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Mamas Focusing: Closing Up Shop

July 28, 2010

As most of you know, at the end of June 2010, MamaWriters logged their last blog, at least for now.

The blog had fabulous potential to support and touch many women, readers and writers alike, but its inherent specialness was also part of its fatality switch: all of us have jobs, kids, and a writing career we’re building.  None of us had the time to give the blog so it could fulfill its potential.

So, at least for now, we’re taking a respite.  Doing what we women/wives/moms/writers/readers tell each other to do all the time:

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Take care of yourself.

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Maybe you can do it all. But maybe not all at the same time.   And who knows, maybe you don’t even want to.

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Slow down.  The rush is in your mind.

Be flexible.

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Be willing to change.   The way it was isn’t the way it has to always be.

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Be willing to try.  If it’s not the right thing at the right time, you’ll know.

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Get offline.  Go write.  Go for a walk.  Go play.

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Write more.  Your Muse might be lonely.

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Hug your kids and grandkids and husbands and partners–and dogs–more.

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Focus on the things you chose, rather than the things thrust upon you.

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Aim for Exceptional.  Don’t settle for mediocrity.

Be willing to do a couple things fabulously well, rather than a hundred things passably well.

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Rest more.  Stop being willing to be exhausted by anything but your family and your calling.

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Your hair looks fine.  Find the fire in your belly.

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Have more fun.

Smell more roses.

Read more.

Write more.

Love more.

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So, that’s what we’ll be doing.

In the meantime . . . the community features, accessible via the sidebar, and the MamaWriters Yahoo group, are all still active, if you want to check them out.  Click through the blogs, and use the tags, and find great ideas and maybe some rejuvenation, knowing their moms and writers are out there, doing what you’re doing or what you’ve done before.

Click through to any of the blog entries for more information on that particular MamaWriter, and information on how to contact her via her website.  I speak for all of us when I say, we’d love to have you drop us an email, or say ‘hi’ on Twitter or Facebook!

And keep your ears open: one day we might be back, in some different form, because who knows what the future holds?

But mostly, a big thank-you to all of you, the mama-writer-readers who put love at the center of your lives.

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Kris Kennedy writes sexy, adventure-filled medieval romances.  Come by the website and sign-up for the newsletter or just drop a line saying Hi!  Her most recent release, THE IRISH WARRIOR, won RWA’s® prestigious Golden Heart® Award for Best Historical Romance in 2008.  It released June, 2010.  Read a sexy excerpt here! Her next book, DEFIANT, releases from Pocket Books May 2011.


Our Last Special Guest- Loucinda McGary!

June 30, 2010

MamaWriters are thrilled to have Loucinda McGary here as our last (for now) special guest!

Her second book, The Wild Irish Sea, releases next week from Sourcebooks, and look – there’s an Irish hero!  :-)

Please help us welcome Loucinda McGary.

My Mom Writes “Those” Kind of Books

My son was still a toddler when I made my first attempt at writing a novel. Lucky for me, he was always very good about sleeping through the night, so my earliest attempts at fiction writing happened after I put him down for the night. I’d rush into my bedroom and write until my husband (who worked swing shift at the time) arrived home shortly after midnight.

Alas, that early tome was destined to sleep forever with the dust bunnies under the bed, but I continued to write in fits and starts all though my son’s early years. He never really knew anything else and accepted that his mom ‘wrote stories’ as a simple fact of life. Then, when he was in high school I made my first attempt at writing a romance novel (it too lives with the dust bunnies and for good reason). By now, I was a divorced single mom with a less than stellar dating life, so my son thought it inexplicably weird that I would want to write about romance. But he shrugged it off, and like most teens, totally ignored me and my interests in anything.

When I finally sold my first novel, he was happy. But I think that was mainly because he’d seen all the frustrations and anger and tears I’d gone through with all the rejections that preceded the sale. My son has never read much fiction (he doesn’t really like chocolate either – GO FIGURE!), so he never asked to read any of my work, and that was fine with me. I did name a very minor character after him in my first published novel, The Wild Sight, and he did read the couple of pages on which that character appeared. He was actually pleased with his namesake character and pronounced the whole thing “cool.” But that’s as much of any of my books as he has ever read, which is probably just as well.

There are some things you just do not want to know or even think about when it comes to your parent, and sex is definitely at the top of this list! Of course my son knows there are sex scenes in my books, and he is not above giving me a bit of razzing over the bare chested men on my covers. But he does not want to read a sex scene knowing that his mother wrote it, and quite honestly, I don’t want him too. Can you say, “Awkward?” Or as he used to tell me when he was a teen, TMI (too much information)!

Recently my son decided to go back to college (my fingers are XXed this will help him find a J-O-B!), and is working toward a certificate in a field dominated by women. Most of his classmates are women as are his teachers, and yes, I know he considered this when he chose this course of study.

A couple of weeks ago, I joined three of my romance author friends in a book signing event at a local winery. The winery was actually about an hour’s drive from my house, so I asked my son if he would go with me, help me set up, and drive me home. And yes, I’m sure he considered the free wine tasting when he agreed. However, I was surprised on the drive over when he told me he had told one of his teachers and several of his classmates about the event. As I listened, he related how he told his teacher, “I’m helping my mom with a book signing this weekend.” He continued, “She asked, ‘Your mom wrote a book?’ and I told her you’d written several. Then she asked me what kind of books you write and I told her romantic suspense.” As I sat in stunned silence, he said, “I told her I’d bring her one of your book marks. Is that okay?”

It was all I could do not to shout and hug him! Instead, I controlled my exuberance and said, “Sure, and tell her I’ll gladly autograph a book for her.” Then, I very timidly asked, “She does realize I write ‘those’ kind of romance novels, doesn’t she?” He grinned and said, “Oh, I told her, and she can’t wait to read one.” He sounded as proud of me as I felt about him!

I shared my story for all you mom’s of young children who are trying to write and have a publishing career. Don’t worry that what you write might have a negative affect on your little ones. Some day, they will grow up, and the fact that they saw you working hard to achieve goals that were important to you will only be positive. It may take awhile, but trust me, someday they will be proud of you!

I’m giving away an autographed copy of my newest release, The Wild Irish Sea to one lucky commenter. Feel free to ask me questions about it!


What I’ve Learned

June 28, 2010

MamaWriters is coming to an end—for now. This is my very last post here and, as in life, if something I love ends—like a relaxing vacation that ends too quickly, a good friend who moves out of state or a brilliant book that leaves me wanting more—I try to look on the positive side, savor the memories, and remember all that I’ve gained from the experience. All that I’ve learned.

You might be wondering what the heck I could’ve learned from a blog written by a bunch of moms who just happen to be tackling one of the most difficult and challenging careers on the planet. From home!

Well, lemme just tell ya:

-Take care of yourself. You’ve earned it.  http://mamawriters.com/2009/09/put-on-your-mask-and-take-a-deep-breath/

-Sex is not a dirty word. http://mamawriters.com/2009/04/what-is-s-e-x/

-Mamahood is unpredictable but rewarding.  http://mamawriters.com/2009/02/mama-drama/

-Love comes from the most unexpected places. http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/my-valentine/

-Children follow our lead. http://mamawriters.com/2009/03/what-do-we-teach-our-kids-when-we/

-Feeling guilty? You’re not alone. http://mamawriters.com/2009/02/guilt-mothers-hold-the-market/

-Treasure the milestones. http://mamawriters.com/2010/05/milestones/

-Help! We can’t do it all. http://mamawriters.com/2010/02/when-you-are-the-one-who-does-it-all/

-We most certainly can do it all. http://mamawriters.com/2009/10/finding-time-making-time/

-Sometimes humor is the best way to go. http://mamawriters.com/2009/02/no-problem-a-day-in-the-life-of-a-mama-writer/

-Life is messy but oh-so good. http://mamawriters.com/2010/06/endings-and-beginnings-the-call-and-last-post-on-mamawriters/

-Our voices are unique. http://mamawriters.com/2009/02/finding-your-voice/

-To plot or to pants it? Every writer is different.  http://mamawriters.com/2009/08/plotters-vs-pantsers/

-Enjoy being a mom. The moments are priceless. http://mamawriters.com/2010/04/im-now-that-kind-of-mom/

Yep, I’m savoring these lessons and SO many more. What did you learn from the MamaWriters? Any favorite posts?

Viola Estrella – A proud mama and romance writer

www.violaestrella.com


Nothing Really Ends

June 25, 2010

That is something I’ve learned both in the course of life and being a writer.  Nothing really ends.

Oh, you can write The End to a story, but it doesn’t really.  Those characters stay with you and you get to come back to them again in revisions or edits, in reader comments and reviews and sometimes even in another story where you’ve picked up a secondary character to transform into hero or heroine. Nothing really ends.

In life, same thing.  When things seem like they are coming to a close or the end, they will always come back to you at just the right moments. Loved ones live on in memories, pictures and children.   Through remembered words of a wisdoms, songs, sights or smells.  Nothing really ends. 

Even jobs.  From each one you take experiences or lessons that help in the next one.  You find out things you are good at or not so good at, the type of people you enjoy working with and take from all of them a little something for the future.  Nothing really ends.

So even though Mamawriters is coming to an end….the valuable friendships, stories and knowledge we’ve gained from each other will stay with us always….because nothing really ends  :)

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Special Guest – Historical Romance Author Carrie Lofty

June 23, 2010

MamaWriters are excited to have special guest Carrie Lofty with us today.  Her debut book WHAT A SCOUNDREL WANTS came out late 2008, her second SCOUNDREL’S KISS released January ’10, and her latest, SONG OF SEDUCTION, just released this month from Carina Press.

Please help us welcome Carrie Lofty!

A Mama Writer’s Summer

As a child I remember eagerly counting down the days until summer vacation. Now, however, as a stay-at-home mom and professional author, I approach the long summer months with little eagerness. The adjustments I must make to my writing schedule are tremendous.

Please don’t get me wrong. I love my elementary-aged daughters desperately. If there was a way for them to be at home with me during the summer while I maintained my school-year writing pace, I’d be a happy camper.

Oh…speaking of camp!

For the fist time my daughters’ school is offering all-day summer camp. They’re excited because it means they’ll be doing themed courses on cooking, nature, running a lemonade stand, science, music, and drama. They’ll also get to spend more time with friends, because I’m generally pretty lousy at remembering to schedule non-school-related playdates.

Me? I’m excited for obvious reasons. I’m knee-deep in writing my next release from Carina Press, PORTRAIT OF SEDUCTION. In July I’ll be starting two new books: SHAMELESS, the Australian-set sequel to my upcoming Victorian romance, FLAWLESS, and MIDNIGHT, the second in the hot-n-dirty “Dark Age Dawning” trilogy of sexy apocalyptic shifter romances I’m co-writing with Ann Aguirre under the name Ellen Connor.

Less obvious reasons include keeping all of us from becoming complacent slobs. Camp will give us a reason to get up and out of the house each morning. Plus, I really love the hour after they first return home from school. They get to blather on about their days while I get to be a mommy–a mommy content in having accomplished (most of) what I’d wanted to do during their absence. Then we can hit the beach or walk to the playground.

Everyone wins!

I’ve learned that it’s all about balance, as is the case with most mommy-related issues. A bit of one-on-one time, a little structured learning and play, a few lazy hours of TV or Wii–the makings of an ideal summer. Now, rather than dreading the daily struggle between my professional obligations and spending quality time with my girls, I get to do both. That’s a summer vacation I can look forward to!

What are you doing this summer? Do you experience the same push-pull between your kids and your writing ambitions? How do you cope?

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