School starts back up in ten days and I’ve been wondering what my sons are going to tell their friends, teachers, and whoever else asks what they did the entire break. In the past, they’ve picked out an event that usually surprises me. Despite the money we spend on our annual vacation, they always seem to remember a small experience that had impacted them somehow.
Needless to say, it doesn’t take an extravagant affair to make an impression on them when they’re younger. Honestly, what I remember from my childhood isn’t the money my family spent (or didn’t have the means to spend). It was the small stuff.
I’m raising my children in Colorado, but for the most part, I grew up in Phoenix, Arizona. The summers were HOT, to say the least. But as a child who needed fresh air and didn’t like being cramped up with my older brothers and sisters, I learned to deal with it.
My friends and I used our imagination on a daily basis and did things I don’t ever want my children doing. We walked or rode our bikes everywhere. In neighborhoods that weren’t exactly safe, we explored, we met interesting people, and we avoided the precarious people. Sometimes I sat back and proudly watched my bold friends tell off the precarious people. Why not? We were immortal. Nothing could hurt us that we couldn’t handle. (I guess you could call us tomboys…or just really naughty.)
Then, we made up stories about those people on the way home, only to realize we didn’t know how to get home. Oh boy. Those were the times to panic.
My mom is going to kill me if she ever reads this. Don’t worry, Mom! Nothing bad ever happened to us. We always found our way, and it gave us confidence. Maybe even some street smarts.
Some days, we would scrounge enough money to ride our bikes to the local convenience store to buy a soda and some candy. Other days, we went to the public pool and didn’t bother with sun block. Sun block? What’s that? One summer my best friend and I found an abandoned trailer in a vacant lot. We cleaned it out and made it our clubhouse. Then, one day, I stepped on a piece of glass that pierced through my flip flop and sliced off a quarter of my big toe. Our parents found out about the trailer after that and our fun there was over. Darn.
My big toe holds one of a few scars I’d acquired during my childhood. I have a story for each one of them. None of these memories required much or any money, and they are the things that stick out most from my childhood summers.
It’ll be interesting to see what my children remember in another ten or twenty years. I’m hoping their memories are a little safer than mine, but I also hope they have as much fun.
Is that too much to ask for four boys?? Safety and fun, while growing up?
So tell me some of your favorite memories. Do you have a scar story to share? Go on. We won’t tell on you. Pinky swear.
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Twitter: wiremamma
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My big sis and I got into our share of scrapes growing up. The best times I remember are playing with her in the backyard, in the super heated Tucson, AZ sun. Splashing in the pool. Whispering secrets and not knowing the half of what we were talking about!
BUT the time we played school, when she was the “mean girl” and I was the “nice girl” and she pushed me down, and broke my arm! that was a doosey! My mom & dad were out and she was “watching me” and tried to get me to promise not to tell. LOL.
Twitter: violaestrella
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Oh, you grew up in AZ, too, Ashley? How neat! That’s so funny about your sister. Well, it probably wasn’t funny at the time.
Good thing we can laugh about all this now. I think I was lucky to not break any bones. Big sturdy bones runs in my family. It’s a good thing too, since my older brothers were dare devils. Do you believe they actually used to ride their bikes off the roof of the house and into the pool? Yikes.
Great post!
I remember mostly swimming in the pool and playing with friends. We did take a lot of trips to Europe and the beach, and I remember those too.
I’m curious to see what my kids remember too! I’ll have to ask them tonight at dinner.
And as for your question, I think for four boys, fun yes, safe…maybe not so much, lol
Twitter: violaestrella
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LOL, Eliza! Thankfully my sons inherited my sturdy bones. No broken bones yet. Knock on wood!!
It’s scary when I think about what my friends and I did as kids. We rode our bikes everywhere. My mom never knew where we were, what we were doing. We were good kids, but these days, I don’t know of any parents who don’t love the security of cell phones. I can contact my boys at any time and know they’re safe. Our parents didn’t seem to worry as much — they took it for granted that we’d be safe. We definitely live in a different world today, and I wonder if it’s a detriment to our children? Will they learn independence as we did? I hope so!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Helen, you’re right. It is a different world today. I’m a little more cautious about letting my kids stray too far. Will they learn independence as we did? That’s a good question. I hope so, too.
I would have to say my favorite memories of days from summer’s past have to be when I was much younger. We used to hang out on mine or one of my other’s friend front porch really late telling ghost stories. The parents didn’t care because we were in the front of the house where we could be seen.
Then when we felt the adults were asleep (which usually happened) we’d sneak off the porch and go on dare adventures at 1 or 2 in the morning. It was a blast and surprisingly none of us got hurt. However if my kids did any of the things we did I would kill them!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Toni,
Aw, yes, ghost stories. What memories! My friends and I used to play Ditch ‘em, which was basically hide and seek at night. Oh, and Truth or Dare. Remember that?
The most vivid memory of my summers involve being at the sea. Thanks, Viola, for the inspiration to think back.
Clare
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Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Clare, Isn’t fun to think back once in a while? Thanks for commenting!