MamaWriters are thrilled to have romance author Sharon Page with us today, who just made it onto the USA Today bestseller list with her most recent release, The Club!
She’s here to chatting about being a mom and a romance writer,
so come, relax, and chat with us.
Why My Daughter Loves Villains—
and Other Things I’ve Learned as a Romance Writing Mama
I have two children under 8, and my writing career only began when I had the kids. Staying at home actually gave me the time to write! My latest book, The Club, just made the USA Today Bestseller list—I don’t know if the kids understood what it meant, but they got to go out for dinner a few times.
It also made me realize my kids have taught me a lot about writing:
Why my daughter loves villains:
When my daughter was 5, she stuck a pencil between her fingers, wore play high heels, and wrapped a Dalmatian-shaped sleeping bag around her shoulders. For weeks, she pretended to be Cruella deVil. And every time we read our Disney picture books of Snow White and Cinderella, who did my daughter want to talk about? The Evil Queen and the Wicked Stepmother, of course, and why they did the things they did.
I wondered about this. Was it because she was suddenly seeing there might be ‘bad people’ in the world? But then I realized—the women villains had the strongest roles in the story. They’ve got goals. Motivation. And conflict.
Okay, maybe it was irrational jealousy, or an inexplicable need to wear black and white, but these women had agendas and they took steps to see their plans through. So I learned how important it is to write heroines who don’t just stand around in their underwear while the world sneaks up and grabs them from behind. I want my daughter to have heroines she can relate to (now or eventually, when she’s allowed to read my books.)
Asking why isn’t a bad thing:
My kids have taught me to ask why. It drives my daughter crazy when she asks why the Evil Queen wants to kill Snow White and I say: “Because it’s the narrative drive.” She rolls her eyes. Stomps her feet. “Stop teasing me!” she’ll shout.
When I write, I think: How would I explain my character’s motivations to someone who keeps asking why? If my answer quickly becomes, “Because the author wants him to do that,” I haven’t worked hard enough.
I wouldn’t be writing the stories I am, if it weren’t for the kids:
I sold my first book to Ellora’s Cave when I was pregnant with my son. I’ve realized that issues of family, children, childbirth come a lot more into my stories now than they did when I didn’t have kids. For me, I feel it’s a perspective that gives my stories more depth. And trying to see the world from the kids’ point of view enriches my writing.
Every minute is a deadline:
When I was revising The Club, which was the biggest revision I’ve ever done, my son was diagnosed with colitis.
He was three, and it was a shock. My husband spent ten days with our son in the hospital. I would visit, then go home and write—but, of course, nothing I wrote seemed to be working. Our son improved, thanks to the terrific doctors, and we can manage his condition well with medication. Once he was at home, all the areas in my story I thought I would never fix suddenly clicked into place.
I’ve learned that kids will come down with stomach flu right before a deadline. So I have to be efficient and I write as hard as I can when things are going well.
Has having children changed what you write about, or how you write? Has writing or reading romance influenced the way you introduced reading to your kids?
You can visit Sharon at http://sharonpage.com




Oh, Sharon, I love that you tell your daughter that the Evil Queen must kill Snow White because of the narrative drive! It’s never too soon for a mother to start driving her kids crazy!
And speaking of queens, you is the queen of writing great books under incredible pressure. I don’t know how you manage to do it, but I’ve never known a writer who can plow through the bad stuff and still write so well. And still be a good mommie!
Twitter: wiremamma
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Good morning, Sharon! and thank you for your beautiful post. I have one evil queen and one princess at home. At 5 and 3 1/2, they play off each other and do shows for us. Their imagination has more than once spurred on a moment when mine seemed to have gone the way of the dodo.
I love your “Why?” question. How would I explain this decision of my heroine to my daughter? Thanks for your post, and I look forward to picking up a copy of The Club! So nice to meet you!
~Ashley
Twitter: wiremamma
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Sharon – Strike that – Off to get The Club AND put Blood Deep on my Wish List! (My first novel is releasing on May 29th… May’s going to be a great month for reading!
You write beautifully… Thank you so much for joining us here!
~Ashley
Hi Ashley,
Thanks so much!
Congratulations on the release of your first book. That’s such a huge milestone. Celebrate large. Are you in the “deer in the headlights” phase of getting ready for the release? Updating the website. Book trailers. Ads. Blogging. It can be overwhelming.
That’s so great that your two do shows. My two have started to do that. Once my son came up to me once and said, “I’m the handsome prince.” My daughter, who is older, gets to be the ‘director’, as well as actress.
Twitter: wiremamma
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Sharon – Deer in Headlights!!! Love it. So true!!!
I have an e-book coming out April 11th and the big one – All or Nothing – releasing May 29th.
And, yes. I actually feel like the top of my head is about to pop off! (to coin a phrase from DD#1)
I have a designer making bookmarks, (she’s by best bud, and is awesome) – I’ve signed up for a blog-hop, and have created my book trailer — drawing on experience from days working in a studio in LA — it’s been LOTS of fun. But with pending reviews, interviews, etc. I’m so nervous!
Who ever thought this would be so scary! and wonderful! It’s like waiting to see my kids do their first on-stage recital!!!
Thanks again – and any advice you have to share would be MOST appreciated!
~Ashley
Hi Vanessa,
Thanks! I know you open your latest (and first!) book (coming April 7), with a line that your heroine hates spring. I’ve come to be afraid of spring–all the health issues (kids, parents, hubby) have come up then. I certainly have learned I can’t wait for the muse
My daughter is probably the only kid in her class who’s Mommy says: Well, you’ll just have to tell your teacher we couldn’t do all the homework tonight. Mommy has copy edits.
Sharon, you are one of the people who taught me not to wait around for the muse – she’s too elusive!
Thanks for being such a great role model – my husband is reading The Club right now, and loving it!
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Sharon ~
What a great post!
As it results in extra TV time, my 4 y.o. son BEGS me to have a deadline (“Are you on a deadline, Mommy? CAN you be on a deadline? Please?”)
I am still adjusting–not well–to the notion that ‘every minute is a deadline.’ But I need to. I need to grab each moment of writing time, or mommy-time, fully, b/c who knows what’s coming next? I’m used to a much more easeful way of doing things.
I LOVE your observation about villians, and why they might be more gripping characters. (If they have a weapon of some sort, my son is all over them, but that aside. . . ) It’s a great ‘frame,’ and I’m going to use it. Thanks!
Thanks so much for being with us. Can you come back?
Kris
Hi Sharon!
I was (and still am) a rather shy person. Having a daughter has forced me to come out of my shell a bit. I’ll do things for her I’d never do for myself. I also find myself more connected to my emotions now that I have a child–I laugh easier…and cry easier. Very useful for a writer.
Hi Kris,
Thank you so much for inviting me to be here. I do find the stress of not knowing what could derail is pretty tough. I set all my deadlines into benchmarks and I really force myself to hit the bench marks (1st draft in two months, 2nd draft in two months, etc.) But it’s definitely a little scary when you know you just can’t rely on the fact the time will be there. But it means no time for navel gazing
I’d love to come back too!
Hi Annette,
Having heard you give workshops and speeches, I am amazed you would call yourself shy. You are also so poised, well spoken, and prepared!
It is true how having kids forces you to do things you’d avoid otherwise. Believe me, I would not be knocking on neighbourhood doors and trying to sell cookies if not for my daughter. Though I made her do the talking and she did a much better job than I would.
I find I react very emotionally to stories and movies now that I have kids. Charlotte’s Web leaves me sobbing. Actually, most of their books made me tearfully happy at the end. Sometimes they pat me on the back while I’m reading to them, to make me feel better.
Sharon, it’s great to see you here! I’m a huge fan. In fact, I’m reading Hot Silk right now. Congratulations on making the USA Today list!
I love how your work out motivation for your characters by asking “why?” So simple, yet so effective. Great advice!
Helen
Hi Helen,
Thanks so much and I’m so delighted to hear you’re a fan. I hope you enjoy Hot Silk. Devlin, the hero in Hot Silk–former pirate and current highway–was so much fun to write.
Another fabulous tip I’ll pass along, and I learned this from author Molly O’Keefe, when she did a workshop at my RWA chapter’s conference. Ask this question from your character’s point of view:
“I will do anything for you except ________”. I took my daughter skiing last Saturday and plotted my next proposal while we on the chair lift by answering that question.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Oh, that’s a very good question to have a character answer! And then, of course, you make them do that very thing.
Hi Sharon! I loved how your daughter favored the Evil Queen over the Princesses. What a twist! I love it! What I really enjoyed was reading about your unique take on writing. It’s amazing what we can learn from kids if we just stop and pay attention. Thanks! And congratulations on your successes!
Hi Sarah,
One of my favorite stories to read with my daughter is CinderEdna. While Cinderella waits for her fairy godmother, CinderEdna buys a dress with money she makes mowing lawns and takes a bus to the ball. It’s hilarious and the ending is just a riot. It’s a fun twist on the classic story.
Twitter: violaestrella
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This is a great post, Sharon! Good point about how having children can give you a new perspective toward writing. Life becomes less about you and more about what’s going on around you and how people (mainly my children) are affected by it. I can see how this can help a writer add depth to a story or character.
Hi Viola,
What always fascinates me is how differently the kids see the same event–why one is frightened by a scene in a movie and the other isn’t. And even how differently they will see things from me. It helps me push myself to think from other perspectives.
Sharon
Hi Sharon,
My writing is affected by being a mother because every time I want to have the worst thing possible happen to my characters I make something bad happen to their child. I obviously need to think up different plots
Thank you for the advice of writing more when things are going well. I needed to hear that pearl of motivation.
Congratulations on that USA Today list!
-Tammy
Hi Tammy,
So it’s certainly an effective device.
Though that does make for a on-the-edge-of-the-seat plot. I can’t read books with children in jeopardy any more. It makes me just too scared
And thanks for the congratulations.
Sharon,
Thanks for stopping by Mamawriters today and big congrats on the list! :0)
I credit my oldest child with bringing me into the writing world (she’s a writer too). She was attending a writer’s conference, noticed there were workshops for adult writers as well and the rest is history…
I’m constantly being inspired with ideas from my kids. Their observation skills are so much better than mine! (Although I am getting better).
Great post! Looking forward to reading The Club.
Tiffany
Twitter: jeannieruesch
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Hi Sharon — I’ve eyed your book cover since I first saw it, so I’m looking forward to reading it!
I think since my son was born, my perspective on the world around me has changed tremendously – a young child somewhat forces that, I think, because I’m now looking at the world through HIS eyes.
And when he tells me ten times that the truck we passed five minutes ago was a “red truck, Mama!”, I have to remember that to me, it might just be another vehicle on the road. But to him, it’s huge and amazing, and the fact that he can TELL me what he sees is fun for him.
He has definitely helped remind me what it’s like to see the world through someone else’s eyes.
Hi Sharon! Thanks so much for taking the time to visit with MW!
I love how you said that your kids have taught you to ask why. That is such a thought-provoking question
And can really deepen your writing. I need to do it more often.
Thanks for a fabulous post!
Renee