They really are different verbs, aren’t they?
One supposes there IS time, if only one is persistent in seeking it.
The latter disposes with such foolishness immediately. Such happy notions as ‘a spare moment’ or ‘a little free time’ are not found in the life of a mother and a writer. Such things are MADE. Like steel and rocketships and keys to the car.
Last week, Rocki St. Claire came by and reminded us that one must not dream of success. Dreams happen in our sleep. We need to have a goal, and a plan, then execute.
You know, both ‘find’ and ‘make’ are active verbs, requiring full participation, so we writer-moms can’t be faulted there. We’re WILLING to work hard.
But I think we need to dispense with the notion that, if we just did it right, time would magically appear, in some natural, easy way, and then, voila!, we would fill it with writing.
I have found it’s messier than that. The process is messier. More driven, more cut-throat. No prisoners, no stragglers, no excuses. You go in for The Time To Write, and you come out with it, dammit.
We need to wrestle The Time To Write to the ground. Have a cage-match with it. It’s NOT out there, peeking playfully around a corner at us, waiting to be found. It’s wily, and desperate, and it’s laughing at us. (Or maybe it’s only laughing at me. But seriously, it’s not good.)
So . . . if you were to MAKE TWO HOURS of writing time tomorrow, where will you drag them out of ? It need not be 120 consecutive minutes, and you do not need to do ‘good’ writing.
You must, simply, write.
So, where are your 2 hours coming from tomorrow? (That will be Friday, October 2.)
And if you’re not a writer, but a reader . . . what is it that you know, in your heart of hearts, you absolutely must do to be right with your world? When will you do it? Specifically, when during the day tomorrow will you do something to bring you closer to that goal?
Let us know!