MamaWriters are thrilled to have author Angie Fox with us today. Her debut book, The Accidental Demon-Slayer, went to the NYT bestseller list right off, which isn’t surprising, with reviews like this, from The Chicago Tribune: “With its sharp, witty writing and unique characters, Angie Fox’s contemporary paranormal debut is fabulously fun.” That she’s had such success is inspiring, as she wrote these books with 2 young children in tow.
Her second book, The Dangerous Book for Demon Slayers, is out now, and her third, A Tale of Two Demon Slayers, is on the way, in February, 2010.
Please help us welcome the Angie Fox!
A few weeks ago, my daughter came to me with a broken Ariel doll. She’d snapped the tail fin right off and was shocked when I couldn’t repair the plastic. “But mom,” she pleaded. “You can do anything!”
I didn’t know whether to correct her or to thank her. Because the truth is, most moms I know are a bit frazzled (myself included). It can be hard to find ten minutes for a shower some mornings, not to mention time to write a novel.
So what is the best way to write while raising kids? I wish I knew. But here are a few things I have learned along the way.
Get organized
Just like your kids have a schedule (mostly), get yourself on a writing schedule. Personally, the only time I can write is when my kids are unconscious, so I write during afternoon nap times. If one or both of the kids don’t cooperate, I set my alarm for 4:00 a.m. the next day and sneak in a writing session before the family wakes up. It’s not always easy. Heaven knows I’m not a morning person. But it’s the best way I know to keep my books, and my writing, on track.
Plus, you’ll be surprised at how your muse really does cooperate when you commit yourself. For example, when I sat down to write the Accidental
Demon Slayer series, I had no notes about a sidekick for my heroine. But in the second chapter, when Lizzie learns she’s a demon slayer and there are some very scary, very angry creatures on her tail, she takes comfort in her dog. As I was writing, I thought, ‘This is a sweet moment. Now how do I throw her off?’
I made the dog say something to her. Nothing big. After all, he’s only after the fettuccine from last week. And he knows exactly where Lizzie can find it (back of the fridge, to the left of the lettuce crisper, behind the mustard). It amused me, so I did it. Thanks to her unholy powers, Lizzie can now understand her smart-mouthed Jack Russell Terrier. I ended up having a ball with it. Pirate can say and do things that my heroine can’t. He’s such a kick to write.
But you know what? I’ve noticed that nine times out of ten, those kinds of “ah hah” writing moments only happen when I’m on schedule and wholly committed to my writing. It’s like making an appointment with your muse. She knows when to show up, and that you’ll be there.
Know you can do it
Just like the time my five-year-old emptied her Barbie pool on her bed “to see what would happen,” I had to go with the flow when I realized I had written a talking dog into a story with a geriatric biker witch gang that was about to hit the road. When unexpected things pop up, the trick is to push forward.
In the case of the Barbie pool, we used plenty of towels – and a hair dryer. In the case of my manuscript, I researched and learned about the Biker Dogs Motorcycle Club, made up exclusively of Harley riders and their dogs. I ended up meeting some of them, along with a few other bikers along the way.
These bikers were so great to me. They hoisted me onto the back of their Harleys (with dogs in tow). They took me to biker rallies (note to self: don’t wear pink). And they laughed at me when I tried to put my helmet on backwards (I still say I was distracted by the Pomeranian wearing a tiny pair of motorcycle glasses).
I was not only able to keep my dog and the Harleys too, but after a few outings with my new biker friends, I was able to make my geriatric biker witch characters a lot more realistic.
Have fun
As moms, we’re so used to doing everything for everybody that we sometimes forget about ourselves. This writing, this time with your book, is something fun and amazing that you can do for just you. What have you always wanted to write? What will you do for the pure joy of it? How can you get started?
Luckily, my critique partner is also the mom of two small kids. We’re always trying to amuse each other as we write. Typical feedback will come like this, “What are you doing? Don’t get me wrong. I like it when you come up with quirky new hideouts for the Red Skull biker witches. But we’re heading into the climax of the book. Why do we need a new one?”
I usually don’t have any good answer to questions like that except, “I did it because it made me smile.” But, really, if I’m amusing myself as a writer, won’t my readers have more fun too? At least that’s my excuse. In the case of the new hideout, it worked out. The Red Skulls end up on this abandoned riverboat that they’d enchanted years earlier (while drunk on dandelion wine). Now they not only need a safe place, but they need to catch the Choking spells, Lose Your Keys spells, not to mention the Frozen Underwear spells ready to attack from around corners and behind the old jukebox.
And in conclusion (because your kids are probably emptying your underwear drawer as you read this), I think it might be easier in some ways to write
while balancing the needs of a family. When you have distractions, you have to take a stand for your writing time and your story. You have to let yourself have fun along the way. And you have a profound sense of accomplishment when you do sit down and let those words flow.
Besides – we’re moms. From what I’ve heard, we can do anything.
New York Times bestselling author Angie Fox writes the Accidental Demon Slayer series for Dorchester. Well, when she’s not chasing her daughter (age 5) and her son (age 2). Visit her at www.angiefox.com





Welcome to MamaWriters Angie! Great post
My kids come to me with broken barbie parts too… especially when our dog has chewed off an arm or leg, lol. I used to try and fix them, tape, glue guns, etc… At one point there was a pile on our island counter of “Things Mom Needs to Fix”
You are so right about keeping it fun. Being a writer is one of the best jobs out there–besides being a mom that is. My husband is quite jealous! He says he wishes he could read and write all day and call it work
I keep hearing from authors that they get up very early 4-5 am to write…. I’m so not a morning person either, but the more I hear it I’m thinking its a good idea. Right now with a baby still not sleeping through the night it won’t happen. BUT, as soon as she gets on a schedule I think I will start getting up early.
Your books sound like a fun read! I’ll be adding them to my TBR list.
Happy reading and writing!
Eliza
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Angie,
Great advice! I love that you added ‘have fun’ because it’s easy to get caught up in in the stresses of both writing and mothering. Gotta have fun once in a while or we’re going to drive ourselves nuts.
Hi Angie,
What a fun post…your books sound quirky and enjoyable.
And lucky you…your kids still belive you can do anything!
A couple tricks I’ve learned on fixing plastic toys (they won’t work for everything, but they’re pretty good):
1) Hot Glue Gun
2) Melt it back together (use one of those grill/candle lighter things with a steady flame)
have a great day,
Allegra
Hi Angie

Thank you for the excellent post.
I enjoyed hearing about your mom adventures. The things our children do that are funny (usually after a day or two) and make great anecdotes!
Thank you for the great writing advice too.
Love & Best Wishes to you & yours,
RKCharron
xoxo
Hi Angie,
Thank you for your great post. I found it motivating. I do find 4 a.m. harsh but necessary at times too. Thank my lucky stars that I have an programable coffee maker!
I also agree that you have to keep it fun. We have to remember why we write.
Your adventure with the barbie pool is why my little ladies never got theirs!!! They’ve already tried to wash their computer with water guns, so I figured why add wood to the fire and give them more ideas!!!
Have a fabulous day,
~Talina
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Angie~
Thanks for playing with us today! (Oh, no. Everything has ‘playdate’ overtones in my life….)
I agree, that it’s the constant interruptions that break up the flow of writing. it’s like getting off at a rest stop on the highway. It’s not just the moments you’re stopped, eating junk from inside, it’s the ‘shoulder’ moments, the braking, slowing, unbuckling seatbelts, and then doing it all in reverse again. It’s mentally taxing.
For me, the trick has been to be 100% ‘present’ with whatever I’m doing. If I’m with my son, I’m WITH him, 100%, not trying to sneak in a few minutes of writing, and then getting frustrated with him for being a little guy who loves me & wants my attention. That’s not to say we don’t expect him to entertain himself at times, but he’s so young, it doesn’t seem fair to expect more.
And that change in MY attitude and approach has helped a lot. Which goes a long way to say whose problem it was in the first place. LOL
Twitter: wiremamma
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That does it. I’m going to have to set the alarm to be up an hour before my hubby. Getting up with him at 5:30am, while munchkins sleep, is great — but we chat for a half hour, then the girls get up sometime between 6 and 7… and there’s Phineas and Ferb on the TV… and no good writing gets done while laughing at Professor Doofenschmertz… But, I digress.
Thanks for the encouragement, and the download on your series! I love the premise and can’t wait to read along. Well done, and thanks for joining us!
Ashley
Hi, Angie, and hello Mamawriters (I’ve been missing all of you)!
The Accidental Demon Slayer has been sitting in my TBR pile for so long, and I’m itching to get at it! Unfortunately, we’ve had a few too many “just to see what would happen” moments around my house lately. Your five year old and her moment had me laughing out loud!
I’d forgotten how great it is to do something just for me…thanks for reminding me!
Best of luck ~
Tiffany
Thanks Eliza! The pile of “Things Mom Needs to Fix” is cracking me up – sounds like my house. Only we’ve begun to take over my husband’s tool bench. It *is* the place to fix things, right?
And yes, writing has to be fun. It’s work, but the reward is fantastic. We moms do so much for everyone else that we need to treat ourselves too.
The 4:00 a.m. mornings can be tough, but they work. That’s key for me. My college friends still can’t believe I do it. I used to have trouble getting up for my 10:40 a.m. classes. But to have that period of time that is quiet, long and all yours becomes a luxury when you have kiddos in the house.
You’re so right, Viola. We got into this (kids and writing) in order to have fun and do something valuable. It can be easy to forget when the characters aren’t cooperating and you’re tripping over Hot Wheels, but as an established writer (and mom) told me once – it’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon.
Thanks, Allegra! I’ll have to try the hot glue gun!
Thanks, RKCharron! Ah, the anecdotes. We have plenty of those. Now if my kids would only stop playing jump rope with my laptop cord…
Yeek, Talina. That sounds like something my son would do. I’m terrified of his Cars magnets (a gift from Grandma). Just one Lightning McQueen on my laptop and there goes the WIP.
Oh and I will tell you one thing about the 4:00 a.m. writing mornings – they’re good for acquiring husband-type help. When he sees I’m serious about staying on track with a book, then he’ll jump in and offer to take the kids out on a Sunday here or there so I can write.
That is so true, Kris. It’s why I have to write only when the kids are sleeping or out with my husband. It’s not fair to me or to them if I’m divided. Plus my kids try to get away with all kinds of things if I take a phone call. I can only imagine what they’d try if I pulled out a WIP.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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LOL–I know JUST what my kid does if I pull out a paper wip. Practically curls up on it like a cat to get my attention!
When I got “the call,” there was a small riot going on in my kitchen. The editor asked if I wanted to call back, and I said, “nooo…” even as I was eyeing my daughter and her wad ‘o green Play Doh.
I ducked out into the garage (in mid-August) and sold my first book. Then I went back in and, well, I’m still finding green Play Doh bits (most recently in the kitchen floor vent – how did it get into the vent?)
LOL! I had an editor call me once during the middle of a 2yo meltdown! I let her continue screaming on the living room floor while I went out onto the deck to finish the call
Play-Doh is my arch nemisis!!!! Well that and markers….
Yes! On the one hand – it is entertaining and fun for them. On the other hand…messy. The only thing I won’t do is Moon Sand. That stuff sticks to everything.
The deck is a good idea for editor calls – much better than my 100 degree in August garage.
OMG I HATE moonsand!!!! My eldest got a variety pack from someone at her birthday party–who I would gladly x off the list from ever being invited again! When she pulled it out I thought, oh no, this is an “outside toy” Well it was a heck of time cleaning it up outside too! lol…. needless to say the pack of colorful nightmares disappeared one day
LOL Colorful nightmares. Somehow, I don’t think the Moon Sand multi-pack would sell as well with an accurate name like that.
LOL. See, now Ashley is going to be cursing me tomorrow morning when her alarm goes off an hour before her husband’s. That’s the hardest part for me, going downstairs when everybody else is snug and asleep.
Twitter: wiremamma
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Why oh why when you make a decision does something happen to block it? DD#2 came down with fever in the night. 1 AM. Out of her head, babbling about aliens (nice ones) who let her bounce on their space ship.
Um. Yeah. She was burning up. Got a cool washcloth for her head, cooled her down, motrin, etc. She finally fell asleep 45 min later. I, of course, in this H1N1 era – watched her like a hawk until her fever broke an hour later. Just a random kid-fever, I hope. She’s staying home from PreK today.
So, I’m still up b4 kiddos – but will try 4am tomorrow!
Glad the fever broke! That’s the thing with kids – just when you think you have a plan, they have a different one.
Thanks, Tiffany. Life is never dull with kids around, is it? Like today, my son showed me how he can vault INTO his crib. He laughed like crazy while I about had a heart attack.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Oh, man! The vaulting. They’re like little Olympians.
Last week, my son showed me how he can stand on the top railing of his ‘crib’ (only it has the front off, so it’s like an enclosed bed) and leap to the floor. I swear, I heard the floorboards start to crack. He said he’s been doing it for days now.
Oh. Wow. Hmm.
Then–not kidding-I woke up the other night after having a dream his bed fell through the floor. LOL
Why do boys feel the need to break themselves in half? My daughter was daring, but not like that (or perhaps I’ve blocked out the memories).
I called my husband today and told him we have to get our son a new bed asap. In the mean time, I lined the outside of his bed with pillows, in case he tries to vault OUT. The boy seemed to think that was quite funny too.