One Mother’s Hopes and Dreams, Leading by Example
Marci Baun

As a mother, I have a lot of dreams for my five-year-old daughter. In a few weeks, she starts kindergarten. And while she’s gone to preschool, kindergarten is the beginning of “real” school. Truthfully, I am a bit scared. LOL Oh, she is bright, sweet, and attentive. She’ll do well academically, but she’s also a lot like her mommy: opinionated, stubborn, and strong-willed—not all bad things, necessarily, as I’d rather she’d be a leader than a follower—and I hope that doesn’t get her into trouble. (Voice of experience here. LOL)
My dreams are full of hope. I hope I’ve provided a strong enough foundation that she has the courage, and belief in herself, to try and fail and try and fail and try until she succeeds at whatever she sets her mind to. I hope she escapes society’s pressure to be perfect, or its idea of perfect. (And doesn’t pick up my tendencies of perfectionism.) I hope she continues to love herself and her body. I hope I give her enough tools to navigate the unpredictable road of life and to find joy in the process no matter what comes her way. I hope she loves herself enough to know she deserves the very best treatment, treats others with the same respect she expects to be treated with, and realizes that staying true to oneself sometimes means saying “no”. I hope she avoids the pitfalls I’ve made, and, if she doesn’t, that I have the wisdom, patience, and love to help guide her through the rough patches.
I believe I’ve shown her all of these things through example, but will it be enough? Will she see she can have her dreams too by watching me?
Yes, I have big dreams for my little girl, and I fear I’m not up to the challenge at times. So, I will continue to encourage her, lead by example (note to self: be a little less judgmental of self
), and hope that she attains her dreams.
If this mommy has her way, kindergarten will prove to be the beginning of a wonderful future.
Marci

Marci Baun’s Bio: The publisher of both Wild Child Publishing and Freya’s Bower, Ms. Baun has been in love with the written word beginning with Clifford the Big Red Dog and Curious George. Her reading and interests have expanded since those first books to include history, music, opera, theater, swimming, cycling, nature, travel, and writing. She has written and performed one person shows about historical women in schools, universities and festivals across the state of California and sang with the Coasters and the Drifters, Freddie Hart, as well as on the operatic stage. A few years past, as a member of the Academy for New Musical Theatre, she composed music for a twelve minute musical. When time permits, she hopes to return to the theater. In her other life, she is a stay-at-home mom.
She is also the co-chair of New Voices (http://www.newvoicesyoungwriters.com/), a young writer’s competition open to young authors ages 11-18 years or 6-12 grades (public, private or home schooled).




Hi Marci!
Congrats on your girl starting Kindergarten! How exciting for her! LOL I know what you mean about hoping she doesn’t display too much of ‘mommy’s attributes.’ My 3 y.o starts pre-school in two weeks and I’m already seeing plenty of the “Mrs. Simas, We need to have a little talk” coming my way. My girl is 100% carbon copy of her assertive mama. LOL
I’m so excited to see my girl experience school for the first time. Good luck and have fun with daughter’s new adventure!
Hi Sarah!
Thank you. We are excited mixed with trepidation. She doesn’t care if she goes or not. Although she would like to play with other kids more often (she’s been out of preschool since June 30th.), she’s content to be home with Mom. LOL
Oddly enough, we didn’t have a lot of that from her preschool. She was sweet and attentive…most of the time. Apparently, she did throw a few tantrums if extremely tired or not enough food. (Yeah, she’s a bit like her mama. LOL)
Good luck to you too!
Marci
Twitter: wiremamma
says:
Hey, Marci!
Nice to meet you. We’ve got a bunch of mommy-authors here who have 5yos just starting kindergarten!
First thing – My daughter lost her backpack on the FIRST Day! the teacher.emailed me last night — She hunted for it after school and found it on a stray hook. How awesome is that?!
Second thing, my daughter had HOMEWORK. First day, we had to draw a picture of the teacher and remember stuff she learned about her new teacher. To which I get: She married a basketball guy or something. Hmmm. Do I write that verbatim? or paraphrase?
Finally, her little sis is having issues with being separated. they’ve been together since day 1. I knew there’d be difficulty, so I’m canvassing for ideas. Please chime in if you’ve got one!
BUT yesterday, DD#1 announced that she has a best friend. That, to me, makes up for ALL of the worry–all of the wondering and fear. She’s starting her life, and we get to be right there–cheering her on all the way.
Nice to meet you!
Ashely
Ashley,
That reminds me that I will need to write her name on her backpack in permanent marker. LOL Not that others will intentionally steal it, but I am sure there are numerous little girls with a Disney princess backpack. LOL
As I have only one child, I don’t have any good suggestions for that. Perhaps you can encourage DD#1 to share her experiences with DD#2. That way DD#2 doesn’t feel left out so much.
Of course, this will only make DD#2 want to go to school sooner.
Not a bad thing. Mine is not so excited about kindergarten. She is enjoying her time with Mommy.
Marci
Twitter: violaestrella
says:
Hi Marci,
What a beautiful post! With a mommy with such loving hopes, I’m sure your daughter will blossom no matter what.
Thanks, Viola. I am hopeful. (grin) Um, a bit nervous, but still hopeful. LOL
Hi Marci,
Thanks for joining us today at MW! I know you and your work ethic, and I’m sure all those wonderful qualities about you will be emulated by your daughter.
What a great post!
Renee
Well, she’s already emulating some of my not so great traits, but we’ll survive. LOL Now, all I have to do is get her to emulate the better ones.
Marci
You’re daughter’s strength and intellect will be her greatest asset to accomplish all her goals. Keep the image of others and yourself in the positive. She will stay confident in her looks.
Good luck to you both!
Thanks, Sassy.
I do my best not to be derogatory about anyone’s looks. Occasionally, someone will wear something that is, well, more than I can resist, but for the most part, I say very little about someone’s looks unless I am describing them in the positive.
Marci
Hi Marci! Congrats on your little girl’s milestone! I had a tougher time the first day than my kids.
It’s the beginning of a great journey, one you can share and cherish forever.
And thanks for encouraging young writers – the younger they start, the more experience, and the better the author they’ll become.
I am not sure how easy it will be. She starts on September 2nd, a Wednesday. (Don’t ask me why. It doesn’t make any sense to me either.)
I love being the co-chair for this great competition. The judges are all industry professionals (professional writers, editors, publishers, teachers, and librarians), all entrants receive positive feedback from the judges, AND it’s free to enter. Great contest! Not that I am biased at all. LOL
Marci
Welcome to Mama Writers Marci!
Congrats on the milestone
I remember when my daughter went to kindergarten. You just never think that days going to come! But it sounds like you’re a really good mom, and she is going to turn out wonderfully!
Well, I hope to be. I am sure I have my moments. LOL
Marci
Marci, what a lovely post! My boys are teens now, but I well remember that first day of kindergarten — and all the hopes and fears that came with it! Your daughter will blossom with you to guide her
.
Thank you, Helen. I hope she does and I know what I’m doing. LOL
Marci
Hi Marci,
Enjoyed your post. I think you touched on one of the most important aspects of raising children-self-worth. It’s so tough today to teach our kids to love themselves for who they are and how they look. It takes so much courage to stand up and be original. If those are the kind of goals you have for your daughter–no doubt you are on the right path.
Thanks, Dani. I am hopeful. I can only do my best…will it be enough? Only time will tell, huh.
Marci
Hi Marci! As a mother of 4, I know what you mean! I have 2 teeneage girls, a ten-year old son and a four year old son. I’m in it for the long haul! I have learned that even though raising kids today is tough, you must still try to implement in them good values, respect and individuality. I am happy to say that I have based my relationship with my children on being honest and open with them, but still maintaining a level of control when it comes to their well-being. As a result, I feel my children have come to learn responsibility and hopefully, when they become adults, they will be able to use their childhood experiences to become productive and well rounded individuals so they can accomplish any and everything they wish to endeavor.
Great post, Marci!
My youngest son is the same age as your daughter, but he’s the classic “boys are not as mature as girls” kid. I’m too afraid to unleash his imperialistic randomness upon the system. Besides, they’d probably tell me to medicate him – I’ve heard that song before with my eldest, and he turned out just fine. Just uber creative, I guess.
Take care!
G.
Every child develops at their own time. I am concerned about unleashing my opinionated, smart, but sweet daughter on the system too. LOL
Marci
Congratulations on your daughter’s exciting new adventure, Marci!
I’m sure it will be a thrill for both of you. Hope we get to hear lots of fun stories about the joys of kindergarten from the eyes of the strong-willed student and her mom!
Thanks, Irene.
We shall see. She was asking: “Well, what if I run into a bully there?” My response: “You might. You might not, but if you do, first tell them to stop. If they don’t, then tell the teacher. If the bully continues after you’ve told the teacher, hit them so hard you knock them on their butt.”
No, I’m not into making a bully, but I want her to know she can protect herself when no one else is, and I’m not there to do it.
Marci