Today is release day for me! The third and final story in my Highland Jewel Series, Love In A Box, released today with The Wild Rose Press.
Now that I’ve shouted my news, I’ll move onto today’s blog…
Sex. What is sex? What does S-E-X mean?
Dear Lord help me! I got the question last week in the car on the way to drop off my eight-year-old at school. So here’s what happened, they said “sex” on the radio. DD#1 pipes up, “they said a bad word!” I was very confused, I hadn’t heard any of the usual bad words, you know, shut-up, stupid, heck J but then again I was kind of in my own little world, which isn’t unusual for me…
“I didn’t hear a bad word.”
“They said, S-E-X.”
“That’s not a bad word, sweetie.”
“It’s not? What does it mean?”
Cue my lips to clamp shut, heart to palpitate…I am not prepared for this. What do I say? We’re almost to her school. Oh, heck! Stupid radio, they should shut up!
“Well, since we’re almost to school, how about we talk about it when you get home today?”
She agreed, but she never asked me when she got home, and I of course haven’t got the B-A-L-L-Ss to bring it up. Despite the fact that I’m a romance author, I talk openly about S-E-X with my hubby and friends, I shut-down when asked by my little angel. I’ve had eight years to prepare, but I’m a total wimp! I know, I know, I need to get over it and talk to her about it, but I’m so nervous. I don’t want to say the wrong thing. I want her to know that sex is a healthy thing between two adults who love each other (preferably married, but I am realistic too.)
I need advice! I know this is going to come up again, and soon. I’m actually surprised since I’m pregnant she hasn’t asked how the baby got in there. Maybe she already knows and she was just placating me.
Have any of you had this discussion yet?
And since we’re on the topic of sex, I’d like to know how you feel about writing and reading sex scenes. I am very open about it. I’ll read just about anything (as long as it doesn’t depict depravity and anything illegal of course.) And anyone who’s read my work knows my scenes go from sizzling hot to erotic. For me writing a sex scene is at first mechanical. I know how it plays out in my head and I write the bare bones of it (pun intended *wink*). Then I go back and add in all the emotion, how I want the story to progress from this love scene, what it means to my characters. To me the sex means something, even if it’s a quickie.
I feel the same way when I’m reading. I love a hot sex scene, but I always look for the deeper meaning. I do occasionally appreciate the gratuitous hook-up, but I’m still looking to see how the characters grow and change from it. Does their relationship progress or regress?
So tell me your thoughts? What does sex in romance writing/reading mean to you?
If you are a fan of my highlander erotic time travels, here is the blurb for Love In A Box, and if you answer my question correctly, you could win an e-book copy!!!
Colin MacDuff has grown up learning the ways of Highland warriors from his father Donell–but he’s never believed his parent’s fanciful stories of time travel, true love and a brooch known as the Highland Jewel. Until…he lands on his butt, literally, in the year 1648. Before him is the most beautiful, not to mention sexy as hell, woman he’s ever seen. The only thing is, she refuses to be his, or to believe in the power of the brooch.
Sera wishes she’d been able to escape the Highlands like her sister did, and vows she won’t marry for anything less than love, and refuses to be a pawn in a marriage deal. Until…Colin shows her what she’s missing. He takes her body to the heights of heaven and back, all while proving to her that true love is possible.
Now everything and everyone, depends on the future of these two lovers. Will Colin stay in the past to save the future, and will Sera succumb to passion and love?
Here’s the question for your chance to win!
Eliza Knight is the author of sizzling historical romance and time travel erotic romance. She is also the author of the award winning blog, History Undressed. She teaches various workshops on writing craft and history. Visit Eliza at www.elizaknight.com or www.historyundressed.blogspot.com