MamaWriters are thrilled to welcome special guest Tessa Dare, who’s burst onto the historical romance map this summer and fall with her back-to-back Regency releases, Goddess of the Hunt (Starred in Publisher Weekly and Library Journal), Surrender of a Sire, and A Lady of Persuasion (all three Romantic Times Top Picks).
She’s with us today, chatting about the birth of her Muse, and its strange, certainly-unrelated, entirely-coincidental arrival at a time when she was pregnant.
Odd, for creativity to work in tandem like that. Hmmm . . .
Please help us welcome Tessa, and chat about Muses, writing, romance, or anything else that floats your romance-loving boat.
The Birth of a Muse
I like to say that my romance writing career is the same age as my three-year-old son. After all, I started writing my debut historical romance, Goddess of the Hunt, when he was just a few months old. I had the rocking chair pulled up to the computer desk, and I would nurse and rock him with one arm while I typed with the other.
In many ways, I think romance novels are all about recapturing that high of an infatuation in its earliest stages. The giddiness, the awareness, the fascination with every little detail of another person. Who better to help me recapture that feeling than a precious little newborn? I could (and did) spend hours marveling over every little wonder of his tiny fingers and dimpled ear and mile-long eyelashes, feeling so very full of love I could burst. He was my muse.
But it actually started before that, during my pregnancy. He was just an embryo (a zygote, perhaps!) when the 2005 film adaptation of Pride and
Prejudice rekindled my interest in all things Austen, and I began writing Austen-based fanfiction online. It must have been the hormones, but for those nine months, I just couldn’t get enough of Regency-set courtship and romance. That pregnancy really uncorked my creativity, and I was able to complete my first work of book-length fiction. Granted, it was fanfiction—but seeing a story through to the end was something I’d never managed to accomplish before. I continued reading historical romance through the rest of my pregnancy. In fact, I was reading Amanda Quick while in labor! And it came as a surprise to no one when I gave him the middle name “Austen.”
Right after my son was born, I was obviously up at all hours of the night, rocking and feeding him. And that’s when I lucked upon the 2006 Avon FanLit romance-writing event. It was an Internet writing competition that spawned an entire online community.
During the six weeks of the contest, I had both an outlet for my creativity (I managed to type out my 1500-word entries during naptime, or sometimes while nursing) and a welcome source of social interaction. FanLit is how I met several of my best writing friends and my two wonderful critique partners—Carey Baldwin and Courtney Milan—who, for reasons of their own, were online at odd hours of the night too. Shortly after the competition ended, we began working on our own original novels, and we’ve become very close friends.
Now my son is a happy, bright, growing three-year-old…out of his infancy, just emerging from his terrible twos, but still taking a few spills here and there as he pushes himself to try new things.My writing career is probably at about the same stage!
Now I look to him as a source of inspiration in different ways—he is always eager to learn, fearless in his pursuit of new skills and knowledge, as all children must be.
How has motherhood affected your own writing journey? (If you don’t have kids, pets count!)




Twitter: wiremamma
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Tessa, thank you so much for joining us here today. I met you on twitter — which is a funny thing to say! I know… Anyway, I love hearing about how your stories follow your son’s progress… LOL at reading Amanda Quick during labor!
I had Goddess of the Hunt in my beach bag all summer, and am still following Sophia to Tortola… what a journey! I’m really looking forward to meeting Bella in book 3…
As to your question, motherhood made me feel like I could complete something I started. Take that extra leap toward getting published. If I’m going to tell my girls they can do anything, I needed to follow up on my dream. PLUS, my critique group was my only form of adult interaction, aside from my hubby! Their encouragement has been paramount…
Thanks again for stopping by today! We’re very glad to have you with us.
~Ashley
Twitter: jeannieruesch
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ADULT interaction!! I swear, without my CPs, my goddesses and the MamaWriters, my online friends, I’d go nuts. Everything I do is centered at home: my work, my writing, and being a SAH mom. It’s such a difference from the days of corporate work and dinners out and ADULTS every day. LOL
I would go NUTS without you ladies.
Hi Tessa
Thank you for the fabulous post..
I am thankful for your son, and your perseverance or we would have lost those great novels you’ve written.
Love & Best Wishes to you & yours,
Rob
xoxo
Hi Tessa! Nice post! Glad you had a successful muse birth! The covers of your books are eye-catching! I love historicals! Best wishes!
I’m a reader not an author. My son and daughter were born 13 months apart. I was pretty busy with my own career, new marriage and then the two jewels! I didn’t get back to voracious reading until they were about 14 and 13 and ready to spend more time wih friends than with mom!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Tessa,
Great post! My children affect my writing career in a huge way. In fact I put it in my dedication in my latest book that they inspire me to be the best I can be. It’s so true! I wouldn’t be the person who I am today without them.
Your books look so good! I’m going to have to get my hands on them.
Twitter: jeannieruesch
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That’s so sweet! My dedication for my first was to the “men” in my life:
My brothers, Jim and Tye, with whom childhood would not hold such great memories.
For my son, Connor, for being the light of my life.
And to the hero in my heart, my husband, David, just because you are you.
What are some other dedications MamaWriters have made in their books?
Hello, everyone! Thanks so much for having me today. I just got back from dropping off the darelings at school – it’s our first rainy school day here in Southern California, and the traffic was a mess!
Anyway, Ashley thank you so much for the invitation and for all your support for GOTH! I definitely know what you mean about writing and critique relationships giving much needed adult interaction! I feel the same about my writing friendships, RWA, etc. Much as I love being a mom, it’s nice sometimes to have a venue where I’m just ME without kids sticking to my legs, you know?
RK, thanks for stopping by! And for all your support over the past few months. So glad to have connected with you through Twitter!
Martha, thanks for your kind comments! Isn’t it funny, how our reading interests and volume vary at different points in our lives? I know how hard it can be to make time to read with small kids, and it has definitely made me trend toward lighter, faster reads rather than weighty tomes, by sheer necessity!
Also, once I became a parent, I lost a lot of my taste for mystery/horror/thriller books and movies. There’s so much more fear in life once you have kids, I guess I felt like I didn’t need to add more with books!
Viola, how sweet that you dedicated your book to your kids! I would like to do that someday, but… it’s hard, when you what’s in the book is so entirely age-inappropriate! LOL. I think my fourth book is dedicated to my family as a whole, which covers them.
Hi Tessa!
Lovely post! I started writing last year summer after my son turned one. LOL My CP’s are my adult conversation, too! Luckily, all the ladies kids are grown and completely understand my need for “Mama Time.” Our Friday night meetings are the highlight of my week.
Congrats on all your success! You’re a real inspiration!
Twitter: wiremamma
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Tessa,
You hit the nail on the head as far as reading changes, post parenthood.
I LOVED Law & Order SVU… I watched them ALL, right up until I brought my daughter home from the hospital. Then, everything changed. My hubby & I both decided what we needed was more comedy. All of our fast paced, hard action drama shows have gone by the way in favor of quick 30 minutes of adult comedy, like “How I met your mother” and “The Office!”
As far as reading changes… I need HEA like water, or air, or sunshine! (In SoCal… um, where’s the sun??)
My attention at the end of the day just ISN’T what it used to be, and morning is for writing.
Just heard that you’re coming to SD in January, to our corner of RWA? Squee!!! Can’t wait to meet you in person.
~Ash
Sarah, good for you! Starting writing with a one-year-old…not easy! I envy your in-person writing group. I love my critique partners, but we are very spread out geographically.
Ashley, good to know I’m not alone in losing my taste for gritty drama! And yes, I’m coming to SD in January! I’m very excited about it. Though I don’t know what I’ll speak about yet…
Twitter: jeannieruesch
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Hi Tessa! Great to have you here.
GOTH is on my kindle next in line to be read, actually! Can’t wait.
I would definitely say that my tolerance for ANY type of TV show that does things to children has seriously depleted. I can’t stand to watch them. Just the other night, hubby and I were watching Trauma and the opening scene showed a man working at a wood chipper, a mother in the kitchen and her two year old running around. Through the entire scene I kept saying, “Not the baby. Not the baby. Anyone but the baby.” Had it been about the baby, I would have turned it off. Do NOT want to watch that.
Stories that have children in them just affect me so much more than they used to. I still love suspense/thriller books, though. (Not a horror fan of any sort.)
And I had to laugh at your comment about typing with one hand and holding your baby in the other…My baby is 3 now, but we just got a new puppy who seems to think that his place to sleep is on my lap while I work, draped over one arm as I attempt to type.
Love your books, Tessa!
I have to laugh as I sit here typing with one hand…nursing my newborn son with the other. I started writing a few months before I got pregnant. My pregnancy dramatically slowed my output…my brain didn’t work very well the first few months and the last couple of months was spent in a fog. However, I did manage to get numerous stories started…now to finish them. It will be slow going until I get my hand back, but I can’t NOT write.
My dedications have been to my husband and his mother without whom I never would have submitted my work.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Hey Tessa~
Thanks so much for coming by today!
I agree with the others who’ve said their taste in movies/books changed dramatically after having kids. I was never too big a fan of intensely sad, heart-wrenching stuff anyhow, but after having a child, I simply couldn’t watch or read such things. Stories about children, whether they’re on TV, in the movies, or in a book, had better be positive, or I’m not doing them. LOL
My Muse has learned to be a harder, more dedicated worker bee since I had kids. There’s just no time to mess around: every spare moment is a writing or revising moment (unless it’s a promo moment, which kinda stinks.) I can’t wait for the good energy to come ot me; I go hunt it down – two horus minimum evyer day! (or lamost See side Wall posts. LOL)
Thanks for coming by, Tessa, and here’s to you having & a long, successful career, one which hopefully will get easier as your son gets older!
Ashley! That’s wonderful news!
SD isn’t so far that some of my YRW peeps and I couldn’t make the trip to see Tessa speak. Could someone give me some details??
How exciting!
Twitter: wiremamma
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Sarah – we’ll talk, chica!
Hello again!
Jeanie, just the words “wood chipper” make me shudder. So not going there. Aw, puppies and babies have that in common — they get in the way of your writing, but look so darn cute as they do!
Emma, that’s too funny. I think at my fastest, I could type about 30 wpm with one hand. You definitely get used to it fast! (I used to be a transcriptionist and could type 80-90 wpm with both) Good luck finishing those stories!
Kris, I loved your comment – it’s so true, that any spare moment you have as a mom is worth gold, and you have to use it to the fullest. The hardest part is that we’re forced to choose between using that precious “me time” for writing OR taking care of ourselves in other ways (sleep!, etc.).
Sarah, I’d love to meet you in SD!
Hello, Tessa.
It was such a pleasure to read how your muse was born. It seems several writers here can attest to that, and I’m going to join the group too.
I took my first course in writing while I was pregnant with my second child. My oldest son was two at the time. It was a home study course and certainly fit my schedule back then of being a stay-at-home mom. I finished the course one month before my second son was born and then real life took over and I had to set my writing aside. To make a very long story short, I wasn’t able to pick up the pen again for about 7 years, but once I did, that internal drive to write romantic fiction took over again (and I wasn’t even pregnant this time).
It’s been a long, long… long, road for me, but I finally became published with a short story at The Wild Rose Press just last month. I currently have several more projects/manuscripts in various lengths and stages. From here on out, writing will always be a part of my life. Like many writers here, juggling work, family and finding time to write “in peace” can be the biggest challenge, but for me, it’s SO rewarding.
I also agree with everyone here that what I choose to watch on TV ( when that once in a blue moon opportunity comes along ) definitely reflects my feelings as a mom – my youngest, a daughter, is nearly a teenager now. Romantic comedies top my list… right up there with a good western flick. I guess I need to laugh away real life stresses or shoot them away – both work for me. ha-ha
Tessa, I love the covers for your books. They’re beautiful! Best wishes to you with your accelerating writing career and with juggling your family’s needs. May you always have the best of both worlds.
~Tess Thieler
TWRP Crimson Rosette – “The Stranger Behind the Kiss”
Twitter: wiremamma
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Tessa,
Thanks again for coming to join us. We enjoyed learning about your story, and chatting with you. Please keep us posted of your new releases, and feel free to come back whenever you like!
All the best,
Ashley
Hi, Tess! I love your name.
What a great story! Like you, I’d taken up and then given up writing several times in my life. It took years before it finally really clicked for me. Congratulations on your publication, and best wishes on your projects in the works!
Ladies, thanks so much for having me here today!
Welcome Tessa! I’m late to the party…
Great post! My writing muse kicked into gear big time when I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter. I’d been writing before that, but not so much as a career, more for fun. She is 3 too
And since then I’ve written a ton. Now with daughter #3 (one month old) I’m still going strong. Actually wrote a novel and a short while pregnant. Here’s to mamas!
Oh and I write while nursing too, lol. My hubby actually asked me, quite amazed how I did it. He tried to just hold her while typing and couldn’t figure it out. Moms rule!
Cheers
Eliza