Sarah! I'll take happy over perfect any day. :-) Hugs back atcha, Sarah! I’ll take happy over perfect any day. :-)

]]> By: Viola Estrella http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4726 Viola Estrella Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:54:38 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4726 Oh, Paty, I'll admit I'm a little bit, er...less patient, during certain days of the month. Sometimes it just can't be helped. :-) Oh, Paty, I’ll admit I’m a little bit, er…less patient, during certain days of the month. Sometimes it just can’t be helped. :-)

]]> By: Sarah Simas http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4725 Sarah Simas Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:04:12 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4725 Viola!!! (hugs!) My dad used to tell me to "Be a duck and let it roll off my back." LOL Well, I've never been able to do that. I really have to remind myself NOT to let other people's action bother me. But it's so hard to do! My daughter goes to the local private school (hub's family tradition. I'm a product of public school lol) and some of those mothers look like they stepped out of a magazine! Meanwhile, here is cheap a** me walking around in my tennis shoes, sweat pants, and a pony tail. LOL I don't have anywhere to go after dropping her off- why would get glammed up? Ha! That's probably why they don't recognize me when I am made up! Too funny! I just try to keep it all in perspective. Like you said, they look perfect, but I have no way of knowing if they're life is truly as dreamy as they make it. seem. Heaven knows mine ain't!! :) Viola!!! (hugs!)

My dad used to tell me to “Be a duck and let it roll off my back.” LOL Well, I’ve never been able to do that. I really have to remind myself NOT to let other people’s action bother me. But it’s so hard to do!

My daughter goes to the local private school (hub’s family tradition. I’m a product of public school lol) and some of those mothers look like they stepped out of a magazine! Meanwhile, here is cheap a** me walking around in my tennis shoes, sweat pants, and a pony tail. LOL I don’t have anywhere to go after dropping her off- why would get glammed up? Ha! That’s probably why they don’t recognize me when I am made up! Too funny!

I just try to keep it all in perspective. Like you said, they look perfect, but I have no way of knowing if they’re life is truly as dreamy as they make it. seem. Heaven knows mine ain’t!! :)

]]> By: Paty Jager http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4724 Paty Jager Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:59:18 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4724 HI Viola, In my younger years I always let it go. Now as menopause is setting in... I tend to fly off at rude people. I bite my tongue a lot though because it isn't really in my nature to be mean, but if the moon is aligned just so, and the hormones are fluctuating... I can be a bit snarly and nasty. Paty HI Viola,

In my younger years I always let it go. Now as menopause is setting in… I tend to fly off at rude people. I bite my tongue a lot though because it isn’t really in my nature to be mean, but if the moon is aligned just so, and the hormones are fluctuating… I can be a bit snarly and nasty.

Paty

]]> By: Viola Estrella http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4723 Viola Estrella Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:00:47 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4723 Hi Mary, That's a good question. Could it be that people in densely populated areas are just more stressed out? Or maybe it's the crime rate and the stranger danger aspect that keeps them guarded. Or maybe they're just mean. LOL! I guess ya never know. Hi Mary,
That’s a good question. Could it be that people in densely populated areas are just more stressed out? Or maybe it’s the crime rate and the stranger danger aspect that keeps them guarded. Or maybe they’re just mean. LOL! I guess ya never know.

]]> By: Mary Ricksen http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/taking-the-high-road/comment-page-1/#comment-4722 Mary Ricksen Mon, 01 Feb 2010 19:35:22 +0000 http://mamawriters.com/blog/?p=2953#comment-4722 I so understand what you are saying. Now I live in West Palm Beach, Florida and if I wave hello, people look at me as if I'm insane. In rural North Carolina everyone waves to you. What the heck? Why do big towns harbor ruder people than rural areas? As for me I have learned that the biggest gift I have is my smile and if I give it to someone they usually give one back. If not then run. I so understand what you are saying. Now I live in West Palm Beach, Florida and if I wave hello, people look at me as if I’m insane.
In rural North Carolina everyone waves to you. What the heck? Why do big towns harbor ruder people than rural areas?
As for me I have learned that the biggest gift I have is my smile and if I give it to someone they usually give one back. If not then run.

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