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An Ode To Mama’s Boy

Friday, February 26th, 2010

 

img_0001Meet my little mama’s boy! Shoe-in for a cover model career, ain’t he?

I’m not at all embarrassed to say I’m wrapped around this little guy’s finger. The first time I held him in my arms I was lost. Talk about a beautiful baby, but then, I’m extremely biased! J

My first child was born in late 2005. Little did I know seventeen months later my daughter would get a brother. (obviously, I didn’t get the memo on what causes such things, huh? lol) When he was fifteen months old, I noticed my son wasn’t babbling like his sister had done. Two months later, an evaluation revealed his speech was delayed. A lot.

Ever heard of Apraxia? It’s a speech disorder that takes A LOT of speech therapy. Thanks to a year of intense therapy, meaning me driving him to as many as four sessions a week, my boy can say close to ten words. Some of the words he approximates with gestures and sign, but it’s a HUGE turn-around from last January.

One of the first hurdles he had to overcome was learning how to formulate words. Simple sounds like “Oh” and “Ah”. His upper lip was stiff, almost as if novacained. Lots of flutes, straws, and whistles later, he’s a champ at busting out those sounds with full lip curvature. Wah-hoo! (it got very loud at our house!)

When we open a door or a lid, it’s “Oop-en”. He wants to be picked up? It’s “Uh-pah”. My kitchen decor is now pictures of animals and objects to practice saying. Easy words we take for granted, but ones he has to work for. And it is work for him.

Yesterday, we took him to get tubes put in his ears. Two hours later, he was back to full steam AND attempting new words. We’d say a word and he’d repeat it! BIG CHANGE! Some of words he nailed with excellent clarity. With others, he managed to match the syllable breaks. AWESOME! I can’t wait to take him to speech today and see how he does. The results are that fast. The doctor told us the poor guy’s ears were clogged with mucus (even after finishing around of meds), but now he’ll have clear ears for 15 months!

I’m so completely happy! There are no words to define how good it is to see him make another leap.

It’s only been within the last month that he has perfected saying, “Mama”. I love, love hearing him say the word, because I know how hard he had to work to get to that point. Believe it our not, those “M’s” are a pretty high hill to climb. But, he succeeded.

The last year has been a roller coaster more suited for a beach boardwalk than real life, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. I’ve had to reach farther than I’ve ever had to reach before. Trying to juggle everything without throwing my hands in the air in defeat has been a true challenge. I’ve had to learn articulation, spontaneous retrieval, and diphthongs right along-side my boy. Much in the same way I’ve had to learn point of view, character arc, GMC, and all the other ‘good stuff’ about honing my craft. Both take time to understand and dedication to know how to apply correctly, but if he can do it, well, darn it, so can I!

Most of the time, I’m so frazzled I can’t remember what I did the day before! But I wouldn’t have it any other way!

My Kiddos

My Kiddos

When was the last time your “real life” taught you something about yourself?

For me? I learned I had way too much self-doubt and that stubbornness isn’t always a a vice! :)

 

To learn more about Sarah Simas, check out her blog: The Lovestruck Novice or her critique group’s blog: Friday Night Write.

On a Positive Note

Thursday, February 25th, 2010

The last time I posted here at Mama Writers I blogged about taking the higher road and some of the negative things in life one has to ignore/deal with/fight about/whatever. And I realized that I might’ve sounded a little negative myself. A little whiney. A little poor-me. You get the point. I was having a bad day. In the wise lyrics of Daniel Powter, I needed to sing a sad song just to turn it around.

 

Anyhoo, I’m all better now and I want to get back to the more optimistic aspects of life because they’re overlooked way too often:

 

A husband and four sons who always give me that much needed hug, make me laugh, or laugh at my jokes. You know it’s love when someone understands your sense of humor…and still likes it.

 

Friends who cheer me along when something amazing happens and rant with me when something not-so-great happens.

 

A mother with whom I can have an in-depth conversation about The Bachelor. There’s nothing like reality TV to bond a family together.

 

A sister who buys multiple copies of my books and supports me in anything I do. And all my other family members who support me as well.

 

Teachers who go above and beyond to make sure my children get the best education possible. They’re heroes to be cherished.

 

The strangers I see in the store who smile for no reason, or who are just all-around polite people.

 

The driver who stays a safe distance behind my car when I’m driving in the snow, or the one who’s smart enough not to try to use his/her cell phone.

 

I’m sure I’m forgetting so, so many people who make my life easier and happier. But believe me when I say that I appreciate you!

 

So tell me who’s made a positive impact in your life lately?

 

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Special Guest – NY Times Bestselling Author Angie Fox

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

MamaWriters are thrilled to welcome back the wonderful New York Times bestselling author Angie Fox!

She’s talking with us about brainstorming, and some of those great overlaps between being a mom and being a writer.  AND she has a very cool quiz we can take (What Supernatural Pet is Right for You? )

If you post your answers in the comments section, you may win a copy of her latest release A Tale of Two Demon Slayers!

Moms being creative

angie-fox-author-photoLast week, my daughter managed to make yellow Play Doh toast and slip it into the toaster without me seeing (until I smelled it). My son painted the entire kids’ bathroom with pink foamy soap. And while both bouts of creative expression were messy (to say the least) they were done with complete dedication and a willingness to explore.

When you think about it, that’s not terribly different from what we do everyday as writers. I’m always looking for ways to break out and think about my books in a new light. And while I can’t always be as creative as a three-year-old, I do have a few tricks that have worked when it comes to taking my stories to a new level. Or at least they’ve done a good job at keeping the writing part of my day fairly sane.

The character push

In the beginning of my series, the heroine’s long-lost grandmother shows up and – whoops – locks the heroine in her bathroom with an ancient demon. I’d pushed the situation, but the grandmother was too nice. My critique partner called me on it and, blast her, she was right. I sat down and brainstormed a few pages of alternate “grandmas” before I hit on an idea I loved – a Harley biker witch grandma who hurls recycled Smuckers jars full of home brewed magic. One character change and the book became a lot more fun to write.

The mini-brainstorm

Sometimes, the first idea isn’t the best idea. Mini-brainstorms during the writing of a chapter always help me see if where I’m going is where I want to be. Sometimes, I go back to my first idea. Other times, after I’ve forced myself to come up with a page full of alternatives, I find I like a new idea better.

It works on big plot points, but just as well on little details. For example, in A Tale of Two Demon Slayers, Lizzie finds a mysterious egg-shaped stone. I had no idea what it was, but decided to play with it. Turns out, it was a dragon egg. The egg hatches and Lizzie’s talking dog, Pirate, decides he has a pet. It made me smile to think of a pet owning a pet. Lizzie is not happy about that. She has enough going on and doesn’t think her dog needs to own a pet.

So she tells Pirate to find a new home for Flappy the dragon (Pirate named him, not Lizzie). So Lizzie is battling evil people and losing track of what Pirate is doing. He keeps promising to find a new home for the dragon, but instead Pirate is hiding the dragon, and loving the dragon and teaching him tricks. Every time Lizzie realizes the dragon is still there, it’s gotten bigger and bigger and, well, it’s just one more thing she can’t quite control.

Kind of like motherhood.


The “chill out – this doesn’t have to count” brainstorm

Sometimes, when a chapter just isn’t working, I have a hard time making the (often necessary) massive changes, because I don’t know if I’m going to make things better or (gulp) worse. But one day, I borrowed a technique from my days as an advertising writer and lo and behold, it works on fiction too.

I made a duplicate copy of the impossible chapter, and then went to town on changes. By letting my brain loose on a “throw away” chapter, I freed it up to stop thinking about “How am I going to get my heroine out of the love scene and ramped up for hell?,” to “Hmm…pillow talk. This is a good time for the hero to admit he wasn’t one hundred percent honest with the heroine at the start of the book. Now the heroine can get so mad that she dumps his boxers in the ice bucket, throws his pants off the balcony and almost goes to hell without him.”midt2ds

Brainstorming is all about freeing up your mind and your creative energy. You get to surprise yourself, and feel the rush of excitement as you hit upon new ideas and new places to take your story. Because when you’re fully engaged in the story, pushing your characters harder, waiting to see what’s around the next bend – chances are, your audience will feel the same way.

Angie Fox is the author of A Tale of Two Demon Slayers, a new release from Dorchester. And she’s giving away a copy right here. Just take the quiz, inspired by Pirate and his pet dragon. What Supernatural Pet is Right for You?

Post your answer below and you’re entered to win!

Too Cute To Correct…

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010

I have an admission to make, as a mother and a writer with a passion for grammar.

I don’t always correct my son when he mispronounces words.  In fact, a lot of the time, I don’t do it at all.  Partially because I imagine he’ll learn in time, and I do plan to correct any glaring misconceptions before he hits, say high school. (Okay, yes, kindergarten. Hmpf.)  However, the real reason?  Because it’s just so darn cute.

I’m a writer…words are my passion, my love, and yet there is nothing quite so sweet as the way your children pronounce words as they are learning.  The latest one:  My son and I made corn muffins the other night, and for some reason, he took them to be “nuthins.”   So every time he would tell his dad what we were making, it came out like “We’re making nuthins!”

Now, how do you correct that?

Over his almost-four short years, he’s had a number of adorable turns of phrases, and yes, in time, they begin to correct themselves as his motor skills develop and he hears the proper way to say things more often.   And when they do correct themselves and I start hearing him pronounce things correctly,  it’s like a little squeeze in my heart.  He’s growing up so fast.  He’s not a baby, he’s a little boy.

Just last week, I was putting on a cartoon for him to watch..and he choose to watch Little Einsteins.  However, from the time he started talking about this show, he called them the “Nigh Nights.”  (Again, it’s a wonder how their brains process…)  Last week, he looked at me and said, “Mommy, the Litt-le EINsteins.”  Very carefully, very correctly.  And my heart tugged.

And it also made me pause…would I remember this adorable phrases in later years?  Probably not…which means, I need to write them down.  For being a writer, it’s amazing how little of his day to day life I think about writing down for memories.  We have pictures, LOTS of pictures… some videos (like this one below. :)

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But the little things that make me smile, I need to write them down, too. These are milestones as much as walking and talking are.   And if my memory today is any indication, it’s not likely I’ll hang on to much. :)    So today, I guess I’m giving myself (and you should you chose to take it) a little assignment.  For however old your child is, take ten minutes and one piece of paper… ask yourself what his/her favorite toy is, favorite things to do, favorite tv show, favorite words, cute sayings.  Take a snapshot of your child in words.   Because, as writers, we definitely know that words matter… and years from now, that one page snapshot will hold many of your favorite memories.

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Decisions, Decisions – Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

Monday, February 22nd, 2010

As a mother, wife and writer I find myself constantly faced with decision after decision.  Should DD#1 do swimming or cheerleading again?  Should we have a salad with dinner or broccoli?  Should DD#3 have baby food yet?  What is best for DD#2, full day or half day Pre-K? Should hubby and I plan a long weekend or a whole week vacation for our 10yr anniversary?

And once those familial questions are answerewd or averted (which I am an expert at! — and not because I’m lazy, but because sometimes, its just too hard to make decisions that affect everyone without sitting on them for awhile) the writerly questions begin.  Should I work on this book or that one?  Should I read for fun or for work?  Does this plot work?  What about this character’s name?  GMC? Too much sex?  Not enough?  And then there’s the big one, when you’ve actually written “The End” — which publishing house do I submit to?  Or do I find an agent first?  Do I stick with my current publisher or step outside of my comfort zone to establish a new relationship, new readers, new ways of writing, new deadlines and ultimately to further my career?

When you start writing you have a plan.  A concrete plan, well maybe not so concrete, but a definite agenda of where you see yourself going.  Fellow mama and author, Renee Knowles has a great book, Savvy Business Skills for Writers: Nuts and Bolts, that talks about making career plans.  I suggest checking it out if you haven’t already.  So I’ve made my plan.  I know where I’m going, and I can see the end result on the horizon, I just have a few more miles (or maybe 100) to walk before I get there.  And along the way, I’m making a lot of pit stops, and doing some sight-seeing too.

I have seven contracts with my first publisher.  Six of my books have released and my seventh will come out later this year.  I made a decision late last year and decided to broaden my horizons.  To follow my path–get back on the road.  I was very pleased and excited last week to be offered a contract with another publisher–one whom I belive is an excellent fit for me, will bring in new readers and in the long run is the right move for the way I see my career progressing.  But in order to do that, I had to step away from the familiar.  I had to query someone else, which in essence is putting your heart on the line.  Just like in love and relationships, we writers get rejected–and hopefully for the sake of broken hearts everywhere, we get rejected a heck of a lot more than those seeking companionship.  Like new love, I’m excited, thrilled and exhilarated for the ride ahead, the unknown.

And its not to say that I haven’t enjoyed my relationship with my first publisher.  I have.  They’ve helped me to grow, they published my very first stories!  And I still have another story to release with them.  They’ll be in my life for a a long time to come. 

Someone once told me it’s okay to move on–move forward.  In life it’s okay to make new friends, it’s not like you’re ditching out on the old ones, you’re just opening yourself up to new experiences.  Your cup is being filled one drop at a time and eventually you might have a whole pitcher.  And just like that, I know it’s okay to move on to another publisher.  I liken it to when you have a second, third or fourth baby.  While you’re pregnant (or waiting for the adoption to finalize) you wonder if you’ll love this new baby as much as you love the other one(s).  Is your heart big enough?  Is there enough room?  But you find that your heart grows and you love them all unconditionally.  (And if you’re me you suffer for at least five minutes thinking what a horrible mother you are for even thinking you might not love your little cherub as much…)

I encourage you all to step away from your comfort zones and try new things.  You just might find something new you like.  (Don’t we encourage our kids to do the same?  Come on honey, just one bite of that potato, I know you don’t like potatoes, but just try it tonight, you might.) 

I’m thrilled for what lies on the horizon, not only with my career but with my family.  Everyday is a joy to travel through.  So in case you’re wondering…  Swimming it is, salad for dinner, baby’s getting some baby food, 1/2 day Pre-K (because I just can’t let go yet) a long weekend in Vegas!

Have you stepped outside lately?

Eliza Knight is the author of sizzling historical romance and time-travel erotic romance.  Visit her at www.elizaknight.com

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“One knows while reading the initial paragraph of Her Captain Surrenders, based on the description of Juliette and Nathaniel’s first meeting at the ball that this book is going to be a joy to read. Ms. Knight adds something magical to that fateful dance: not just the costumes and scenery which are so lush and colorful, but the interested look in their first glance, obvious chemistry in their initial waltz, and their spicy conversation all inspire that HEA conclusion. Perhaps it is her lyrical way of writing dialogue for her characters, or maybe just the fascinating characters themselves.

I thoroughly enjoyed Ms. Knight’s writing style, it is very vivid and descriptive, she is detailed in outlining her backgrounds, the scenery colorful, even the locations seem almost alive. And while she does pay such detail to the background pieces of her story, the plot does not suffer, it is just as intricate without being complex. It is difficult to find an entertaining historical book, luckily Her Captain Surrenders is one less book to look for, and one book to add to the list of those to read.” ~ Mickey at You Gotta Read Reviews

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