
This morning my husband said I appeared contemplative. He asked what was wrong. I said, “nothing.” He said simply, “you’re lying.”
Tomorrow we’ll celebrate our 20th anniversary. Small surprise that he knows me so well. I was lying. So I spilled it.
Some of you know that I freelance edit for a few small presses. About a month ago, I made the decision to leave those positions and concentrate fully on my writing. As of next month, I’ll have seven releases this year. Between my family obligations, editing my own stuff, promotion, and editing my authors’ stuff, my own writing got pushed to the back burner.
Definitely time for a change.
Family, of course, couldn’t go. It is my first and most important priority. And since writing has been my dream forever, writing and promo couldn’t go. That left editing.
My authors aren’t happy about it, and I feel like I’m letting them down. Don’t get me wrong — they’re all very understanding of my need and desire to focus on my writing. But as I make a change in my own life, I’m inadvertently making a change in theirs, too.
Such is the way of life. One change triggers another, and then another.
I know I made the right decision, but I regret some of its consequences. There is always a price.
In two days, we’ll celebrate Thanksgiving. I’m thankful for the authors whose lives I was able to touch. I’m thankful my writing career is moving along at a nice pace. I’m thankful for the wonderful friends I’ve made through writing and editing. Most of all, I’m thankful for my wonderful family who have encouraged me and believed in me along the way.
What are you thankful for? Have you made any changes lately?



Twitter: violaestrella
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First, happy anniversary!!!! Second, your decision is totally understandable. Third, congrats on your seven releases this year!! And I’ll stop counting now.
I’m SO very thankful for my sons and my husband. I’m also thankful for friends who stick with me through thick and thin, no matter how odd I can be sometimes. Oh, and I’m thankful for having two healthy parents and four siblings, who also stick with me no matter how odd I can be sometimes. LOL Great post, Helen!
Thanks, Vi! This has been a big writing year for you, too. Thanks for sharing what you’re thankful for!
Change always makes me jumpy but there is always something for which to be thankful.
In the last few months, I lost a beloved family member and a 6 1/2 year relationship ended, leaving me in a financial bind.
Yeah, that sounds bad… and it is, but I’ve learned I’m stronger than I thought I was. I am so thankful to my internets friends who have been more than supportive. To my editor, who, while still cracking the deadline whip, has done so with encouragement and affirmation and to my kids, who are awesome.
I feel like I should next thank the academy. ; )
Leaving something behind is always bittersweet, but you have readers who can’t wait to read more Helen Hardt books… like me. : )
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Oh, Lynne,
I’m very sorry to hear about all the painful changes in your life of late, but your hopeful, positive spirit really is uplifting. Thank-you for sharing.
Lynne, let me echo Kris — I’m so sorry for all the painful changes you’ve had to bear lately. But your attitude is terrific, and that will get you far, as you know. I hope to have many more Helen Hardt books for you, and I want to see many more Lynne Roberts books, too!
Happy Anniversary and nothing but the best of wishes in your future writing endeavors.
What am I grateful for? My husband and children. The sun rises and sets with them. Without them, the world would be a dismal place.
Jaime, great to see you, and thank you for the good wishes. I wish the same for you, my friend!
Hi, Helen! My biggest change this year was me becoming a parent. This, of course, necessitated a whole slew of other changes. I completely understand your desire to concentrate on your own writing. I look fondly back on the days when I could write for 10 hours. But, I’m thankful for my little boy and wouldn’t trade him for those 10 hours. I’m also thankful for my loving husband and the rest of my family and friends and fans.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Emma,
Aww, I forgot your baby was a newbie. LOL Have a wonderful first Thanksgiving together!
Oh Emma, I well remember how my first baby changed my life, but you’re right, the pure love and deep enrichment more than make up for the lost sleep and writing time. Thanks for stopping by!
Thanks for the good wishes, ladies!
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Helen,
Funny–I hadn’t realized it until your question, but our lives have calmed down of late, without too many big changes. For several years there, tho, there was lots of work travel (leaving me to single mom it for months at a time, as well as travel single mom) and work changes, and publication contracts, etc. It’s nice to have things be calm for awhile, so I’m certainly thankful for that! LOL
As far as writing, I’m thankful for not only having the ability to write, but the drive to see it done, despite set-backs. That is partly something you cultivate, of course, but a tendency to be persistent (my husband calls it stubbornness) is something to be thankful for–makes it easier to stick with it through the hard times.
Happy Thanksgiving, Helen, and MEGA congrats on your 20 year anniversary!
Kris if you’re looking for a little chaos, you can always come over
Kris, you’re so right — stubbornness is a necessity in this business. I’m glad things are calm for you these days. Happy Thanksgiving!
Congrats on twenty years Helen!!!!
I know what you mean…when I list the things I do, people usually go cross eyed and pass out… I was sad to part with several things over the last year, things I really enjoyed like reviewing, copy edtiing for one company, judging a few contests, and being editor of a chapter’s newsletter.
But like you said, family and writing come first. I’ve still retained A LOT of my other positions I just couldn’t bare to part with yet, and I’m sure over the next couple of years, I’ll cut down some more.
You’re right about it being so hard, especially when your decisions affect other people. I think thats what makes it so hard. One of my goals for 2009 was to learn to say no–there is still another month and half to meet that one! lol
Okay rambling…. what am I thankful for? My beautiful children, my loving hubby, my family, friends and fans. I’m thankful that I have the ability, desire and drive to do a job I love. I’m thankful to be breathing too
It’s a blessing everyday to wake up and still be here. Now that being said, I’ll be even more thankful to wake up to a sunny day, lol. This rain is killing me!
Eliza, you’ve hit on something I forgot to mention yet I’m thankful for every day — breathing! My good health and the good health of my husband and sons is something I’m forever grateful for. I see you’ve left some things you enjoy behind too this year. It is bittersweet, isn’t it? Happy Thanksgiving!
Hi Helen– sorry for the late visit. I just wanted to stop by and say I understand about change too. Many things are changing in my life right now. And I’m so thankful for my family and friends, online friends as well. I’m sure your authors will miss you. But everything is always changing and people have a wonderful ability to adapt.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving and fun trip!
HI Helen!
I know, I know! I’m late! I’m beginning to think “late” is my middle name- that and “forgot something”! LOL
Happy Anniversary! 11/24 is my anniversary (8yrs!) How cool is that?! I’ll always remember yours now.
20yrs is awesome. I tell mine he’s lucky to have me- no one else would put up with his stubborn booty!
I wish you nothing but the best in your full time writing career. That is truly wonderful! You’re such an inspiration, Helen! ((hugs!))