Summertime…and the living is easy…
That’s one of my favorite songs from the musical “Porgy and Bess”.
Unfortunately, ”summertime and the livin’ is easy” doesn’t exactly describe life right now. For me it’s more like:
Summertime…and the living is still crazy, just like it was during the school year…except now the kids are home 24/7…and I’m about to throw myself on the bed and cry like a baby until eleven.
Sound familiar? And how’s that working with your writing? Staring at a blank screen? Distracted by life? Completely verklempt because this is the only twenty-two minutes and twelve seconds you’ll be able to squeeze in for writing today?
I feel your pain…
I’ve been staring at a blank screen for almost a full week now while also trying to keep my three children occupied (a seemingly impossible feat), the house clean (Why do I even bother?), the laundry caught up (Ever noticed how it triples during the summer? What is that about?!), and food in the house (Ever notice how it disappears five times faster in the summer? I ask again – what is that about?!).
I swear – and you all are my witnesses – next year I’ll be finished with my manuscript/s by summer so that I can just read and research.
But…I love writing. It’s like a bubblebath or a brisk walk or a nap. It leaves me refreshed, excited, energized!
It’s summertime and the living is anything but easy!
So, what’s the solution for my sudden case of summertime blues?
I’m going to take a hint from George Matheson:
“We conquer, not in any brilliant fashion, we conquer by continuing.” –George Matheson
I’m going to continue – even if one day I continue for five minutes, the next day three and the next twenty-two minutes and twelve seconds. I’m going to plop on down in that writing chair and write – as much as is absolutely possible in twenty-two minutes and twelve seconds punctuated by whines and cries of, “Mooooooom (don’t forget the shrill rollercoaster falsetto)! He took my [fill in blank with any of a million possessions that up until that very moment my child had forgotten he or she owned]!” or “Mooooooom! She’s on my side of the couch!” or “Mooooom! I’m bored!”
But school just got out forty-eight hours and fifty-three seconds ago…
It’s gonna be a looooooong (don’t forget the used to be shrill now tempered with puberty plus a few years, rollercoaster falsetto) summer!
The Pulitzer Prize winning poet Stephen Spender said, “The best thing is to write anything, anything at all that comes into your mind, until gradually there is a calm and creative day.”
He forgot to add: after the kids are back in school.
Got the summertime blues? What cures have you found?
BTW, WordPress is adding to my distress (I refuse to believe it’s operator error or, as my husband would say, an ”ID 10 T” error) - it keeps messing with my formatting and my twenty-two minutes and twelve seconds are almost up! So ignore the strange colors and odd paragraphs, please. It’s a side effect of the summertime blues. :0)



Tiff, I love that idea of using summer for reading and research. I think we should all plan it for next year!!
Helen,
It’s a deal then! :0)
T
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Tiffany~
Oh, MAN do I love that quote from George Matheson! That is so so right on target!
My son has not even started school, so I’m the person who doesn’t know how good the kids-are-in-school-I’ve-got-time thing can be.
But I know writing is definitely harder when the kids are demanding your attention.
I don’t feel like I can share any great suggestions for older kids, as I only have the young ones.
Some things that work for me:
~ I still sometimes set a timer for my son, and he knows I have until then. Another thing I do is I definitely call it ‘work,’ and show him books, to see what I do.
~ Eliza had suggested this next idea one too. I tell my son he can write his own book, and after we talk a little about what he might like to ‘write’ about (i.e. give him ideas and get him excited), I set him up nearby with crayons and paper. Then I come over sometimes and pitch in, then go back to my work. We chat a little during this, but it does get me some time, maybe 10 minutes (my son is only 4). This is usually better for editing stuff, not writing fresh pages.
~ I wear a purple baseball cap when I can’t be interrupted. When that’s on my head, he knows I can’t talk (unless he’s hurt or something.) He finds that funny, and so it works relatively well. And often, if he has to wait even 30-60 seconds, the problem has passed, and he doesn’t come back up. For another whole 3-5 minutes! Wow. LOL
~ If it’s nice outside, I set up the sprinkler, a towel and bring my laptop outside. This is much more effective if I can get another little friend to come over.
~ I’m a fan of irreverent responses, and I know you can be too, Tiffany.
They seem to work well, certainly much better than anger and frustration, and can help deflect the kids’ need for our interventions as much, since irreverent involvement doesn’t really seem to help them much. Or at least not like they wanted.
~ I am also a fan of dirt and water. LOL I give my son an area he can dig in to his heart’s content, and give him the hose, and let him loose. I would have a truckful of dirt delivered if my husband would let me. I don’t need playground equipment–just a huge pile of dirt.
~ I set up our tent. It’s up most of the summer, sitting there, alternating between castle, space ship, cave for hiding from dinosaurs, and general weapons cache (sticks and whatnot.)
~ Oh! And, when we ARE spending time together, and things are going nicely, I talk to my son about how important it is for me to write, and that that next day, I’ll needed to get some writing done too, etc tec. You know, setting up his expectations. Amid that, I make sure I give him devoted, dedicated time too, so I’m not always shooing him away.
Good luck this summer, Tiffany! All of us!
We should all keep sharing our tips and ideas. Maybe I’ll copy this to the Bulletin Boards too . . .
Kris,
All great ideas! I’m hitting myself on the forehead thinking, “Duh! Why didn’t I think of those?”
My kids are older and I’ve gotten out of the constant entertainment (by me or toys or activities) mind set.
You know what I just thought of? My kids spend hours at the local swimming pool…there are life guards and actual tables with umbrellas scattered around. I live in a small town and we like to chit chat while the kids are splashing. But maybe, just maybe, I could chat for a bit then put my headphones on! I’d be right there, periodically checking on the kids and have the lifeguards to “assist”. Aahhh! Brilliant – and I have you to thank. Gol, why didn’t I think of that earlier?! Must be too close to the prob (kind of like my manuscript).
Have a wonderful day! And thank you, thank you, thank you!
Tiff
Tiff,
Ah, the school’s out blues! Of course, my little one is too little for school, but many of my writing colleagues feel the same as you. I can imagine. I know it’s hard enough to keep up with writing when Jaime is home–but if I had free time and then it was taken away–I would cry too! I love my son more than anything in this world–but, God help me, I relish my free time too.
I love Kris’s ideas. You rock, gf. I love the idea of wearing a baseball cap–how cute. Whatever works.
Great post, Tiffany!
Renee
Thanks, Renee!
Sometimes it just helps to vent and then know other writers are struggling with the same thing.
Have a good one!
Tiff
Great post Tiffany! I feel for ya!
I was going nuts the first week. They were totally crazy and off schedule. BUT I think I have it figured out now. I let them stay up until 9 – 9:30 and now they are sleeping in until 8:30-9, which gives me about 2 hours of peace in the morning to write, read, check emails, shower, do laundry, etc…
I also have daily (M-F) activities planned (which some may work for older ones, and some may not), for example:
Monday: Movie Day (this could be them watching a movie at home, or I found free movies playing in our county)
Tuesday: Water Play Day (we either play with water at home, or go to our gym pool)
Wednesday: Art Project Day (some of it is fun and some of it is chores, like I’m going to have them help me strip and re-paint their computer desk)
Thursday: Friends day – they have friends over or they go to their friends house
Friday: Library Day
You could add in a park day, out to lunch day, shopping day, beauty day, sports day, etc… They look forward to it, we do it together, then the rest of the day while I’m working they can do chores, play, read, etc…
Good luck this summer!
Love Kris’s ideas! I still need to try the hat! And I WISH we could set up a tent out back! It’s so darn windy here, even our trash can blows away when full, we have to have it held down, and the cushions on my deck furniture? Pshaw! They are never in place! We do have swings though and I let them play out there a lot.
Good luck!
Eliza,
Oooh! I love your schedule (I remember you talking about that earlier in the summer). That’s a great idea, and my kids are independent enough that if I get them out for a bit, they’ll entertain themselves when we get home.
I have gotten better about really using that couple of hours first thing in the morning. I used to answer emails, do housework, etc….now I just write – like crazy! And sometimes I get more than that twenty-two minutes and twelve seconds. Whew-ew!
Thanks. Good luck this summer.
Tiff