Mama Writers welcomes historical romance author Delilah Marvelle. Delilah’s much acclaimed debut novel, MISTRESS OF PLEASURE, was an RT REVIEWER’S CHOICE AWARD NOMINEE
for Best First Historical Romance of 2008! Her writing sparkles, her generous spirit is known throughout romance writing circles, and I am lucky to call her friend.
Take it away, Delilah…
Once upon a time… by Delilah Marvelle
I have a rather sad confession to make. A confession I only share with those who know me very well. From the age of ten until nineteen, I grew up in a very abusive household. It wasn’t my father who terrorized me. Not at all. It was the woman whom my father married long after divorcing my mother. Yes. My stepmother. As a result of never knowing what to expect from day to day from this woman, either mentally or physically, it was very easy for me to slip into a world of fairy tales that had all sorts of evil witches and stepmothers.
Because I was living with one.
Those fairy tales ultimately made me believe that despite the power of a witch or a stepmother, a happily ever after was more than possible. I clung to those stories, which ironically my father read to me almost every night, with every ounce of my heart and soul. Growing up in the presence of a woman who genuinely despised me for reasons I have yet to understand as an adult, I eventually learned that a negative environment can do one of two things to a soul. Break it. Or make it unbelievably stronger.
I happened to be lucky. I not only got stronger, but it was what ultimately set me on this path of writing. When Hemingway was asked “What is the best early training for a writer?” his answer was “An unhappy childhood.” And sadly, truer words have never been spoken in my mind. Because it is life’s experiences that compel us to write. No matter where you are on this path of writing, as a mother, a wife, a daughter, published or unpublished, we all write for a reason. To make sense of the chaos and give ourselves a sense of hope, peace and happiness. Once upon a time, I was a young girl trying to make sense of the chaos known as reality. That chaos, in my mind, only ever made sense by writing it down and turning it upon its head and giving that reality a healthy dose of a happily ever after.
And now, as a published writer, that same writing that saved my soul and gave it a sense of worth, gives hope, laughter and happily ever afters to others. A worthier cause I have yet to find for myself. Which leads me to the point of this post. Why do you write? And why romance? If there is one thing I want you to take away from this post it is this: writing and reading romance is something we should all be damned proud of. It heals. It makes hearts stronger. It promises better things to come. And if that is something the world is going to mock….pffff…to hell with them, I say. Seize those once upon a times and happily ever afters each and every day. And be proud of it.
Cheers and much love,
Delilah Marvelle

“Holy Smokes!” -Cheryl, Manic Readers Reviews–5 out of 5 and a Featured Review
RT REVIEWER’S CHOICE AWARD NOMINEE for Best First Historical Romance of 2008 and Night Owl Romance’s Historical Romance of the year in 2008!
Granddaughter of a renowned courtesan, Maybelle de Maitenon has no interest in her grandmother’s school in London where gentlemen receive instruction — in the art of seduction. Her only desire in life is to remain indepedent, free from men and the shackles of marriage. But when Maybelle’s grandmother falls ill, forcing Maybelle to take over the operation of the school, Edmund Worthington, the Duke of Rutherford enrolls devising a plan to not only take over the lesson plans but her heart.

And AVAILABLE AUGUST 2009–LORD OF PLEASURE




Delilah,
Thanks so much for being a guest at MW today! Your post is very thought-provoking and inspiring. Romance does heal. It helped me get over my grief at the death of my dad a couple of years ago. And, I saw a huge response to the romance genre after 9/11.
Thanks for a great post.
Renee
My dearest Renee,
Thank you *so* much for having me! And big hugs on losing your dad. I lost my real mom a few years ago and it really hits you much harder than you think it ever will. And yes, I totally agree, 9/11 changed what people wanted to see in their lives. And yet again, it seems out of bad comes good.
Thanks for sharing Delilah! You know I adore you!
I, too, didn’t have the greatest childhood and used my imagination to escape. When I read my first romance and discovered a world where people have problems, but love always won, I was thrilled. In my opinion, Romances are what life should be like and can be if we believe. Wow, does that sound like a hallmark card, or what?
My dearest Lori,
How I adored you too!!! And just so you know, I happen to think Hallmark cards freakin’ rock. Grin.
I totally understand. In my life it was my own father. But you learn to overcome the obstacles one by one. Even if they are what made you who you are. I thank you for giving us an escape too. I wish you the best in your writing.
My dearest Mary,
Thank you on the well wishes and big hugs to you about having had to have dealt with your father. It’s hard to understand why people, and those who should genuinely love us, act as they do, but as you said, it makes you who you are. And you learn to be a better parent and give the sort of love your child deserves.
AMEN! I had a stepfather. I know where you’re coming from. My friends call me a survivor.
My dearest Skhye(love the name BTW),
Amen right back at you and lots of love.
I come from an entirely different place. I had the ideal childhood that presumably turns cherished children into unrealistic adults. It didn’t work that way with me, at least I don’t THINK so. But it did produce limited tolerance for unhappy endings! I was used to love being there, for things to work out. I spent years battling with modern fiction and its current taste for ending in (realistic?) disaster. I hated being coaxed into caring about a man or a woman (or both) and having everything go wrong as possible. I got really tired of unkind, spiteful, miserable fictional characters.
When I discovered romance novels, I felt as if I’d come home. Sure, there are unpleasant things that happen, but it all comes right in the end. Maybe that’s not “realistic,” but it’s a whole better role to model yourself on than the nastiness and viciousness that peoples a whole lot of our literature now.
Me for the happy ending, and for believing in its possibility!
My dearest Beppie,
I have to say your experience is one of the same, in some way, just as you’d described. I don’t know what’s worse going from love to reality. Or from reality to reality. Smirk. Thank you *so* much for sharing and posting.
Delilah,
Your book is wonderful! But the way you share youself sets you apart. Thank you for your touching blog.
My dearest Harris,
Thank you so much for your amazingly kind and wonderful words. Muah!
Fabulous post Delilah! I too had/have a stepmother…
I started reading romance very early, and was obsessed with fairy tales from a very young age. The stories do take you away, heal, and I think show you that there can be a happily ever after. I strived for that in my own life, and like you came out stronger for it.
BTW, everyone–MISTRESS OF PLEASURE was AWESOME!!!! I can’t wait until August for the 2nd book in the series!!!!
You rock woman!!!!
My dearest Eliza,
I bow to you my fellow Cinderalla. Stepmothers ought to be banned (at least the bad ones…) Hugs for having what I had. And OMG, thank you for the huge kudos! Coming from a fellow author like you who is unbelievably talented, my heart is practically bursting. Thank you! You freakin’ rock yourself!
Delilah,
I am copying and pasting and printing this post. Then I’m going to hang it right next to my computer! Thank you for your honest, soul-bearing words. I write for all those reasons you said: to inspire peace and hope and happiness. I had a blessedly normal childhood, albeit somewhat bereft of close friends. I spent more hours than I can count as the BFF (best friend forever in middle school girl-speak) of the characters in the books I was reading. Now, I want to do the same for others.
I second Renee’s comment – I have benefited in many ways from your generous spirit and love, love, loved Mistress of Pleasure…August can’t get here quickly enough for me!
Thanks for joining us today.
Tiffany
My dearest Tiffany,
You know how to make a gal want to rush over to a corner and sob her little heart out. I’m so honored to have shared this with my fellow writers. And you know, our characters are the best friends a gal could ever have. But our writer buddies which we make along the way (nudge, nudge) make up for all those close friends we never had. And thank you, thank you, thank you for gushing about Mistress. Being it was my first book, it’s been an amazing experience to get such a positive response.
Yours is one of the most poignant and inspiring stories I’ve ever read. Kudos to you for taking the positive role instead of the negative. My childhood wasn’t filled with abuse, but because I couldn’t hear hardly anything at all, it was an unhappy one. That’s since been fixed. The one thing that remains with me is the love of “fairytales” and such, and of course this extends to many forms of fiction. I want to buy your book and will do so as soon as I can
Joan
My dearest Joan,
One of my closest friends in grade school had a hearing impairment and she was by far the greatest heroine I’ve ever met. Because life is challenging enough without basic blessings. Hugs to you. And thank you for wanting to a support this author. Grin.
Delilah, thank you for sharing. I had a similar childhood situation with my stepfather. I’m lucky that the abuse was not physical, but it was abuse nonetheless, and though I’ve worked through a lot of it, to this day, I, like you, don’t fully understand the reasons for his hatred. I’ve been an avid reader since first grade. It was an escape, and when I discovered romance in middle school, I was swept away into a world where happily ever after truly existed. It was my dream to meet a hero who would love me as the romance heroes loved their heroines.
And I did! I’m so incredibly lucky to have a real-life hero who adores me. And I’m still in love with romance heroes, as anyone who reads my blog knows, LOL. So I guess that’s why I write romance. For me, it’s all about that incredible hero who loves his heroine with such a fierce and absolute passion that he’ll move the world for her.
Thank you so much for being here!
Helen
My dearest Helen,
I just want to gather you up and give you a huge hug for sharing and posting. The physical I have found is a lot easier to get over than the mental. You are a true heroine for hunting down that happily ever after. And like you, I found my hero. And fortunately, he came along pretty early in my life. At seventeen. By nineteen I was married to him and I’ve been living out my own romance novel ever since (with banter, great sex and all. Smiles).
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Delilah,
You’re an amazing woman.
I used to read stacks of romances – and ultimately completed my first novel — as therapy to survive an abusive marriage – I didn’t even realize it at the time. It was my escape. My refuge — until I was brave enough to walk out the door.
Thank you for opening your heart for us. Many blessings on your writing career. And here’s to Happy Ever Afters for ALL of us.
~Ashley
My dearest Ashley,
Bless you and your heart. I’m so happy you were able to find writing and in turn a way to walk out that door. Thank you for posting and AMEN to happily ever afters which we gals all deserve. Many blessings in turn with your writing career as well!!!