At our home, we’ve been very aware of our List For Santa for over a month now. Our son knows it is vitally important he get his list in the mail in time for Santa to prepare. I’ve explained that Santa is magi, so we’ll be okay no matter what, but I think he’d rest easier if we get that puppy in the mail.
The list is filled with sweet and wonderful, concrete items that feel so sane, and sweet, and fleeting. They’re things that truly will bring genuine happiness for a little while. No filing of neurotic holes with gifts or other sparkly distractions just yet; it’s all good right now, whether it’s a toy pirate wiedling a cutlass, a scooter to take down the street, or a “goldfish I can name Smith.”
Sure. Whatever you need, sweetie.
But it got me thinking, neuroses aside, what would I ask for from Santa? Some may be those oft more intangible things, and some are as concrete as, well, concrete.
So I started my list. It’s tentative–I still have 9 days to revise.
1) An internally-generated desire to–and love for–cleaning the house. My house.
2) The ability to conjure, on demand, meaningful, plot-forwarding scenes. i.e. The ability to summon my Muse like she’s a veil-wearing genie trapped in a lamp.
3) Julie Anne Long to write and release minimum 3 books a year that feel like Perils of Pleasure or Like No Other Lover, only different.
4) For me to start liking things that are good for me. I mean this very specifically. I don’t mean things like ‘Men who don’t diminish my self of self-worth’ or such. I mean things like: Green beans; Running around the track in a sweatsuit; Lifting weights. That sort of thing.
5) To sell more books (Oh, wait. Santa already delivered that, via a 2 book contract with Abby Zidle at Pocket Books, just last week. Thanks, Santa!)
6) A loving, funny husband who supports me in my dreams, even so far as letting me not earn a penny to pursue said dream. (Oh, wait. I am living that one too. )
7) A healthy, bright, funny excited child who’s still young enough to call me ‘Mommy” and “Mama” and “My love,” and snuggle on my lap, saying one of the above–or all of them–over and over again, while kissing me.
Oh, yes, I have been given that, too.
Hmm, maybe I should focus more on what I have, rather than what I don’t have.
Maybe I will give myself and my family a Christmas gift from the heart this year. Maybe I will devote myself to focusing on being more appreciative of them and how they’ve enriched my life, rather than what could be different. And certainly to stop telling myself that “different” automatically equals “better.”
Maybe I don’t need Santa after all . . . Maybe, by now, I can give it to myself.
Oh, heck . . . I admit, I could really use that whole ‘I love cleaning!’ bit. Pretty please . . . ?
So, what about you? What’s on your list to Santa? And what can you give to yourself this year, instead?
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I wish my girls had been so early in deciding!
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Eileen,

LOL–does it count as ‘deciding’ when you ask for everything?
Actually, he’s been very sweet and restrained in his Christmas list. He forgets things, and mentions whatever is currently on his radar, usually whatever he just played with a friend. It’s very sweet.
Congrats on the contract, Kris! I’m quite satisfied this year. I met my goals. I have a great new baby boy. I could barely come up with anything to list for my husband to get me…just some silly little things for the stocking.
So, my Santa Christmas Wish is that everyone find the same peace and happiness I have! Is that too hokey?
As for what I’m giving myself. I’m giving myself the gift of “Thata Girl.” I signed three contracts this year. Thata Girl. I had a healthy baby. Thata girl. I’m being a good mama and putting him and his needs first. Thata girl. It’s time to accept I’ve done what I can for the year and set my goals for next year. And if I happen to finish polishing a book over the holidays or capture more ideas for a series I’m working on…well…Thata girl.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Emma,
It sounds absolutely perfect.
Ooohh, I like your ‘Attagirl’ program!
Enjoy Christmas #1 with your new baby!!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Congrats on the two-book contract, Kris!!! That’s awesome!! I would love to have #1 on your list. And I wouldn’t mind an e-reader.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Viola~
Thanks for the congrats!
I know, wouldn’t #1 be so great? Can you imagine WANTING to clean the house? Feeling motivated to? Sigh. Not happening . . .
Ah, an aspiring eReader gal.
I hope you get your wish!!
Twitter: wiremamma
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Oh, Kris!
I didn’t realize you signed a new contract!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wooo Hooo!
Well done, Mama. You know how I felt about the Conqueror – I’m looking forward to your next one. I’m suddenly so excited for you!
Oh, wait. Maybe I should finish my book instead of browsing our mama writers site! Must learn to write with Dora in the background.
Good for you, kiddo. I’m impressed. and Merry Christmas!
Ashley
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Ash~
You sweetie–thanks for your congrats!!
I completely understand about finding it hard to write with the kids watching a TV show in the background. Sometimes, if I’m in flow, my son could be engaged in full-scale war and I wouldn’t really notice but to occasionally murmur, “Careful, sweetie.” But other days, when every word is a struggle to put on the page, background noises really break my stride, such as it is.
Here’s to you finding the aura of silence you need to write!
I like your list Kris! I think I’ll add some of it to my own
I would also ask for more patience–patience with everything. Sometimes I find I am so peaceful things could take forever and I wouldn’t mind, other times, I feel like throwing a temper tantrum, lol
Congrats again, I am so excited for you!!!
HUGS!
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Eliza~
Umm, you’re supposed to feel that way. In fact, I think you’re REQUIRED to feel that way. You have three kids, all young, one under the age of 6 MONTHS! So, you get to feel impatient.
That being said . . . yeah, I need a little of that too. Some days, a lot. Patience is one of those attitude things, a stance of, “I will let this moment be what it is, and when the next moment comes, I’ll be here for it.” And I SO don’t have that cultivated yet. But I’m working on it. Having kids you love to death definitely motivates you, doesn’t it?
Marry Christmas, Mama!
Definitely!!! lol
Merry Christmas to you too Eggplant!