This past weekend, I went shopping with my best friend. It’s the first time I’ve stepped foot in a mall in ages, but more importantly, it’s one of the rare times I’ve shopped for clothing that did not have the ultimate requirement of “Toddler-Approved.” It was thrilling. It was fun.
And it was done in the first half hour.
Granted, telling this later to my husband, he thought this was impressive. Shopping is something to be managed as quickly as possible, for the least amount of pain involved.
However, this does NOT leave any room for meandering down the aisles, looking at the pretty, pretty clothing. Or snickering at the ones that you just cannot imagine anyone letting leave the showroom floor. Shopping? In a HALF HOUR? I had so been looking forward to the hours I imagined it would probably take to find just the right shirt and accessories to wear at my book launch party on the 16th. But for the first time ever, I actually found what I wanted when I wanted it.
Of course, that simply meant that BFF and I went to dinner early. We had cocktails and swapped gossip and old stories. A pretty fantastic way to pass the extra hours, but that’s another post altogether…
I will admit it, much of my clothes shopping is done by looking at labels. Will this wash well often? If I get PB&J finger prints on my back, will they come out with relative ease? If anything remotely states “delicate fabric”, that translates to “keep your babies away.” However, on this auspicious day, I was able to shop withOUT looking at cleaning directions. Because I was buying Non-Mommy clothes.
Admit it. If you are like me, you can take a two-second glance in your closet and dissect it right down the middle. The much smaller section of hangers on one side contains your pretty, Non-Mommy clothes. These are most likely fitted to your actual body and size, perhaps even tailored. Most likely very lonely.
Then there are the Mommy clothes. I have each shirt in five different colors. Mostly t-shirts of some sort. They may have suggested attempts at style when I bought it, but it’s long since faded or stretched from the tiny little fingers constantly grabbing. (Who knew they had the hidden talent of stretching fabric?) I call these the Target T-shirts. Bargains, cheap, quick to toss in the washing machine and void of any sex-appeal whatsoever.
My writer clothes might even be considered a step down in the clothing hierarchy. Because while I do venture outside and into public in the Mommy Attire, I would generally not be caught dead outside my front door in my writer clothes. It often consists of sweats (or something with an elastic waistband), big fuzzy socks, and depending on the weather, a t-shirt that says “My hero can kick your hero’s butt” or the Mickey Mouse sweatshirt that is so large, it looks like Mickey’s hand is copping a feel. Yup, not exactly glamorous, that.
So back to my shopping excursion. The fabrics! The shiny silver jewelry. Trying things on and worrying only about how well it fit, not how well it would last in the world-war-three explosion of my son’s lunch the following day. It was lovely. Wonderful. So relaxing.
Of course, I wear that shirt in two weeks. The rest of the days? Well, right now, my hero is definitely kicking your hero’s butt. Or at least my chest.
So ‘fess up… what’s your writer and Mommy attire?
![]()
And just because I stumbled upon these cartoons and loved them, I wanted to share the site with you. The cartoon above comes from Cathy Thorne and http://www.everydaypeoplecartoons.com/ . AND they come on t-shirts to boot!! Who would have guessed? I wonder if I can order these in five different colors….
![]()
Jeannie Ruesch



LOL — I’m wearing jeans and my Got Wolf? t-shirt. It’s XL and hangs on me. But comfort rocks!
Helen
Twitter: jeannieruesch
says:
Comfort absolutely rocks!! I mean, I know Stacey and Clinton would have heart attacks at the mere mention of elastic waistband, but hey…I’m sitting at a computer. I MUST be comfy.
So okay, folks…let’s have it — your oldest tshirt? Your funnniest??
My oldest and favorite (because it’s sooooo soft by now) is an ancient Old Navy t-shirt. I love sleeping in that.
Fabulous post Jeannie!!!!
Ah mom clothes
My BFF and I often joke that we have like 4 outfits, and we have to do our own laundry at least twice a week because if we don’t we have to wear dirty clothes
My “mom” clothes consist of jeans, t-shirts and flip-flops, and if its winter, I just add a sweatshirt or hoodie to that! Gotta have layers, all the cleaning and running around can make a woman hot.
Here’s a good example of how my hubby must view me. One day I actually took the time to blow dry my hair instead of the automatic pony tail, still wore jeans and flip flops, but I wore a nicer shirt. He came home and was like, wow you look so nice today. LOL!!!! I almost died laughing.
Writing clothes consist of the same old mommy clothes or my pjs–sweatpants and a tank top.
Non-Mom clothes? That section of the closet is so small I really have to dig to find it. But I do have a couple dresses, some nice pants and a few dress shirts.
Now what I want to know is, how big a section in your closet contains clothes you “might” wear again? Mine takes up more room than the clothes I wear right now…I need to clean it out.
Love the pics btw! They are so true!
Twitter: jeannieruesch
says:
ROFL at the “you look so nice” comment. When I came out of the bedroom on Saturday (I had a workshop to give before going to meet my BFF), my hubby looked at me like I was a different woman. LOL
And truly? BLOW DRY my hair? Pshaww…who has time to do that anymore? *grin*
And I am NOT admitting to any section of my closet being the “will wear again someday.” Nope. Not gonna do it. Because it’s not like there’s a whole shelf full of “those” jeans or anything.
LOL! “Those jeans…” I won’t tell you how many of those I have!
I blow dry my hair so often that my 3yo just asked me what the dryer was…yeah, tells ya something doesn’t it? lol
I’ve always been a comfort girl. My wardrobe mostly consists of tank tops and t-shirts with jeans and shorts. I also have some easy to take care of short sleeve button downs. However, I do like to dress up as well…so I have a few nice dresses and tops.
Pregnancy and writing attire is pretty much the same…tank top with shorts for writing and change into a skirt to head out.
Twitter: jeannieruesch
says:
Skirts? You’re one up on me! LOL
I know, I’m sounding like an absolute slob about now. *sigh* I promise, I do have the ability to dress like a normal person when I’m in public. Really!
I’ll even take pictures at the book signing to prove it.
Twitter: wiremamma
says:
Jeannie – I love your dual posts today. Just left one at your other site…
I love and long for shopping time with girl friends. I have to admit, most recently, involved a brief shopping adventure with my mom, and a few dashes into Kohls, buying everything that catches my eye in the Daisy Fuentes / Elle aisle in my size, with the majority still to be returned. Save for the t-shirts in 5 colors. LOL.
Adding insult to injury, they just increased the size of our mall. I pass by williams sonoma and pottery barn with toddlers in tow… I will not take them inside. I cannot justify taking two whirling dervishes inside where glass gleams, and china sparkles.
I did get to wear my non-mommy clothes that I bought a few months ago when shopping with my mom – when DH and I went out for a grown up date night. While putting on my makeup, my daughter said to me with a big grin!
“You look just like Grandma!”
I looked at myself again. SKIDDED to a halt. She was right. A taller, longer haired version of my mother. (NOT THAT This is a bad thing — hi, mom!)
I grabbed the Kohl’s exchange bag and found a different shirt.
Twitter: jeannieruesch
says:
Hi Ashley! I’m all about making fun of things today.
Making fun of my clothing here and making fun of the worst things writers do to their careers over there. Seemed like good Monday morning conversation.
And Kohl’s is fantastic for tshirts in 5 colors. In fact, most recently, that is where my recent Mommy attire clothing came from. LOL
Twitter: violaestrella
says:
Oh yeah. I’m all about clothes that I can throw in the wash over and over again. Dry cleaning? Forgetaboutit.
Twitter: jeannieruesch
says:
Over and over and over and over…sometimes twice in one day over. again.
Yup. Totally get that.
Dry cleaning is just too much hassle. Especially since in my little town, we don’t have one so I have to to the “big” town to drop it off. Why do that, when I can grab tshirt style #4B in color #4 instead?
I remember the good old days when my BFF and I would go shopping for hours. Flash to the present…I’m in and out of a store in less than a half an hour! Thanks to kids and a hubby (who seems to have less patience than my toddlers) I’m flat out zooming around the store. LOL
As for clothes, the last time I shopped for myself was in Oct 08 and I was so lost, I had to take my SIL!!! *sigh* Don’t even ask me about doing my hair. I miss the easy days of the Jennifer Aniston shag, LOL