
Today Mama Writers welcomes a very special guest, suspense and romance author, Roxanne St. Claire. Roxanne is a fabulously talented author, mom, and to be honest, she’s one of my idols. Once I read one of her books, I needed to go out and get her entire backlist. If you haven’t read Roxanne yet, you are missing out! She’s addictive.
Roxanne St. Claire is a bestselling, award winning author of twenty-three novels of suspense and romance. She currently writes a popular romantic suspense series called “The Bullet Catchers” that features the adventures of an elite cadre of bodyguards and security professionals, published by Simon & Schuster’s Pocket Books. In addition to the RITA Award, the highest honor in romance publishing, her books have won numerous industry awards, including the National Reader’s Choice Award, the Daphne du Maurier for best romantic suspense, the HOLT Medallion, the Maggie, Booksellers Best, Book Buyers Best, several Awards of Excellence, the Aspen Gold and the Gayle Wilson Award of Excellence.
In 2008, readers enjoyed the first “Bullet Catcher Trilogy” featuring three connected stories titled First You Run, Then You Hide and Now You Die. This year, Bullet Catcher fans can enjoy back-to-back excitement when Hunt Her Down and Make Her Pay are released in September and October, 2009.
ROXANNE ST. CLAIRE
Hello Mama Writers and thank you so much for the warm and friendly welcome. I’m honored to guest at this new site, and thrilled to be among that small portion of the population that knows you can write an entire scene in the running time of The Wizard of Oz.
I have worked from home since the day my first child was born, fifteen and a half years ago (which -gasp! – means we are months from a driver’s license). I wasn’t a writer back then, but I revamped a PR career into a successful marketing consulting business and set up shop with a month-old infant in a cradle next to my desk. I never returned to a normal nine-to-five lifestyle, and have become a bit of an expert on working with children in the house.
When my daughter turned two and my son six, my business was at its peak. I had a lovely British woman come to my house every day at 8:00 and stay until 5:00 as their nanny. One day, my daughter asked me for a “tomahto” on her sandwich. I just looked at her, stunned. Someone else was raising my children, and, after years of infertility before conceiving them, the absolute wrongness of that hit me like a five pound tomAYto over the head. I gave up my business to be a full time mom and nurture my own children…and a secret fantasy of becoming a published author. By then, I had finished my first manuscript, joined the Romance Writers of America, and the dream of a writing career had grabbed me by the throat and would not let go.
Those first few years, the discipline I’d learned as a business owner carried me through. I wrote while my children slept (and, naturally, that second one stopped taking naps at fifteen months) and spent many hours on the playroom floor with a Barbie doll in one hand (giving her a backstory and conflict, of course) and the Writer’s Digest Guide to Agents in the other. So many rejections rolled in that my family expected me to return from a trip to the mailbox in tears. But the kids made it to school age, and my fantasy became reality when I sold my first book to Simon & Schuster’s Pocket Books in 2002. My children are now 15 and 11, and my wall of covers has twenty-two books on display, with more coming this year. Lots of things have grown over the years in this house.
My life as a writer and mom is so intertwined that I rarely separate the two. I can write a love scene with Sponge Bob and Patrick squawking in the background. I can nurse a child through the flu and my book through a deadline on the same week. I can take a trip to a conference knowing my kids won’t be traumatized by my week-long absence because they are comforted by my daily presence – even if some days it seems like they only see the back of my head. I go to a Little League game and get a story idea, read twenty-five galley pages during one ballet class, and get five new readers just chatting with moms after school.
The years and books (and kids!) have taught me many lessons along the way. To mothers of children both young and teenaged, I recommend you have the following on hand when writing with kids in the house:
A door. Or at least “a sacred place” where you can gather research, work on the computer, write with some measure of privacy. This is not to say the closed door can’t be knocked upon by the family, but only for a good reason. Not to ask “Can I have a Pop Tart?” but to tell me “I’m bleeding. Bad.” If the door is left open (and I do as often as I can, when not writing ‘fresh pages’) then they can come in, but I ask that they don’t make a demand until I’ve stopped typing. (Or that sentence will never get finished as I hear it in my head.) My daughter calls it “waiting for your fingers to take a breath.”
Two uninterrupted hours a day. Yes. You do have them. You do. How about before they wake up? I hear you groan, but trust me, this is doable. When my daughter was three, I listened to a tape by the Great and Powerful Uber-success Debbie Macomber. She said that everyone has two hours in a day. Hah, said I. Sure, I have two hours at 9:30 at night, and just enough energy to pour wine and try not to dribble it down my chin. But Debbie suggests getting up two hours before your children, which, in my case, was 4:45 AM. Are you kidding me? I am a morning person, but not a Middle of the Night person!
How badly do you want it, asks sweet little diabolical goal-setting bestselling goddess Debbie Macomber on her tape. Bad, I answered her. I want it so darn bad. So I set the alarm. Over the course of a week or two, I shifted my body clock and became a morning writer, surprised by how fertile and active my imagination was at that hour. I wrote the book that became my first sale, TROPICAL GETAWAY, in the two hours before sunrise over the course of about five months.
Realistic expectations. Remember the first few weeks when you had a newborn at home? That’s when I learned to set realistic expectations about what I would accomplish in a day: shower (forget blow-dry) and empty the dishwasher. If I got that much done, it was a success. The same is true about writing. Set a realistic page count, and make yourself a calendar to figure how long it would take to produce a book at, say, three pages a day. (Not long, really. Think about it: that’s 60 pages a month, skipping weekends. You could write the whole book in six months. Before the sun comes up.) Know how much you can do and don’t make goals that set you up for failure. (And plan on sickness, sleepless nights, and the unexpected. They are kids, remember.)
Rules. As every work-from-home professional knows, you have to have rules. Don’t knock unless there’s fire or blood. Don’t answer the phone designated as “Mom’s work line.” When that phone rings, there is to be no yelling in the house. I once overheard my son, about five at the time and I was still in PR, instruct a friend of our simple guidelines: “No screaming when Mommy’s on a client.” I was not surprised that child’s mother never sent her son over again.
Support from loved ones. Yeah, that would be the man you married, your mother, your best friend. They need to know how much this means to you, just as your school friends need to understand this is your job. I admit I have the ultimate secret weapon – a husband who shops and cooks. There is, somewhere in your life, one big job that you can hand over to someone else, even if you have to pay for it. A teenaged girl in the neighborhood can be a godsend for folding laundry and playing with the little ones after school, and every other week cleaning services cost about as much as two dinners at a decent restaurant. The biggest thing is getting your close circle of family to understand that you are working and you can’t do it all.
And, guess what? When the kids get older, they can help, especially with the marketing programs that require hours of stuffing bookmarks into envelopes. They can also pick up the chores that take you away from writing. They might not like it, but…
Balance. You can’t – and shouldn’t — work constantly. This has always been a challenge fore me, especially with the lure of the internet and email and easy access to my computer. You must find time to exercise, play, shop, relax, see movies, read books, connect with your husband and children. This is called Filling the Well, and you need it. Also, I strongly recommend having a community (not just on line, although that helps) of writers, mothers or not, because the more you write the more you want to talk about it in the shorthand that only other writers will understand. Like, did your H/H get the HEA in your WIP or was she TSTL?
A sense of humor and a dose of patience. This is a crazy way to live, and if you can’t laugh about the ups and downs and frustrations and celebrations, then you will lose the joy of writing. And once it goes away, it’s hard to get it back. Keep laughing, maintain a stash of chocolate, have an understanding friend just a phone call away. And when all else fails, pop in Dorothy and the gang. Word of advice from a seasoned Oz-watcher: as soon as you hear “I’m melting!” you can probably only write one more page.
To celebrate the new blog, I’m giving away books!!! Drop a comment and let us know your best trick of the mama writing trade or what essential lesson you can share about this fun and crazy life. THREE winners will get a copy of any one of the Bullet Catcher books (or their choice from my backlist). Visit my website at www.roxannestclaire.com and pick a title (and Bullet Catcher!) that appeals to you…then drop a comment below! I’ll stop in all day to answer questions, share ideas, and play with the mama writers!
Thanks again for the invitation to participate in this brilliant new community!
Rocki
Check out Roxanne’s Romantic Suspense Trilogy
The Bullet Catchers
Trained to protect. Able to kill. Willing to die. And drop-dead gorgeous.





Roxanne,
Thanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to visit with us. Two uninterrupted hours, huh? I can do that–I just need to get rid of the 50 other things I use to fill that time up now lol.
Fabulous post! Can’t wait for the new Bullet Catcher books.
Renee
Hello Renee & Co! So good to be here. You know, I just checked the link to my website and you guys are in LUCK. My webmistress was supposed to change the content today, but it hasn’t happened yet. You can still download a FREE Bullet Catcher novella that my publisher agreed to give away for a holiday gift to my readers and fans. Over 10,000 people have downloaded “You Can Count On Me” – a fun and fast read about a Bullet Catcher, a hot Russian, a missing Faberge egg…and an unforgettable limo ride. Go grab it now because the pdf is going down for good in the next few hours or day. (The novella was RITA nominated and first appeared two years ago in the holiday anthology I’LL BE HOME FOR CHRISTMAS.)
I’m going to be in and out today, happy to chat, answer questions, get to know the mamawriters, talk about “the writer’s life” in general and romance writing in particular. I’m very open, so feel free to ask me anything.
And call me Rocki – everyone does!
Hi Roxanne,
I loved the humorous article you wrote! You forgot something though, there is a little opening at the bottom of the door, STUFF IT WITH A TOWEL! I helps with noise reduction AND they can’t get in even if they try! I can’t wait to read First You Run! I only mentioned that one because I am anal about reading them in order. I have read some of your books and you are a very talented writer! Thanks so much for being on here today, I learned a lot in a very funny way!
Hey Rocki! <my BFF!
Had to stop by to give you props at a MamaWriter Blog! I love this blog and I am so thrilled to be both a Mama and a Writer. I’m in such great company here.
As always, you’ve given us great advice and that warm fuzzy feeling of having been successful in our field. Thank you for that.
I’ve got one of those secret weapon hubbys too. Mine is addicted (yes, addicted!) to doing grocery shopping. He loves to search out all those best deals. LOL
It also helps that he’s quite “romance inspiring” as well….but that’s a story for another day.
If I can be half as successful as my mentor Rocki then I’ll consider it a job quite well done. Rocki rocks!
Cheers, my friend!
Hugs to all the mamas and mamas to be,
Kerri
I’m trying really hard to start taking the 4 hours the kids are in school as my work hours. Just yesterday, a friend called at 8:30am to see if I could watch their youngest starting at 9:45.
I had planned my day already and needed to do the grocery store after sending the oldest to school at 9:15. There was no way I could do that and get back in time to watch my friends child. To do the store afterwards would cut into my work time by an hour and a half. I said no and felt quilty but my husband reminded me this was a last minute request and you can say no sometimes.
And I had a really productive day on rewriting my novella, so it was the right thing for me to do. Although I still feel quilty, I didn’t let it stop me from my goal.
Beth,
Guilt is a good friend of mine and I feel your pain! I’ve always been the stay-at-home mom in the neighborhood, the one always available for emergencies. When I got serious about writing I told my “working mom” neighbors that I was joining their ranks and that I wouldn’t be available as much to help out. It has helped in that there aren’t as many opportunities for me to say “no”, so there’s a little less guilt. :0)
Tiffany
Wow, this is a great little blog, very pertinent. I didn’t know ya’ll existed.
Roxanne, fun article. Thanks for that.
Wow, this is a great little blog, very pertinent. I didn’t know ya’ll existed.
Roxanne, fun article. Thanks for that.
Excellent post, Roxanne, and thanks for pointing the way here. Like you, mine is rapidly approaching driving age – which scares the bejeezus out of me – but I’ve only been writing for the past five years. I’ve been homeschooling her for four of those, though. You’re so right about finding the time to write, even when it seems like you don’t have time to breathe. While she was still in public school (and after I quit my job), I’d write off and on all day, meandering my way through scenes. Now I have to write at night and make those two hours count. She gets the attention she needs from 8-5, and I get two uninterrupted hours (usually) from 8-10pm. 5-8 is for my husband. It’s not a perfect schedule, but it works for us. And that’s the point – find what works. =o)
Anyway, thanks to the Mama Writers for an awesome new blog. It’s already added to my daily blogroll.
The system works, you’re getting your two hours, it’s all good. Don’t mess with success, I say!
Look at this!!!!!!! Your blog is great
Love all of your books
Sue
I know you are blogophobic, my friend, Sue. So thank you for coming out and posting a comment. Sue is MY NUMBER ONE FAN!!! xoxo
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Well, big huge welcome, Rocki’s #! fan. We’re so glad you checked out our new blog.

~Kris
Wonderful reminders, Rocki! I seem to struggle more with balancing writing and children as my kids get older. You would think it would be the other way around. But right now I spend a lot of time in the car transporting little people to and from school. Not to mention homework troubles! I keep telling myself next year will be easier. They’ll both be at the same school at the same time.
Guess I better get to work!
School is a blessing, but you’d be surprised how much you can do even when they’re home. My daughter was home sick all of last week, and I still managed to get the work done. Although she discovered reruns of I Dream of Jeannie and will never be the same. (BTW, Larry Hagman was hot way back then, wasn’t he?…. Not that I watched any of the episodes with her or anything!)
What a great blog! And a terrific post, Roxanne!
Ha, my son got his drivers license just last week. Yes, those last remaining dark hairs faded to gray, but on the plus side, he can now take his 6’5 bottomless pit self to the grocery store!
SIX FOOT FIVE!!!! He’s a Bullet Catcher waiting to happen! Wow.
Kerri, my dearest about to be published BFF! Great to see you here. You are the epitome of a mamawriter who will do it all, and do it well.
Beth C – Walk Away From The Guilt. Just back away, hands up, friendly smile on face, and say no. I found that as soon as I “went public” with my dream of writing and told people that this is what I was doing “as a job” (even though there was no income involved), over time, they stopped calling me for volunteering and pitching in. If you have four hours that your kids are in school, you should do NOTHING but write during that time. Seriously. Every other errand/chore/task can be done with them. Take them to the grocery store with you (I know – having your fingernails pulled out one by one is more pleasant than hungry kids at the supermarket, but still – the novella needs you, too!) Keep those four hours SACRED for your writing. Just say “no” and feel no guilt because all your friends will understand when they come to your booksigning. You can finish that novella in a matter of weeks with four hour increments! I want you to!
Val – Major props on the towel idea! I love it! Not only does it keep out sound and the pesky smell of burnt microwave popcorn, the door can’t come flying in with a scream of “He put his booger on me!!!!” Great suggestion!
So glad this new blog is off to such a great start and so happy to be here. (And Sue! You posted! I adore you!)
xoxo
Rocki
Hi Rocki! Thank you so much for being here today
I just downloaded your novella, and I’m very excited to start reading it!
Your blog was fabulous, funny and inspiring! Waking up at 5am might be tough, but I think I will try it next week. My hubby wakes up at 4:30 most days, so I’m half awake anyway. That two hours will really help me I think.
One of my biggest struggles is email. I can’t stop checking it, and I get so many that it takes up hours of my day. I’d like to figure out how to get that to slow down a bit.
You stories of your children were too cute, I love your daughters line “waiting for your fingers to take a breath.”
My girls are 8 and 3, and I have another on the way which I’m sure will present more adventures. They seem to understand mommy’s writing time, but I get the feeling they don’t always care, lol. Getting up 2 hours early might actually help alot!
Thanks for visiting with us!
Eliza
I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the early rise time, Eliza. Remember, if you drink coffee, to pre-set it so it’s brewed when you get up. That helps A LOT!
Good luck!! Enjoy the novella and CONGRATS on the upcoming arrival! I sure wish I had started earlier and had more than two kids. Have fun!
Thanks Roxanne! It’s sure to be an adventure…although hubby is freaking out, if this one is a girl too that’s three weddings to pay for! He swears he’ll be working until he’s 85 just to pay for them all
Crossing fingers for a boy, lol
First I’ll have to go get a coffee maker…Mine broke months ago and I never replaced it as I’m a huge Starbuck’s fanatic, but I don’t think they open until 5:30am, and that could become quite expensive, lol
I’m hearing Gershwin in my head now. “You say potayto and I say potahto, you say tomayto and I say tomahto.” That’s as good as a Jewish friend whose nanny was very conservative Christian and one day her little girl started singing to her Jewish grandma about being washed in the blood of Jesus. Seems the nanny listened to gospel music a lot while she tended to the children.
Okay, my kids are grown and now I only have the big kid AKA the husband at home. I have all day but he tends to load me with errands since “you don’t work.” Today I must call the bank, call the natural gas people and call the security system people. Add in the work crew flooring my attic. I can sorta drown them out with headphones.
Nerve-wracking as that driver’s license is, it means you have another chauffeur in the house. I made #1 son run errands and take his brother places when he got his license. I was working outside the home then and what a difference it made.
Great blog and great advice!
LOL, Marilyn! So good to see you and your play friends over here! And thanks, now I’m singing that song ALL DAY.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Marilyn~
What a great story, the little girl with the Catholic nanny who was singing gospel songs about the blood of Jesus to her Jewish grandmother. Very funny! Altho, I suppose, not to her grandmother. LOL
What a great blog and a great interview with Roxanne!
I think that the biggest thing for me is that my writing computer is not connected to email or the internet for that matter. I have a separate one for research, etc., and use an older one for writing. All I really on that is my WORD program and the ability to connect my flash drive. Got that!
Great post, great advice, great blog!
I once heard Suz Brockmann say that she has a computer just for writing and has to get up and walk across the room to check email. That might be a good solution. I admit, it’s a downfall for me, too. It’s also a gauge of how good my story is: if I’m loving what I’m writing, I forget about email. When I’m stuck, I’ll check it at the end of every (lousy) sentence.
Roxanne, I love you books. I read all the bullet catchers and look forward to Dan’s book this year.
I am not a mama, yet. Hope to be someday but not until I am really ready. What amaze me most would be how can you do that being both writer and mother and doing it a great fashion.
Oh, May, thank you! As soon as my web updates get done this week, there’s going to be a “bite sized” excerpt of Dan’s book posted. Go ahead….have a taste. Yum.
You’ll know when you’re ready for the little ones…it changes everything, so be good & sure!
Hi Roxanne,
I thoroughly enjoyed your blog and the timing is perfect. Thank you so much. Love your rules. I need to keep in mind the filling of the well. Sigh.
After having run a successful marketing consulting business, what tips would you offer to writers to focus on in their PR? What would you focus on? Avoid? If you started your promo again, knowing what you know, what would you do differently and why?
Thank you again for blogging on mamawriters! I wish you a continued blessed and amazing career.
Sincerely,
Diana Cosby
His Captive/Alexander MacGruder
His Woman/Duncan MacGruder – 4 star Romantic Times review
Title TBA/Seathan MacGruder – Date TBA
Title TBA/Patrik [Cleary] MacGruder – Date TBA
This is a big subject, Diana, and certainly one every writer has to think about. My PR background is both a blessing and a curse. I *know* PR works – I also know that effective PR (all marketing, really) costs A LOT OF MONEY to have an impact. The very best way for me to reach 10 or 50 or 100 thousand people is to write another great book. Our books — and word of mouth about them — are the strongest marketing tools we have. But we have to do *something* right, or we feel like we don’t have control.
We don’t. But to get rid of that angst that comes with seeing other authors doing a great job promoting and thinking “WHY didn’t I do that??” I usually pick one “major” promotion for a book and concentrate on it. Excerpts, printed and mailed to bookstores, or a big ad (the cover is best, but v. expensive) in RT. I always do bookmarks and I offer them free to anyone who writes to me and sends me their address. I consider that one of my most important marketing tools: I build goodwill (I don’t make them send postage), I get my bookmark in their hand, and most people are so stunned and delighted to get one, they buy my next book. PLUS, I build a mailing list.
There’s so many things we can do, but I still believe the ones that truly work are funded by the publisher – like coop and book tours.
Hope that long diatribe helps answer your question!
Thanks for the great post, Rocki! We all need those reminders to carve out time to do the things that are important to us…it’s all too easy to let the day slide away from you!
Thanks so much for visiting!
~ Melissa
Thanks for having me, Melissa!!!
Wow, you’re views and guidelines for writing and being a mom are so similar to mine it’s scary!
LOL @ the driver’s license thing. I just had mine renewed about a month ago. $24 for that thing!!! I remember when they were $8!
Funny how things go up like that. I think that all work-at-home moms have very similar approaches. And wine at 7:00, sharp.
Ah…wine…
Only 7 more months and I’m back to my evening glass
For Christmas everyone got me wine, so my wine rack is fully stocked and awaiting the arrival of our newest family member…
Thanks for the excellent post, Rocki. I had to laugh at “Mommy’s on a client.” You’re so right about setting up a schedule but expecting the unexpected. I’m over to get a copy of your novella–if it’s still there. Congratulations on the RITA win.
Hope you get the novella! And thanks for the congrats. RITA sits on my mantle and makes me smile every time I walk by. She *never* gets dusty…all that fondling, you know!
Hi Rocki,
Thanks so much for this fabulous blog! Great tips for any writer, whether little ones are in the picture or not.
My biggest challenge is saying no to people who want a slice of my time, especially when they’re people I love. It can even be a friend who just wants a nice, long chat on the phone. That person needs to talk, right? And a good friend should listen. Well, yes, but as you say you have to find a balance. If I spend the entire conversation grinding my teeth because I want to get back to my writing, that’s not a good thing.
So, I set aside at least three hours every afternoon as my designated writing time. Most of my friends and family know that’s the time I lock myself in my bedroom and ignore everything but the scene in hand. And they’re really great about respecting it, so they help me stick to the schedule.
Vanessa
MASTERING THE MARQUESS, Kensington, April 2009
Regency Romance That Sizzles
Sounds like you’ve taken control, Vanessa. (I love your name, btw.) I have, on occasion, watched the caller ID fade with a friend’s name and felt soooo guilty. But I knew that if I had picked up, an hour would disappear. I just try to call back the minute I can. This is why all my friends are writers – they understand.
I think that’s one of the hardest parts! I have lots of writer friends, but none around me, and when I hang out with my non-writer friends, they seriously get bored talking to me…
And when I do ignore their phone calls I get the voicemails “Are you avoiding me?” It really is hard to get them to understand…oh well…
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Hi, Rocki! Two things to remember about kids – they will grow up (though they may never move out of the house!) and you will survive The Driver’s License(tm). I can speak to that.
My daughter was a gold level softball player which meant LOTS of time on the road. I wrote between games, late at night after she’d fallen asleep in the hotel, and in the car if my husband was driving. I actually soft of miss those days.
Too many times, we as women and mothers let our need to nurture everyone else get in the way. We need to remember to nurture ourselves (and our Muses) as well. Lose the guilt. Know that this really is a job and just as important as any of your other jobs and tell people that.
It’s hard, but you can do it. You are woman, hear you roar!
Great advice, as always, Rocki. Plus, I dashed right over to add the novella to the collection!
So glad you got the novella, Silver. I love that you could write in a hotel room when they were sleeping. I would probably have slipped off to the bar, but you’re a better man than I am.
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Hey, I had impressionable 18 and under girls watching every move! Trust me, if not for that, I’d be meeting you the bar….and we’d go looking for some better men.
What a nice surprise this morning when I am checking my feeds, and Roxanne St. Claire is here!! I’m so excited. Huge Bullet Catcher fan here, lol.
My kids are 18,15,12, 12, and I find if I keep the pantry stocked with snacks, I have plenty of time to write without any interruptions. Now if the dogs would let themselves out during the day, I’d be doing good!
Hey Deb! So glad you like my BCs! Doesn’t it kill you when kids (younger ones) tell you they’re hungry and just want you to ACCOMPANY them on a trip to the pantry. Like it’s just all so much more interesting when *Mom* is there to promote various snacks. As if they’re going to take the almonds when a pack of GUSHERS is available. Sheez.
Congrats on raising ALL those babies — and twins at the end! Wow!
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Rocki – I had the pleasure of “meeting you” yesterday — when you discussed what writing tools you couldn’t live without! Great post btw…
Well, Debbie Mc might have been inpsirational to you – but your story is such an inspiration to me! My New Year’s Resolution is to be more organized, and more realistic about my writing goals. Both for WIPs and now with two releases this year – I have marketing on the brain!
With daughters age 5 (next week) and 3 – goals are constantly interrupted! My 3 yo is an early riser, and my 2 hours of quiet has rapidly decreased into 1, then 1/2 hour, and now – I swear she hears my foot on a squeaky step and calls out, “Time to go down-stay-us, mommy?” I have to figure out how not to step on that one…
Guilt often has me leaving the cursor blinking. I never thought of doing character development through Barbie and Ken! or actually developing a fan base at Gymnastics & ballet! I look forward to indulging in your free read. It just finished downloading!
Thank you so much for your time and encouragement!
Oh, Ashley, your note brought it all back to me. That creaky step! I hate to tell you, a light sleeper is a light sleeper. My daughter has Momdar. She knows if I’ve left the room when I read while she’s falling asleep. It does get easier, but you have to be supercreative with those stay-awake-all day kids.
I cannot recommend The Wizard Of Oz enough.
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LOL! “Momdar.”
Yes, my kid has that too. If I so much as *think* about getting out of bed, he’s there.
My littlest one has it Momdar bad!!! I can try to be as quiet as I can, but if she hears me walk past her room, her little lips come under the door, “Mommy, I wanna get outta here.” LOL!! I can’t resist, so I try not to go upstairs at all during naptime.
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Eliza~
roflol! That is *so* funny : “Mom, I want to get out of here.”
You… prison warden, you!
~Kris
It is hilarious!!!! One time I left her door open and she was like, “hey the door’s open,” like it was a miracle!
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MOMDAR! That’s DD#2 to a T! DD#1 could, and has, sleep through earthquakes, loud music, parties, etc. and so on.
I’m thinking that instead of going downstairs, i just need to take my computer into my bed and start writing. No e-mail checking. No facebooking. No kidding.
BTW – I’m going to school on your 3 page a day – book in 6 months idea. I’m already a good chunk of the way through my current WIP – so maybe I’ll luck out and get it done by the time summer rolls around! Thanks again, Rocki!
The 3 pages a day was a revelation to me too Ashley! Thanks Rocki! I need to get started
I grabbed my copy of “You Can Count on Me.” Can’t wait to read it. I’m always on the look out for a new series.
Thanks for all the great advice. I’ll have to test it out in nine months.
Nine months!!!! Congratulations Emma Lai! I will openly admit that there was no happier time in my whole life than pregnancy. I was lucky – they were easy – and I totally loved being pregnant. Enjoy!!
Roxanne,
Wonderful post! I shook my head in agreement and laughed out loud. Thank you.
The best trick of my mama writing trade is a timer. You know you can get a heck of a lot done in fifteen minutes! Plus then I don’t get lost in cyberworld because that annoying beeping fills my head and reminds me it’s time to move on.
Thanks for being here today!
Tiffany
Do NOT enter me in the contest. Grin, Rocki is an automatic buy for me.
This was an amazing post, woman! I laughed til I cried when I read the rule about being quiet when “mommy’s on a client.”
You have such a gripping voice that you tend to keep me up nights. One of my personal rules is “No Roxanne in bed.” HA! That gets broken every time I get your latest book.
“French Twist” is still one of my favorites of yours. My writing partner almost missed her plane reading that one.
Arwen!!!! No Roxanne In Bed!!! Perish the thought. So glad you’re here, honey! Thank you!
Fabulous post, Rocki. I have a 16 year old who just rec’d his license. My insurance rates went through the roof! Oy.
Debbie gave that fabulous advice of 2 hours per day during her keynote address in Reno when RWA held Nat’ls there back in… I want to say 2003. Before my nut-induced meltdown (I’m allergic and there were walnuts in the salad), I really enjoyed her talk–at least what I remember of it. Once the benedryl shot kicked in, I started seeing little waves of light floating all around me. It was surreal and oh so pretty… but it distracted from her talk! I did get the message about the 2 hours dedicated time and have followed that advice ever since.
My issue is distractions. If I don’t have music in the background the drown out the white noise, I’m a goner. The furnace will kick on and I’ll throw my hands up. “I’m done. There’s no way I can write now.” Because of my total lack of focus, I have to have music playing to cover everything else. Weird, I know. But it’s my process.
You talked about your “door” policy. My kids tend to think EVERYTHING is an emergency. Oh my Gawd! Your brother took the last of the milk? You can’t find a pencil to do your homework? Call in the troops! I’m going to try your approach no talking until the typing stops.
I met you in San Francisco. Wendi Darlin introduced us. You are a hoot and I would love to meet you again, actually sit down and have a convo with you! Keep up the great work!!!!
~Allie
Allie, I’d love to see you again. Will you be in DC? Wendi Darlin (what a name!) is a sweetheart. Debbie Macomber spends her winters here in Florida, so I am simply blessed to actually have her in my life and call her a friend now. She is the most inspirational person — not just as a writer, but in every aspect of her life – I have ever met. I’m in awe of her, really.
LOL on everything’s an emergency. I say to my kids, “You want to go to college? Let me write.” End of discussion.
Roxanne, thanks so much for hanging out with us today! I’m a huge fan.
Great post! You’re so right about balance, which is something I struggle with. I really need to get away from this darn computer and take a walk, read a book, get a massage.
And I’m only weeks away from a driver’s license. Eeek!
Helen
So glad you’re a fan! You know what helps you to walk…a dog. I’d be lost without mine and she does get me out at least 20 minutes every day.
Roxanne,
Thanks for your interesting article. It is great to know successful writers balancing careers and babies!
Clare
Rocki–
Great advice, as always. While my stories are my only children, there’s always something going on that makes it difficult to find writing time. Or yoga time. Or cooking time (can I borrow your hubby? I’ll give him back in time for bed, I promise). Or time for anything else that actually nurtures me. I’ve never taken Debbie’s advice because … oh yeah, because I’m not a middle of the night person either! However, if you promise it only took a couple of weeks to adjust … might be worth a shot.
Can’t wait ’til the next book is out.
Lorena
Lorena, you can borrow my husband. Will you do his laundry, too?
LOL. What? Such a paragon of a man doesn’t do his own laundry? Sigh. Sorry, thanks for the offer, but no…
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Rocki~
Thank-you so much for playing with us today!!
I literally LOL-ed at your 5 y.o. having said, “No screaming when Mommy’s on a client.”
My 4 y.o asks, ‘Are your stories coming out, Mommy?” like water might out of a faucet.
Or, plaintively, “Are you a deadline, Mommy?”, knowing it might mean a little extra Berenstain Bears TV.
Why, yes. Some days I *feel* like a deadline. Thanks for asking.
Regarding the value of The Door….I totally agree. Iam learning this. My little guy is only 4, & he’s an only child, so I don’t feel I can shut a door on him just yet, but when hubby is home on the weekends, or for an hour after dinner, I do write.
And…it just doesn’t work if my son can see me. It feels (to both of us) like I’m ignoring him. Much less loving than simply being ‘gone’ in his mind for an hour or so.
Regarding the line that lets you know your writing time is almost up… such as, “I’m melting” in Wizard/Oz, which let you know you have about 1 more page left…
My son calls out, “Can I listen to the music at the end?” Before the show is even over. Oh, certainly, yes! Listen to ALL the music.
Regarding getting up early . . . I am NOT a morning person. And thanks to you and Debbie Macomber for reminding me that I have to work for what I want. It doesn’t come easy, probably isn’t supposed to.
I have an opportunity to make the dream of a lifetime come true–my first book is ocming out in May. The next book is out the following spring, and an option book under contract. Opportunity. What do I want ot do with it?
I will start getting up earlier.
Regarding ‘tricks of the trade”… I try to give my son a sense of what I do, even at a young age, to enlist his support, rather than just his cooperation or obedience.
Ex: I show him ‘real’ books, and say ‘That’s what Mommy’s doing. You help me write books when you let me focus. And one day, you can write books too, if you want.”
His reply? “I like pictures. Does your book have pictures?”
Oh, wow. I hope not.
Thanks for the pep talk!!!
~Kris
Kris, wonderful note! Congrats on the multi-book deal and option. And those adorable kids! This job (and that one) is not easy – no doubt about it. It’s hard on so many levels – not just time management, but the creation of a rich, textured, well-plotted, fast-paced novel with unforgettable characters and a surprise villain and emotionally-charged scenes and clever banter and…..you get the idea. Some days it feels impossibly difficult. And some days it’s just the most fun you can have in a chair.
Thanks again for inviting me to this great new blog. What an awesome concept – I predict a huge success!
I’ll take your book with pics Kris *wink*
Great Interview! I am a Bullet Catcher fan – I love all of them. While I am not a writer, I am an independent contractor and work from home. I use my cell phone for business so that when I am working I do not answer my home phone. My family knows to only call my cell phone for emergencies.
Thank you! So glad you’re a fan, Sonya!
Being a newly published author and living in a two bedroom apartment, it’s a struggle. I type on my laptop. I got an hour of quiet this morning and yes I should have been typing. I just got to enjoy the quiet to refresh myself. next time I’ll write. lol
I stick headphones on and type to a song or songs as the case may be so that I can drown out the noise around me. I write by hand and would do a lot of it before I would clock in for work. lol I do my best writing at night. I am a night owl.
I know some very, very successful night-owls. It can work – just know when your brain is wired for creativity.
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Hi Rocki!! Thanks so much for a wonderful post… although I think I may have to hide this from my husband, who just yesterday told me to add the MamaWriters RSS feed to his internet page so he could see what the fuss was about.
Why am I hiding it? Because he is constantly telling me, the VERY non-morning person, to get up earlier. I stay up pretty late, I’m a night owl so it’s not uncommon for me to be up until 1am many nights (most). But mornings? I’m generally lucky to be coherent enough to walk.
How did you train yourself to manage mornings, much less be productive? Is this in addition to staying up late?
But you are 100% right — how bad do I want it? It’s up to me and like you, I want it *bad.*
Thank you for the well-timed kick in the rear.
Note to Jeannie’s husband: Keep up the good work! And make the coffee before you go to bed at night, honey, and set the alarm for 5:00.
Just kidding! You can tell him yourself. It didn’t take long to adjust. And I remember the first time I put my feet on the floor at 4:45, I almost laughed. (But was too tired.) Because it seemed RIDICULOUS to be getting up with the moon was the light that guided my steps. I felt downright silly getting coffee and turning on the computer and squinting in the blinding light of my opening screen.
But it was the best thing I ever, ever did. It took about a week not to “hurt” when the alarm went off. As the page count mounted, so did my enthusiasm. It took about three weeks to feel natural. When I’m on a tight deadline now, I go right back to that schedule.
I did go to be earlier – ten o’clock at the very latest. I need my 7 hours!!
Try it! You might like it! Don’t make me email your husband!
Hi Rocki, thanks, you are a godsend. I have been trying for a long time to convince her that she needed to make adjustments to her life to accomplish what she wants to do. She is so incredibly talented and I know that she is going to take the writing world by storm, it is just a matter of time. So the biggest issue in our lives is finding her the time she needs to succeed. But like it has been a difficult task getting her to listen to me, what do I know anyways, I’m just a man.:)
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Jeannie’s husband~

We do feel for you, you know, that fact that you’re just a man.
What a great supportive husband you are! And with a wife like Jeannie, well, looks like you both did a great job picking each other out.
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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To Beth C. and Tiffany~
Re: saying No to requests:
It’s so hard, isn’t it?
I’ve found (the hard way) that if *I* call it work, people tend to think of it that way.
To my hubby I say “I’m writing,” and he totally gets it.
But to everyone else, I say, ‘I have to work today.” And they say, “Okay.”
Thanks for stopping in, Rocki!
Great advice – substitute the “other” job plus a puppy for the kids and every bit of it still applies, since my girls are both driving (yikes! And just had the first fender bender…)
I working through the Bullet Catchers and enjoying them, can’t wait for the next one.
Cathy
Wow – I went to a (painfully long) eye docs appointment and look at all this action! I am going back up to reply to everyone, but a sweeping THANK YOU for all the props, the BC fans, the friends — old and new — stopping by and the support from the Mamawriters. This is way better than the eye docs and if I can stand the dialated vision, I’m going upthread right now to reply!
Rocki
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Roxanne – What a great post. Wonderful advice! I just recently found a spot in my home (in the basement with a space heater LOL) but it’s the best thing I’ve done yet for my writing career. A closed door is so important.
And I had to laugh at your Barbie doll with back story comment. So funny!
You know, my daughter still remembers their backstories. When we were cleaning out her room recently, we found a stash of Barbies and she picked up one and said, “Oh, this is the girl who couldn’t get a date for the prom but ended up going with her brother and having the best time.” I laughed so hard, I cried.
Then I thought….there’s a book in there.
My older daughter isn’t into barbies she actually likes writing, but my younger one has just gotten into it. I might try your backstory barbie idea
It will make it more fun!
Oh, and I forgot to mention, that is hilarious that she remembered that!!! Aren’t their little minds like sponges??? When she gets older, say in HS or college, she is going to look back and think how amazing it was that you played like that with her. I know I would!
I love this post!! Thanks you so much for sharing. It is so easy to forget a mama writer needs to set boundaries.
LOL. This article was fantastic…I can totally relate…my kids are about the same age….but I didnt catch the writing bug till they were older….and I was fed up with my current career path. I can always add good ones to these discussions though….because on top of having 3 boys within four years, one of my boys had full blown autism at one point. Wait for it—-its a good un.
Kids with autism often ‘perseverate” meaning they think or say things over and over….well, you havent lived till youve seen the movie OPEN SEASON and your kid with the photographic and tape recorder memory repeats the line…”Its not a sunburn, its a moonburn—ouch!” a hundred million times as you try to plink out a sentece that makes sense!!! LOLOLOL!!!!
Cheers to all moms everywhere with the drive enough to give writing a go.
rr smythe
God bless you, RR, for your special challenges. I know several writer moms with autistic children, and their patience, love, and amazing sense of humor has made them even better writers. LOL on the moonburn…but maybe not while you are plinking!
Thank you so much for this Roxanne,
and Renee for the wonderful interview.
I decided to leave my carreer to stay at home for my children and it is such a hard think, most people out there are not that supportive of that decision and see it as a lazy cope-out.
Yet now I know that is the best decision I did
I do love the 2 hrs early writing. I wanted this so bad that I write my first manuscript between 5 and 7 everymorning before everyone got up. The only time I could find for myself !
Thanks again for a great article
It is a GREAT decision, Marie-Claude. Nothing lazy about it. I love the 5-7 writing hours!
Hi Rocki!
Great blog! You already know what a big fan of your books I am and I love recommending you to friends and customers of our bookstore.
You not only are a fabulous writer but one of the nicest people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting and chatting with over the years.
Looking forward to your next book. They are always a winner to me!
Hugs
Deb
Hi Deb!!! You are so sweet to me. I know you are a huge fan and have turned so many readers on to my books. Someone asked about promotion upthread? The very best promotion is a handsold book by an enthusiastic bookseller. That’s the NUMBER ONE thing that takes writers up to the next rung.
I can’t thank you enough for all you do, Deb!
Wild wave, Rocki!!! Jen will bring your signed books to me this weekend.
She planned on traveling here for Christmas but we had a blizzard so she decided to wait until Valentine’s Day. I can’t wait to read your beautiful words.
Hugs, Blue/Nancy
Nancy/Blue! You’ve been waiting a loooooong time for those books! I met your daughter in September on the Levy Tour, right? I hope they’re worth the wait!
Great to see you here!
First, hi Jeannie. I’m Marilyn from the mods group.
And I too should adopt a “No Roxanne in Bed” rule. I’ve been known to stay up until 4 AM to finish a Bullet Catcher book. I also postponed leaving on a trip last summer so I could run by the bookstore and pick up the copy of NOW YOU DIE that had just come in for me.
I have written NADA today. Kinda hard with hammering and sawing and drilling in the attic. And I just walked into the kitchen to find one of them had stepped off a rafter and almost come thru the ceiling. ARGH. That means cutting out the sheet rock, putting in new, mudding it, sanding, more mud, more sanding (and dust, dust, dust) and most likely painting the entire ceiling. Of course I won’t be doing this but I’ll have to live with it. I feel as if I’ve been living under a dark cloud for 10 days — car battery died at the doctor’s office, computer woes, bad cold, and a good friend finding out her husband is cheating.
Marilyn – remember the time you TEXTED me at 3:00 AM when you finished THRILL ME TO DEATH? You almost scared me to death! LOL. You’re the best.
So, are any of the flooring guys hot???
Marilyn, you poor thing! Sounds like you’ve had a rough week!!! And your poor friend, what a shame!
I hope you have some good books to read!
Funny story about the flooring guys. I’d mentioned to a friend we needed to get our attic floored and she gave me the name of the guy who did hers. We called him and had him come over to do an estimate. It looked good, so we hired him to do the job. We learned he is a retired cop and figured how much safer could you get with home repairs than that. Years ago one member of a repair crew stole my engagement ring from the house.
Back to the story. He shows up to do the work and says he’s brought his son and another guy to help him. The son looks at me and says “Are you X’s mom?” Turns out the former cop’s son and my son are friends from high school. One summer the two of them along with a couple other guys each chipped in $20 and bought an old Buick Electra. It was a land yacht and they worked on it in my garage. They spray painted the bumpers gold and rode around town in what they’d dubbed the Pimp Mobile.
So are the flooring guys hot? Under the circumstances, no. LOL!
And yeah, I remember the night I texted you at 3 AM. I figured if I was still awake you should be too.
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Hi Marilyn!! Great to see you here.
I’m with Rocki…any of the guys hot? I mean, all in the name of err, research of course.
Rocki, great post! This is one of those print out and re-read from time to time.
I’m not yet published, but I do give myself deadlines. They may not be quite a hard as an editors, but I figure I better get used to them now.
I also reward myself for meeting the little deadlines within the big one. I make sure one night a week is mine and Science Guys. We may do nothing more than have a glass a wine and watch the Science channel (see the pattern there). But he feels special and the other times I come in from work and head straight to my office he’s cool.
Vicki, I’d be honored to be a print out! Hope it helps! Wine and science….uh, I think we could be *very* good friends. Srsly.
I understand the “husband who shops and cooks concept.” One of my favorite writers in my writing’ group is constantly telling me, “You have a wife. I want one, too,” explaining that she has to be a wife and mother at all times, even while being a writer. I jokingly responded that I still rise at 4:30 every day to write. She responded, “So do I. What’s your point?”
Great post!
Go you, Walt. We love the guys writing romance. I often call my husband “my wife” and he answers to Mr. St. Claire. (And, believe me, that is not his name, it’s mine.) Thanks for commenting!
Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Walt~

Great to see you, and LOL! Yea, I gotta get me a wife too!
~Kris
Is there a waiting list for wives? I want one too…lol
This is a great site and you have one of my favorite authors here today.,……hi sweetpea! If you haven’t read her Bullet Catchers or her contemporary romances you really must!
Waving to “the other Marilyn”, I remember those days remodeling. I need my downstairs painted and have been holding off. Hang in there!
Hey Marilyn!! Wonderful to see you here ~ and thanks for all that kindness and love. You are another “word of mouth” queen who has done so much to help me find new readers!
Hope all is well with you!!
My littlest (age 2) only just started going to bed at a reasonable hour. She was both a night owl and an early riser! Is that evil or what? Whenever I got up early, it activated that Momdar you guys were talking about 50 comments ago. And I learned the hard way you ignore toddlers at your own risk…
It’s wonderful how much more productive I’ve been at night the past month. Hubby feels deprived, but me getting up earlier just means the kids get up earlier, and then NOBODY is happy. I keep promising myself older children will be easier when it comes to balancing Mom and Writer, not to mention Wife.
Housekeeper went out the door a LONG time ago
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Twitter: KrisKennedy
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Jody W~
LOL. Yes, I happily gave up the ‘housekeeper title awhile ago. Or, at least the ‘good housekeeper’ title.
Wait a second. Did I ever even HAVE that title?
Now I just have an *excuse* not to clean well. LOL
~Kris
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Wonderful and doable advice, Roxanne, which I need to adhere to. As for The Bullet Catchers, I’d have to start with the first one to be in order. Law enforcement types and military guys are my favorite heroes.
Julie