When the youngest of three sons hit eighth grade, we tried a grand experiment…traveling together, just the two of us. We went to Washington D.C., for a week over Spring Break and, amazingly enough, it went really well. One of the great things I learned was that when we left Dad at home, our whole dynamic changed. We’ve had the fun of family vacations and, as the only female in a house full of guys [even the dogs!], I was always The Girl when we were all together. But when it was down to just the two of us, rather than Mom-Dad-Kid on vacation, we were on a more even footing as traveling companions. We had such a good time, when we got home, we swore we’d do it again.
Another opportunity for a Mom-Son trip didn’t present itself until I was planning to go to a conference in Utah last year and considered driving rather than flying. By then my son was a senior in high school and a long weekend in Park City sounded pretty good to him. He was taking a photography class and used the opportunity to photograph some of the amazing scenery around the beautiful Utah resort where we stayed. That was our first solo car trip and I found Number Three to be delightful company. I’ve always liked to think that I raised interesting, funny kids, but eight hours of confined interaction really puts your theories to the test. Fortunately for me, he passed with flying colors! [Or does that mean that I passed???]
It’s conference time again and Number Three has volunteered to go along as traveling companion/bodyguard. Not that I NEED a bodyguard, but I think it gives him a rush thinking of himself along those lines. J Of course, I jumped at his offer and, honestly? I find I’m really looking forward to spending time with him and storing up some new memories.
Because, in the end, that’s what our trips have really been. Special memories.
What about you? Do you have favorite moments you’ve spent with your kids — whether it was school field trips or a special shopping day, or even a day spent home with just the two of you?
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Melissa Mayhue writes the Faerie-filled, paranormal/time travel Daughters of the Glen series for Pocket Books. Her next release, A HIGHLANDER’S DESTINY is due out December 29, followed by A HIGHLANDER’S HOMECOMING on January 26, 2010. You can visit her on the web at www.MelissaMayhue.com



What a nice story, Melissa! That’s wonderful that you’ve had such great one-on-one time with your son. I don’t have any stories to share – yet – as I’m about to become a first-time mommy. I just hope my daughter and I will enjoy time with one another as much as you and your son do
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Jerrica~
Well, yay for impending mamahood! Congrats, and so glad you’re here.
I’m sure you will have many stories, Jerrica! And welcome to MamaWriters!
~ Melissa
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Jerrica! We love mamas in training…
Welcome.
Mellisa – I love your story. My daughters are still little (5 and almost 4), but their dad takes us on regular adventures, camping trips, and beach breaks. I usually am the dedicated photographer of these events, but I’ll never forget the time I FORGOT the camera.
Instead of being devastated by this lack of photo-documentation, I actually participated. We played. We hiked. And I realized, I’d been an observer and sometime participant of their good time. I might not have a hundred pictures, but it’s a time I’ll never forget and a valuable lesson learned for me.
Great post! you must be so proud of your boys…
~Ashley
Isn’t it funny how we automatically fall into roles? I was always photo taker, too… until my middle son got the photography bug. Like you, I hadn’t realized how much I’d been missing out on hiding behind the camera!
~ Melissa
HI Melissa!
I enjoyed your post! My kids are too young to get much out of traveling with us. I do look forward to the day when they get the concept of a trip. LOL Now, all they know is we’re leaving. The farthest we’ve been was a wedding in Grass Valley last summer. Let me tell you, I can’t stand traveling while nursing. I know I’m crazy, but I just can’t function without my lazy boy! LOL
I did tell hubby-man that when the kids are old enugh and studying the world, I’d love to take them to Greece to see the ruins nad to England. I’m 31 and have NEVER been out of the USA and I’ve only seena handfuls of states. I want my kids to see more!
LOL On your son wanting to be a bodyguard. That’s cute! I would have been thinking “bag carrier!”
And welcome, Jerrica! Congrats on your impending arrival!
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Good plan, Sarah! I agree that giving your kids the experience of traveling to many different places can be very valuable to them…and great fun for the whole family!
~ Melissa
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You know, I kinda love the time when it’s just my little guy and me. Hubby has had to travel a lot for work, esp in the early years, and so we end up with lots of time together, just my son and I. And you’re so right, the dynamic really does change. I like it. Not that I DON’T like family time, LOL, but 1:1 time is really special, and quite different.
This is making me think about how the dynamics of h/h change, when they are alone vs. in a group. Tension gets diffused, or added, via the group. Some tensions are fun to play out in a group, like when people are angry (or otherwise
) but have to hold it in check. But no matter what, things change when it’s 1:1.
Cool post! Thanks.
ooooo…. good correlation, Kris. 1-on-1 dynamics ARE always different and that’s a good thing to keep in mind in our writing.
~ Melissa
Great post, Melissa! I love one-on-one time with my boys. The older one has a quirky sense of humor like I do, so we laugh till we cry at ourselves — even if no one else thinks we’re funny!
Isn’t that the best, Helen? Those special shared moments???
~ Melissa