I’m sitting here drinking my mocha latte, enjoying the sensation of being awake, and the sweet and smooth taste of chocolate in the morning. I’m looking forward to this afternoon when I might have a couple of minutes to myself. Well of course, the mind is working, the cranks turning (caffeine doing its job) and its gotten me to thinking about what women do for fun, which then of course led me to fantasies… and so you’ll find today’s post is a mixture of both. Fantasy is fun!
So I did what I always do when I start thinking and wanting to share, I called my BFF. She’s got two small children and works full time. We started talking about how to relax, what we do for fun and how hard it is to actually do those things when you have small kids and work full time. She’s always known I was a reader, and she is one of my biggest supporters as an author. Then they came, the words I’d been praying would fall from her lips since we were twelve years old… She says, “I think I might want to start reading books.” Cue the bell chimes and celestial music. Someone help me I’ve floated to the ceiling.
We’ve known each other since we were kids and she’s never been a big reader for pleasure. Sure she’d read books for school, but to go to the bookstore and pick up a book to read for pleasure wasn’t something she chose to do. That’s not to say she didn’t like fiction, quite the opposite in fact. Her and I had a running comedic Scottish medieval series we wrote. We wrote comics too. It was so exciting, we’d come into school, probably 8th – 10th grade, every few days with the next chapters to exchange. We didn’t share it with anyone, just ourselves, it was hilarious. We also wrote a continuation to Anne Franks diary, which was quite an emotional experience. I would tell her about books that I was reading, so in detail in fact that when she asked me to tell her the story of Jane Eyre she wrote a paper on it and got an A.
So naturally I was quite excited that she wanted to start reading for fun. I’ve heard that a lot of women start reading for pleasure later in their lives, and romance especially. I don’t know if its because with kids, work and chores, our own personal relationships get put on the back burner and we crave the romantic high we get from reading, or if its because when we get older and reality hits we start to crave the fairy tale. I don’t know what it is, but I do know that reading romance gives us an escape, a dream, a high.
Then again, there is always the fact that I love, love. Romance has always been a favorite part of my life from the time I first watched Cinderella, or The Sound of Music, or my mom read me a fairy tale.
Heck lets face it, when your day comprises of poopie diapers, making lunch for 5, doing a dozen loads of laundry, trying to get your a** to look like it did when you were 18, and hoping your hubby will take a quick smooch and pat on the back as “making love” for the night (or is that just me after having a baby?), you may find an alternate world is just the thing!
Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband dearly, in fact our anniversary is next week and I’m looking forward to our date night this weekend!!! YAY!!! We actually laughed this morning about how we weren’t sure when the last time we went out to dinner alone was. It may have been last year on our anniversary. We make a point of “date night” at home, watching movies together, reading together, or having a drink on our deck after the kids go to bed, but it isn’t very often we get to LEAVE. Even more funny to us was how at the tender age of twenty-something when we got married we thought every night would be date night, lots of “playing” in bed, traveling, doing whatever we wanted… Reality Check! We consoled ourselves that in about 18 years we’ll get to do all that, lol. It’s our prize for raising the little cherubs up into functioning responsible sweet citizens.
So in the meantime I get my fantasies….we all have ours. When you’re reading a romance, how many of you don’t imagine yourself as the heroine? Come on, admit it, I know I’m not the only one.
Author friend Kimberly Killion was Santa for me this year and gave me an early present, a night with Gerry! Yes, Gerard Butler. See our pic? J So what did I do with one Scottish hunk of pure male sexiness? Well a girl doesn’t kiss and tell, but I will say this, whatever I asked, the Butler did it.
So let’s hear it mamas! When did you start reading romance? Why do you read romance? And do you have a crush on Gerry too?
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Eliza Knight is the author of sizzling historical romance and erotic time travel Highlander romance. Eliza is the author of the award-winning blog, History Undressed and has published numerous articles on writing craft and history. She is a freelance copy editor, professional critiquer, President of the Celtic Hearts Romance Writers signature chapter of the RWA and Contest Chair for Hearts Through History. She presents workshops on history, researching techniques and writing craft, to writing groups online. For more information on Eliza, please visit http://www.elizaknight.com/ or http://www.historyundressed.blogspot.com/.
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Great post, Eliza!! Yes to the crush on Gerry!
Cute pic by the way! I’ve been reading romance since high school and probably would’ve started earlier if they’d let me. LOL I’m in love with romance and love too, and enjoy analyzing relationships. Hope you friend enjoys her new reading hobby!
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Your pic is so cute! YOu two look like such a nice couple . ..
YOur days as a couple (with your hubby) will come again. That’s why mine took me on a cruise last week. It was the first time we’d been on a vacation just the two of us together since our son moved into the dorm in August.
I’ve been reading romances since I can’t remember. My Ma’Ma’ used to have then on her freezer when we’d go for a weekly visit. And since I had mostly rough country male cousins, I liked to stay inside and read. Then she began letting em take them home,
Ah, heaven.
I used to read romances because I believed in love; now I read romances because I WANT to believe in love. But don’t call me a cynic, just a disillusioned idealist!
Julie
Oh wow! I love ‘The Butler.’ Great pic. I’m jealous! And I enjoyed your post. Excellent. Add to your reality check the darling cherub grandbabies. Mine started arriving before our youngest daughter was even out of middle school, and then there’s my wee nieces…I am ever involved with little people. Your Mama blog should include mama/grandmama’s, only I’m called ‘Dumma.’ My eldest cherub grandbaby couldn’t say his G’s, so Dumma it was and is forever more. The first one names you. I was thrilled just to have a name.
Hey E-lee-za,
Yes I have a crush on Gerry, but I must admit I am crushing on Richard Armitage much more these days- shew, anyway, love the pic of you and Gerry!
When did I start reading romance, well, I first found the Sweet Valley High books when I was about 13, read every single one of them. I would have my mom drop me off at the library in the afternoon and pick me up before dinner. In that time I would have read one entire book, and had a handful more to take home!
It was only natural that I would move on to the Julie Garwood’s, Marsah Canham’s, Nora Roberts… of the world!
My hubby and I don’t get ‘DATE’ nights very often either. And I’m there with you, a kiss and a cuddle is verra ,verra nice………….. but trust me when I say, NO man will agree!!!! Good luck with that!!
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I’d say that kids are a fair trade. You can date and do all that stuff when they are off and on their own. Or spend the nite with grandma?
Love the photo and YES I am a Gerry addict. He graces quite of bit of room around my monitor and on the walls of my office. Thank goodness my husband understands that Gerry is part of my writing life. (wink, wink)
When my then fiance was in Vietnam in 1968 I worked for accountants and always spent lunch with the secretary next door who worked for lawyers. One day she asked me what I was reading. “Reading?” I said. I hadn’t even thought about picking up a book. I spent a lot of hours each evening writing a letter to send to my future husband (of 41 years next month). She gave me my life that day – she told me to read Shanna – I did and I fell in love with the story, reading, romance, and hunky heros with that one book. I have read all of Kathleen Woodiwiss’s books and treasure them. She gave me romance. Since I’ve always had the traditional people in my heading talking all the time, I learned to put them on paper and have had a wild and delightful journey. Luckily for me, I had a friend who said get into RWA and a local chaper. The rest is history and the topping to the dessert is a Scot named Gerard Butler.
I still have the dream to be published, but if it doesn’t happen, I have enjoyed the journey and even learned to accept rejection gracefully.
I started reading teenage romance when I was 11 or so and switched to Julie Garwood and Karen Robards around 16 or so. At that age, I read romance to try and figure out what love was supposed to be like. I read romance in my 20s to escape because the first man I married was NOT my dream man. I read romance now because the heroes remind me of my husband, who IS my dream man.
As for Gerard Butler, well his attraction waxes and wanes for me. I’m much more likely to have a crush on McSteamy.
I’ve enjoyed romance ever since Nancy Drew fainted into Ned Nickerson’s strong arms. That was fourth grade, and I still read romance as long as it has some adventure attached that will take me away for awhile(thanks, Nancy Drew!) Love your pix, Eliza. Don’t know much about this Butler fella, but he’s cute.
Eliza, you lucky lady! Fabulous arm candy and gorgeous dress? What’s not to love? LOL
I started reading romance way to young (6th or 7th grade) and it completely warped my dating abilities. Sadly, teenage boys aren’t the suave and sophisicated hunks the heroes in romance are!! Imagine that?? LOL I’ve always loved romance and it will always be my favorite genre. I pilfered my moms books back in the day and she *gasps* has switched to mystery/thrillers!! NO romance for her. (of course she said she’d read mine when it’s done.
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Now, about Gerry. Oh, handsome and sexy as all get out, Gerry. . . whenever I think of him, I see his honed chest and beefy arms from 300 A.D. Good golly, that man makes me drool. Did you see The Ugly Truth? Oh, he’s such a hunk!
Happy Anniversary! My wedding anniv. is at the end of the month. LOL We’ve already got our plans set up! A nite out and a movie! Waa-hoo!
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Great post, Eliza! And forget that guy, whatshisname, in that last pix: You look gorgeous!
Hubba, hubba, Eliza! Gerald is a hottie. But -heavy sigh- there is something about Adrian that draws me. I think it’s those firey mysterios oh-so-sexy dark eyes – and the kilt – never forget the kilt… or the blue jeans with well-stretched teeshirt over pecs… or the tucks… then again there is that x-rated photo of him that nearly knocked me over… What was that line from Real Genius? Can you hammer a nail through a six inch board with your penis? After seeing that pic I thought he probably could.
I’ve been reading romance since the mid-70s. I think it stated with Kathleen W, moved on to Rosemary R, Fern M, Cathleen C, then Julie G came along, then reading it just blossomed into an addiction. I love the escape and the other world time settings of historical fiction as well as history books.
Mmm…my crush is Viggo. But Gerard there is a good substitute.
I like to read the occasional romance novel. Read quite a few in my late 20s, early 30s…after kids were born. Something about those Celtic clansmen, damsels, and castles is just addicting sometimes.
Happy anniversary to you and your hubby! Enjoy your night out.
Hi Eliza
Nice article. I hope you enjoy your anniversary date with your husband. Ooh Gerry, yes please I’ll take him home. I started reading, then writing romance novels when my children were small. Janet Dailey was one of my favourites, along with several of the English Mills & Boon authors, Violet Winspear, Charlotte Lamb, Anne Mather to name a few.
Regards
Margaret
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Hi Eliza,
I love love too!! And I love all the drama it takes for the characters to find that love. Great post and love that pic! Have fun with the hubby.