As a mother, wife and writer I find myself constantly faced with decision after decision. Should DD#1 do swimming or cheerleading again? Should we have a salad with dinner or broccoli? Should DD#3 have baby food yet? What is best for DD#2, full day or half day Pre-K? Should hubby and I plan a long weekend or a whole week vacation for our 10yr anniversary?
And once those familial questions are answerewd or averted (which I am an expert at! — and not because I’m lazy, but because sometimes, its just too hard to make decisions that affect everyone without sitting on them for awhile) the writerly questions begin. Should I work on this book or that one? Should I read for fun or for work? Does this plot work? What about this character’s name? GMC? Too much sex? Not enough? And then there’s the big one, when you’ve actually written “The End” — which publishing house do I submit to? Or do I find an agent first? Do I stick with my current publisher or step outside of my comfort zone to establish a new relationship, new readers, new ways of writing, new deadlines and ultimately to further my career?
When you start writing you have a plan. A concrete plan, well maybe not so concrete, but a definite agenda of where you see yourself going. Fellow mama and author, Renee Knowles has a great book, Savvy Business Skills for Writers: Nuts and Bolts, that talks about making career plans. I suggest checking it out if you haven’t already. So I’ve made my plan. I know where I’m going, and I can see the end result on the horizon, I just have a few more miles (or maybe 100) to walk before I get there. And along the way, I’m making a lot of pit stops, and doing some sight-seeing too.
I have seven contracts with my first publisher. Six of my books have released and my seventh will come out later this year. I made a decision late last year and decided to broaden my horizons. To follow my path–get back on the road. I was very pleased and excited last week to be offered a contract with another publisher–one whom I belive is an excellent fit for me, will bring in new readers and in the long run is the right move for the way I see my career progressing. But in order to do that, I had to step away from the familiar. I had to query someone else, which in essence is putting your heart on the line. Just like in love and relationships, we writers get rejected–and hopefully for the sake of broken hearts everywhere, we get rejected a heck of a lot more than those seeking companionship. Like new love, I’m excited, thrilled and exhilarated for the ride ahead, the unknown.
And its not to say that I haven’t enjoyed my relationship with my first publisher. I have. They’ve helped me to grow, they published my very first stories! And I still have another story to release with them. They’ll be in my life for a a long time to come.
Someone once told me it’s okay to move on–move forward. In life it’s okay to make new friends, it’s not like you’re ditching out on the old ones, you’re just opening yourself up to new experiences. Your cup is being filled one drop at a time and eventually you might have a whole pitcher. And just like that, I know it’s okay to move on to another publisher. I liken it to when you have a second, third or fourth baby. While you’re pregnant (or waiting for the adoption to finalize) you wonder if you’ll love this new baby as much as you love the other one(s). Is your heart big enough? Is there enough room? But you find that your heart grows and you love them all unconditionally. (And if you’re me you suffer for at least five minutes thinking what a horrible mother you are for even thinking you might not love your little cherub as much…)
I encourage you all to step away from your comfort zones and try new things. You just might find something new you like. (Don’t we encourage our kids to do the same? Come on honey, just one bite of that potato, I know you don’t like potatoes, but just try it tonight, you might.)
I’m thrilled for what lies on the horizon, not only with my career but with my family. Everyday is a joy to travel through. So in case you’re wondering… Swimming it is, salad for dinner, baby’s getting some baby food, 1/2 day Pre-K (because I just can’t let go yet) a long weekend in Vegas!
Have you stepped outside lately?
Eliza Knight is the author of sizzling historical romance and time-travel erotic romance. Visit her at www.elizaknight.com
“One knows while reading the initial paragraph of Her Captain Surrenders, based on the description of Juliette and Nathaniel’s first meeting at the ball that this book is going to be a joy to read. Ms. Knight adds something magical to that fateful dance: not just the costumes and scenery which are so lush and colorful, but the interested look in their first glance, obvious chemistry in their initial waltz, and their spicy conversation all inspire that HEA conclusion. Perhaps it is her lyrical way of writing dialogue for her characters, or maybe just the fascinating characters themselves.
I thoroughly enjoyed Ms. Knight’s writing style, it is very vivid and descriptive, she is detailed in outlining her backgrounds, the scenery colorful, even the locations seem almost alive. And while she does pay such detail to the background pieces of her story, the plot does not suffer, it is just as intricate without being complex. It is difficult to find an entertaining historical book, luckily Her Captain Surrenders is one less book to look for, and one book to add to the list of those to read.” ~ Mickey at You Gotta Read Reviews





Thanks for your recommendations Eliza!
Rita Merlow
You’re welcome Rita
Inspiring post, Eliza.
Thank you Carole
Hey Eliza!
You have to move on in oder to go forward! Those that are your friends will push ahead with you, those that aren’t, well, won’t. You know the saying, people are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime! So you keep making those life changing decisions!!! AND I know you’ll go far! Look how far you’ve all ready come!
Andrea :O)
You are so right Andrea! Moving forward is so important too. You’re a wonderful friend to me woman!
Not only have I stepped out, I jumped out without a parachute!
I’ve always enjoyed paranormal romance and as an historical writer, never thought I could make that leap. Well, the word ‘can’t’ just isn’t a part of my vocabulary and I decided to try my hand and write under a pen name, MARIE MARCH. I submitted my first 8k paranormal erotica this Fall, and now I have 2 e-books and 1 anthology coming out this year as well as 1 anthology in 2011, and I have another ms. in consideration! I’m being published by three different publishers and possibly a fourth.
Writing has taught me a valuable life lesson. No one is standing in your way except YOU.
Congrats on all of your contracts Lisa! I look forward to reading your new works
What wonderful insights, Eliza. We all have to take that first step, then another, and another. Just as we learned to walk, we can learn to soar to the stars and catch our dreams. Thanks for the reminder.
You’re welcome Mary
Thanks for visiting. It is a lot like walking isn’t it?
Congrats on the new contract, Eliza! Change — any change! — is always scary. But it’s change that gets us to the next place we want to go!
~ Melissa
Thanks Melissa! And you’re right. If we always remain the same, then we can’t expect anything different, or to meet our goals.
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Congrats on your new contract, Eliza, and for stepping out of your comfort zone. I loved your thoughts! Change and decision-making has never been easy for me (just ask my hubby) so I know just how you feel. But I’m also stubborn and won’t stop until I’m exactly where I want to be in life. LOL Thank goodness for that balance!
Thanks Viola! Change is tough, I have the same issue as my hubby can also attest too
Perseverance and stubborness can get you a long way!
I’m at that point now, Eliza! Although I love my editor and am very pleased with my publisher–and have just submitted a new story to them–I’m stepping outside my confort zone to outline a book in a new genre. And once I get to the point of submitting that story, I plan to try some new publishers to see what happens.
Of course, it’s all scary! I don’t know if I can’t do justice to a story in this new genre, although I’ve been immersing myself by reading all I can set in it. And to try another publisher, or a bunch and face rejection… but it’s something I feel I need to do.
Congrats on your new contract and best of luck with this new venture!
Thank you Susan! Good luck with your new project!
Congrats on the new contract, Eliza! That is SO exciting! Wah-Hoo!
Sheesh! Last year, it was stepping into blogging that was outside my comfort zone. I think this year it will be finishing the book. Talk about a safety net. It’s easy to hide behind the title of newbie. It lends wiggle room for not finishing.
Well, my goal is to ‘Write “The End” in 2010!’ So, I guess I better start stepping! LOL Thanks, ELiza, for a very inspiring post! You rock!
Thank you Sarah! There is a certain saftey net you’re right, and when you start having deadlines and all that everything changes. But I believe in you and I think you are destined for good things! You’ve already made so much headway, and your name will be well known before you know it. Good luck with you goals!!!
Eliza, I have a tendency to stay within my comfort zone, too. But I once heard someone say, “Whenever something scares me, I know I have to do it.” Signing with my present publisher thrilled me at the same time it terrified me, because it challenged my confidence levels. But it also made me work harder as a writer than ever before and I’ve never regretted it.
Congrats on your success!
Thanks Allison, and congrats to you too! I can never back down from a challenge either