It was Tuesday and I was pumped to add at least a thousand words to my current work in progress. The scenes were outlined, and were still vivid images in my mind. I’d just agreed to do a “Challenge Week” with a few of my fellow writers. “Five thousand words,” I’d boldly promised. No problem, right? Heck, I’d once written two thousand words a day for three months straight. How hard could it be?
And the day begins:
6:45 AM: After pushing the snooze button twice, I stumble out of bed and wake up my littlest guys. Elementary school starts an hour later than high school so my two teenage sons should be out the door and on the bus. They’re responsible kids, I think to myself. How lucky am I that I get to sleep in a little later rather than having to drag them out of bed.
6:48 AM: My second oldest son walks up the stairs with his backpack on his shoulder and a guilty look on his face. “Mom, I missed the bus again,” he says.
No problem, I assure myself. Minor setback. I speed him off to school just before the bell rings and head back home in time to get my youngest sons out the door to their bus.
8:00 AM: I don’t even consider changing out of my sweats and t-shirt. What’s the point? I’m not planning on going anywhere, and it would only take away time from my writing. And, today, I have ton to do. So, I scarf down some oatmeal, take my vitamins, remind myself to drink more water, grab a cup of coffee, and march downstairs to the ice-cold basement.
8:30 AM: I turn on the space heater and silently thank my hubby for buying me one without me even asking. (Isn’t he sweet?) I wrap myself in my ski jacket and sit down in front of my laptop.
The email temptress quickly comes calling, luring me to sign in to see if anyone’s tried to reach me in the past twelve hours. “Shouldn’t I write first?” I ask myself. I’ve made the mistake of falling blindly into the email trap many times. One email leads to one task, which leads to another. Myspace. Facebook. Twitter. Numerous blogs. Yahoo groups up the yahoo. I have friend requests, comments to approve, posts to read and comment on, friends and critique partners to communicate with. It’s all there. I know it.
But I’m too weak to deny the temptress. She’s too powerful. I sign in and up pops 33 new emails. I knew it!
I skim past several, delete a few, and come upon a message from my Wild Rose Press editor. My galleys for Bewitching You are in. Yes!! I email her back to thank her and promise I’ll get right on it.
No problem. I can still get in a little writing this week. Reading through the galleys shouldn’t take too long, right?
Another email catches my eye. My editor from Cerridwen Press says the first round edits for Angel Vindicated are ready and waiting for me. Yay!! I hadn’t expected these for at least a few more weeks, but this is great news. Things are moving along faster than I’d anticipated. I email her back, thank her, and tell her I’ll get right on it.
No problem. Except now I can’t commit to writing anything new this week or maybe even next week. Darn. My hero and heroine are going to hate me for this. They were so close to realizing they love each other, too. Ah well. Maybe I’ll get in a couple hundred words a day, at least.
I swallow my pride and email my writer’s group to tell them I can’t commit to the Challenge Week after all. The unexpected has happened.
11:30 AM: As usual, I’ve given myself over to the email temptress, replying to everyone, commenting, friending, tweeting, Yahooing, posting, whatever. It’s all done and now I feel guilty because the morning is over and I have yet to start reading through my galleys.
I take a quick lunch break, remind myself to drink more water, grab a Diet Coke and head back downstairs.
12:00 PM: I start reading…and, okay, intermittently, I do succumb to the lure of the temptress. I mean, what if she’s right and there’s an important email waiting for me?
12:30 PM: I receive a desperate email from CP (critique partner) about a recent rejection. She needs emotional support like we all do.
No problem!
3:00 PM: My teenage sons get home from school but are nice enough to help themselves to the refrigerator and, hopefully, do their homework. I yell hello and get back to work.
3:30 PM: Hubby comes down to say hi.
4:00 PM: The little guys get home and I’ve only read through a portion of the galleys. How is that possible? Hmmm… My hubby gets them settled in and I decide to print out the rest of the galleys to take upstairs with me. It’s a good idea to read it in hard copy, too, right?
The printer runs out of ink ten pages short. Ergh! I curse HP for ripping me off and decide to quickly read through those ten pages on my laptop before heading up.
No problem.
5:00 PM: I grab the thick stack of papers and run upstairs, feeling guilty for not welcoming my guys home right away like I usually do. I give anyone who allows it hugs and ask them how their day was. Grumbling ensues. “Mom, we don’t have anything to eat. When are you going to the grocery store?” “Mom, we need Valentine’s Day cards.” “Mom, I need a shoebox to make my Valentine’s Day box.” “Mom, what are you bringing to my Valentine’s Day party?”
Freaking Valentine’s Day. Really? Where’s the love?
Anyway, after trying to pass the grocery shopping responsibility to my hubby, he gently reminds me that he has a meeting with the Youth Baseball Board. Oh, yeah. I forgot. Again.
6:30 PM: After scrounging a dinner together for the fam, I change into jeans, then load up the van with 3 of my 4 sons and head off to Satan’s Lair…oh, I mean, Wal-Mart Supercenter. The evil place where I spend way, way, WAY too much money. More guilt. Lots of it.
8:00 PM: We put away the van-full of groceries, and I help the little ones get their V-Day cards and snacks together. I promise we’ll finish everything else the next day.
No problem.
9:00 PM: The teenagers are off to their room and the little ones are in bed, so I sit down to watch The Biggest Loser with the hubby. Go pink or blue team! Thank God for DVR.
11:00 PM: I’m exhausted. I look over at the stack of galleys lying on the kitchen counter, and I laugh. Not gonna happen tonight. What was I thinking?
Then I start worrying about other things. My edits. My writing, or lack thereof. I wonder how I’m going to come up with a post for the Mama Writers blog. I’m scheduled for Friday and I don’t have a clue what to write. Everyone else’s posts have been brilliant and insightful. Oh, crap. I’m going to sound like a complete dork and ruin my writing career with one single post.
I take a calming breath, turn to my hubby, and tell him my dilemma. He suggests I write about a day like this. “Good idea,” I tell him.
No problem.
Viola Estrella
www.violaestrella.com




ROLFMAO!!!!! Viola, wonderful, brilliant and hilarious post!!!
I need to drink more water too *she says reaching for her iced caramel machiato from starbucks*
Your day sounds like mine!!! It’s 9:47, and I’ve been up since aroun 5am doing nothing
I have galleys to review, a newsletter to write, wips to work on, chapter duties, a class to teach, critiques, reviews, a whole house to clean, I need to excercise, and somewhere in there I have to head over to Satan’s Lair where I also spend WAY too much money!
Where does the time go and why does the internet have to be such a time suck? I am now going on 3 months late on my self inflicted deadline for a novella, which really REALLY should have been done already, I mean I started it MONTHS ago…
Anyways, loved the post and good luck today!!!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Thanks Eliza! I’m going to need luck today. The kids are off school because of a “Teacher development day.” AKA- Deal with your own kids for a change day.
Have fun at Satan’s Lair.
Mine are off Monday and Tuesday….I feel for ya!
On Monday our kids are out of school for Presidents Day. I’m already dreading it.
Yep, I’ve had many a day like this. Suddenly I look at the clock and wonder where the time has gone and what I’ve gotten done, which is always less than what I SHOULD have gotten done.
Then the guilt ensues… Sigh.
The dreaded GUILT!!! I’m feeling it now as an hour after I originally posted a reply here I’m still checking emails…I need to go clean my younger daughter’s room, you can’t even walk in there. Why is it that toddlers pull everything off the shelves and out of their dressers and then pile them in the middle of the room???
Ugh…I need to do laundry too…but I’m sure in the next hour I’ll still be online, lol
Twitter: violaestrella
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Yes, the guilt is awful. But, really, we’re networking, right? We’re building a name for ourselves. Well, that’ll be my story. LOL!
Hi Viola!
Ah, the email temptress…she’s so seductive, isn’t she? I really hate that witch, LOL. One of my CPs has been holding herself to only 45 minutes of internet a day. Personally, I don’t know how she does it. But think of what we’d be able to accomplish. Noon finds me almost every day without having done a single word of writing. Not sure how this happens, but it rarely fails.
Wonderful post, so very entertaining, and so very, very true!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Wow, that takes some restraint. I bought myself an egg timer just for that purpose and I swear I’m going to use it one of these days!
Thanks, Helen…but.my restraint abandoned me this week, LOL But next week, I’ll be back timing myself, because I can’t seem to just surf for a couple minutes. Next thing you know, an hour’s gone by…
I know this is evil of me…[evil, evil, evil]…but it is SUCH a relief to know everyone else is as addicted to the internet time suck as I am!!! I’ve found the only way I can get any writing done anymore is to NOT sign on to AOL. No matter how into my story I am, when I hear that little “click” sound informing me another email has dropped into my life, I just CAN’T make myself ignore it!!
Thanks for making me feel normal, Vi! [Well, as normal as possible!]
~ Melissa
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Melissa,
I don’t get that click, but that would drive me mad. Yeah, how can you resist that? I’m bad enough as it is.
LOL what a GREAT post! So funny! I can totally relate to the email temptress. She’s a seductive one, isn’t she? I also love the CP part
And why do we writers have so much guilt on a perpetual basis? lol
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Patrice,
That’s a good question. We’re the hardest working people I know. Add a full-time job or a few kids, and we might be considered saints.
LOL, that’s why I choose not to try writing or much of anything else while I still have kids at home. Too much distraction. Bless those that can, cuz I have to have reading material.
Deidre
Twitter: violaestrella
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Thanks for stopping by, Deidre!!
I write a lot but I do know how it goes.
My son is always like mommy. I swear I hear that a million times a day.
Twitter: violaestrella
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Oh my gosh, Anne, I think Mom is the most used word at my house. LOL!
That was great Viola! Exactly what life is like for a Mama Writer. Now get those edits done so you can get back to the writing.
Twitter: violaestrella
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Thanks Cindy! Enjoy your edits and writing time.
Thanks for the post Viola! So, nice to know I’m not the only one suckered in by the email temptress. I woke up this morning to 118 emails in my inbox. Thank you Valentine’s Day! I had to do some strategic deleting from my reader’s group to pair it down to the all important 40. Hehe!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Emma,
Strategic deleting. LOL! I love that. Sometimes it has to be done.
Twitter: silverwriter
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LOL! Oh, Viola, I remember those days and I only had one kiddo. She’s in college now. But living at home. Now if I could just teach her how to cook and do laundry!
I can ignore emails. Mostly. I can. Really. My demise comes from the Google Reader. All these blogs. I must read. I must reply. I must check for other replies. Editing? Writing? Research? HOUSEWORK? No time. No time. Ha!
Thanks for the water reminder. *drinks another cup of coffee* Have a great day!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Silver,
It’s so tough to remember to drink water when there’s so many other good things out there. But I guess I have to do it or else I’ll dehydrate. Whatever! lol!
LOL Viola I can totally relate!!!!!! If I spent as much time writing as I did emailing I would have 15 novels completed by now.
Don’t worry about the water, caffeine is more nutritious!! Really, it is.
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Holly!
I totally believe you! What about alcohol? Can we add wine in there as well?
Absolutely!!! As a matter of fact this is the perfect time of day for a bloody mary
Twitter: violaestrella
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Well, what the heck am I doing drinking water? LOL! Thanks for your wisdom, Holly, and for setting me straight.
Viola! What a wonderful post. I don’t know how you do it. You definitely put a crimp in my whining!! LOL. I don’t have the family responsibilities you do, and I still find myself getting sucked into various cyberworlds and not doing the things on my “to do” list (like writing). When my son was small (he’s grown now), I wasn’t trying to write regularly. I went to school full time, worked a couple of part time jobs (one as a singer in a rock and roll band, which was great because my son had a babysitter and never knew I was gone) and didn’t bother with having a personal life. It was insanity. Your post reminded me of how it used to be (which makes me smile and want to scream). Hugs, sweetie. Enjoy it all. It passes so quickly.
Lynda
Twitter: violaestrella
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Thanks Lynda!! I love every second of it even though it’s crazy.
And can I just say how cool it is that you used to be a singer in a rock band?!!
Yeah, it’s 10:23 and I’m supposed to be at the grocery store…darn Temptress anyway LOL. The day you described is every day here–how does that happen?!
I wisely did my Friday blog post last night and dated it this morning
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Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Kelly,
Yep, she’s evil. Pure evil.
The Temptress Satan’s Lair? LMAO.
So very descriptive and so very, very accurate.
The evil woman tempts us all. You are not the only one to cave into her demands.
I feel comforted to know I am not alone. Your day sounds just as hectic as mine. How do we do it?
Wonderful post!!!!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Thanks Tricia!
How do we do it? I don’t know. We’re women. We have super powers, like the ability to find things that no one else can find. And we can multi-task, and concentrate under the noisiest of circumstances. LOL! Right?
Viola, I loved your post! I can so relate, even though I’m not a mom. But with my day job and freelance editing – not to mention fitting in spending time with friends and family and other writers – my writing time seems to shrink more every day. I feel like the hamster running perpetually on a wheel, and I can’t jump off! The email temptress has sucked me in more than I want to admit, but I downloaded a timer that I program for 20 minute writing bursts before I take a break. I’m not always successful, but I keep trying.
And whoa, four boys! After helping babysit one toddler going through the “terrible twos” last night, you have my admiration!
Twitter: violaestrella
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Thanks Cari!
A downloadable timer sounds like a great idea!! Where did you find it?
This is the day in the life of me as well. I never can see why I accomplish so much less then I want to. I guess that this is why…
Becca
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Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Becca,
Yes, I’m learning moms like us have a lot in common!
Twitter: wiremamma
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Viola!!! I’m late – VERY late in responding to your BRILLIANT blog – ((stands, applauding!))
No wonder we all get along so well — we’re all being seduced by that wicked temptress and her cousins — facebook, yahoo loops, and im!
I boldly ignored e-mail this morning, and managed to add a page and a half to my WIP before DH and I discovered our water heater blew up during the night.
There went the whole day. We must be vigilant! We must focus! hang on. I’ve got an e-mail to answer…
~Ashley
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Ashley,
You’re not late. And good for you for cutting out writing time before checking with the temptress. lol! Sorry about your water heater!!
Twitter: wiremamma
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V
This is part of my new strategy to take charge of my writing time – and compartmentalize work, writing, family, etc.
I’ll let you know how it goes. AS of right now, I’m supposed to be updating a spreadsheet. Uh-oh! But, I’ve already counted today as a loss!
Did I mention I’ve been trying to eat lunch for about 2 hours? And it’s time to get the kids! TGIF!
Ash
Twitter: violaestrella
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Trying to eat lunch for two hours? lol!! I’m afraid I never have a hard time finding a moment to eat.
Let me know how your strategy goes!!
Too damn funny! What a brilliant view of every-mama-writers life. And the e-mail temptress is quite the vixen. She gets her grips in me early and often I’m sorry to say.
Twitter: violaestrella
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Hi Catherine! She gets you too, huh? Oh boy.
Viola,
You have this down to a tee. This is everyday for me (ah, minus the extra three boys you have lol). It seems like I can hardly ever get away from the e-loops, blogs, MySpace, general surfing, etc…
I tell myself I’m warming up my Muse, but by the time she is good and ready to work for me, I am too tired to concentrate on writing
Thanks for a fabulous peek into a Mama Writer’s life!
Renee
This blog is an evil temptress! I love it, though. It’s so exactly on point with my life!
“Evil Temptress” – that is EXACTLY right
Viola! Perfectly funny. I can completely identify with your day. Little insights like this into your writing style make me want to read more of your work.
Clare
Hi Viola,
I totally agree with everything you said and fall into the temptresses arms frequently. This morning has been pretty good. I have done three pages before I logged on to the web…now I fear I am through tho.
My problem is my 7 year old. He is sitting there watching cartoons this morning just THINKING of questions he can ask me to make me take off the headphones and answer for him. (I find that if I have the 80′s channel on, I can pretty much zone out the other stuff around me.)
Anyway, thanks for the giggle!
ValerieO (who is sitting patiently waiting for DH to return from Starbucks
Viola,
Ahh, the ole e-mail temptress…I know her well!
:0)Tiff